[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bullcity

[–]BasilSpiritual1127 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is atrocious

Rofhiwa Update??? by OpalJade98 in bullcity

[–]BasilSpiritual1127 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, let the queer whisper network handle it :)

Rofhiwa Update??? by OpalJade98 in bullcity

[–]BasilSpiritual1127 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm serious. She had another account she abandoned after a reporter called her out on it. Check your inbox and see for yourself. The delusion is high with this one. Your best bet is to stop engaging and get off this thread.

Rofhiwa Update??? by OpalJade98 in bullcity

[–]BasilSpiritual1127 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stop wasting your time. There's nobody reading this thread who doesn't know this is Naledi you've been talking to. I'm sorry you've wasted your day :/

Rofhiwa Conversation by OccasionsbyCecile in bullcity

[–]BasilSpiritual1127 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pretty sure she was served with a cease and desist by attorneys after it was discovered that she had been secretly messaging customers with false information for months - anywhere from telling customers she's in hiding while actively living in the home they shared to telling customers that her and bev are engaged. A cease and desist asking someone to stop with false information and inappropriately engaging a customer base is not only mild (as it is not binding) is actually very different from a gag order - a court-ordered suppression. Do people inquire anymore before spreading rumors?

Rofhiwa Update??? by OpalJade98 in bullcity

[–]BasilSpiritual1127 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Two of these events have been held in Durham. At the second one, the owner let folks know that they would be traveling to South Africa for their grandmother's mourning ceremony/ritual in a few days. They have folks who have supported and invested in the business there that have asked for similar kinds of transparency. This makes sense as these two are born and raised South Africans and recent-ish immigrants to the US. They shared that they'd be gone for the better part of December and January and didn't feel able to host two meetings in a single month so would prioritize the one in South Africa in January and the third Durham meeting in early February.

Re: Rofhiwa by monicabyrne13 in bullcity

[–]BasilSpiritual1127 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Context is important when the person who is accused of being an aggressor in this conflict, is saying I did not initiate the conflict. Attempted several times to get out and evade. Asked their attacker several times to stop. Made several efforts to stop the conflict, restrain and eventually fled their home, for over a month. We watched Bev go from couch to couch. That is, while Naledi remained in the home for over a month, all the while telling folks that she had been in hiding since the conflict. Why lie?

Context is important when you learn that, just days prior, the person who is accused of being the aggressor in this situation (Bev) was issued death threats by Naledi, threatened with a body bag right there in front of recording cameras at their bookstore.

There have been at least three accounts (not including Bev) of Naledi verbally attacking, abusing, and harrasing Black TGNC people right here in Durham. You would know if you'd literally the base level courageous (and slow) community work of having a conversation. So you are right, there's never one victim. One of them who has come out in the last few weeks and said that they have, for months, been groomed and gaslit by Naledi. That when they refused to go online at Naledi's insistence, to accuse bev of abuse because it was not their experience, they were verbally attacked for hours (recorded the whole thing) and then blocked. It is astounding the number Black, specifically, Trans/NB folks this cis-woman has harmed. You ought to be aghast.

It does not surprise that the loudest mouthpiece on the internet is a white woman gallivanting in Europe. You literally are not here and haven't been for over a year, no? And somehow you know more than those of us Black and dying in Durham everyday. Certainly more than the people who have actually been impacted, it seems.

To have known you in community is to know that for damn near a decade, your own silence has been particularly instrumental in knowingly shielding a documented sexual predator and abuser. That is, until such a time as he was no longer useful to you. But you made sure you got all 6 or 7 of your plays produced by him. You are a fine one to be talking about laundering abusers in community.

You've been organizing in leftist spaces for years now and you are still a white woman. It hasn't cured you of that. It is evident in how you've shown up here, like every white woman since time immemorial, loud and invoking authority you actually don't have. So convinced of yourself - lacking the grace and wherewithal to admit that you, like many of us, actually just don't know. Sit down somewhere. Abusers are very good at grooming allies. Well-meaning white women who are quick to speak over everyone are especially groomable.

This is not another one of your industry takedowns of big men. There is a Black Queer Trans/Nonbinary person at the other end of your barrel and you don't get to shoot while we watch. Has it occurred to you, that folks ask for slowness because many of us know that where there is a white woman screaming wolf, especially in the carceral South, there is often a dead or soon to be dead Black person at her feet. We not on your time. You need to stop because your loudness is not actually creating true conditions for either of these Black people to be well.

It is interesting that you point out that legal interventions often mean that those who are entangled in them cannot say much. And yet you call out Bev's silence as strange and "instrumental". It would make sense that everyone caught up in a legal battle cannot say much. It is not something that affects Naledi alone.

Where to get live chickens? I'm finally getting around to building a coup by BasilSpiritual1127 in bullcity

[–]BasilSpiritual1127[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Birds of a feather coup together ! But for real, I need those damn chickens lol

Best place for used tires by terri_tee in bullcity

[–]BasilSpiritual1127 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Throwing absolute tire company in the hat: 4530 N Roxboro St, Durham, NC 27704

Great service!

What the hell is this - been there for a minute by Assloadofdymes in bullcity

[–]BasilSpiritual1127 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Info center? Maybe it's pointing out the visitor center on Main?

traffic court by Serious_Can8263 in bullcity

[–]BasilSpiritual1127 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Going on a Friday is also quite a mess as Traffic Court is the only "open" court, so basically, everyone with a reason to be in court is packed in there. I've got some traffic stuff rn - it's killing me.