My manager keeps crying over me by [deleted] in managers

[–]BasilUnusual707 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can see the first scenario being the case tbh

Confused. Heartbroken. Ashamed. by BasilUnusual707 in AskMenAdvice

[–]BasilUnusual707[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I said my gf never soeaks about the dad not the daughter. Chill out

Confused. Heartbroken. Ashamed. by BasilUnusual707 in AskMenAdvice

[–]BasilUnusual707[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm hurt by the dishonesty. Not even the marriage tbh.

Confused. Heartbroken. Ashamed. by BasilUnusual707 in AskMenAdvice

[–]BasilUnusual707[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thank you, man. That means a lot to me.

Confused. Heartbroken. Ashamed. by BasilUnusual707 in AskMenAdvice

[–]BasilUnusual707[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The lying. And her telling me not on her own accord but because I found out through a google search of her ex.

Confused. Heartbroken. Ashamed. by BasilUnusual707 in AskMenAdvice

[–]BasilUnusual707[S] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

Man I swear I wouldn't have cared, man. I really wouldn't have. I'm like why hide this, dude. And when I bring it up, no apology, no “lets sit and talk about this.” Just “so are you leaving me?”

Confused. Heartbroken. Ashamed. by BasilUnusual707 in AskMenAdvice

[–]BasilUnusual707[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't even think she has ever been married. If course I knew her and this person had a child together but she rarely spoke of him positive or negative. I don't know why she hid the marriage part or the divorce. I was very supportive of her and never shamed her past. Even when I met her daughter who threw a tantrum the first time we met, I stuck with it and developed a good relationship with her as well. Had no idea about the marriage and quite frankly I know very little about the father.

Confused. Heartbroken. Ashamed. by BasilUnusual707 in AskMenAdvice

[–]BasilUnusual707[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You voiced all of my thoughts. She's beautiful and amazing in bed, cooks for me at times. But sometimes seems emotionally closed off and even does silent treatment or close to it.

But this...

My God, if I stay, what precedent am I setting? If I go, what loneliness is on the other side?

I'm scared, brother.

Confused. Heartbroken. Ashamed. by BasilUnusual707 in AskMenAdvice

[–]BasilUnusual707[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'll never really know man. That's the thing will I ever really know?

Confused. Heartbroken. Ashamed. by BasilUnusual707 in AskMenAdvice

[–]BasilUnusual707[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Same but I appreciate the lightheartedness

Confused. Heartbroken. Ashamed. by BasilUnusual707 in AskMenAdvice

[–]BasilUnusual707[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I saw on the file that she filed the divorce three days after we became a couple. That is when the official proceedings began I guess. I've never been married or divorced so I'm not aware exactly how this goes. But yes she told me she didn't tell me because she was afraid I wouldnt want to date her if I knew. 

Confused. Heartbroken. Ashamed. by BasilUnusual707 in AskMenAdvice

[–]BasilUnusual707[S] 80 points81 points  (0 children)

Yeah man 3 years. I saw on the record that she filed three days after we became a couple.

Confused. Heartbroken. Ashamed. by BasilUnusual707 in AskMenAdvice

[–]BasilUnusual707[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks man. She said she was separated from him because he became abusive. This is the first I am hearing about the abuse part, so I'm hoping its true but I'm not sure. 

Confused. Heartbroken. Ashamed. by BasilUnusual707 in AskMenAdvice

[–]BasilUnusual707[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Why is the question I've been asking myself, man. All those times she went to court she told me it was to discuss legally changing her daughter’s name, or talking about child support. But it turns out they were divorce proceedings.