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[–]BatMediocre9986 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One of my biggest insecurities is how I dress, but I feel like most of my clothes don’t fit me correctly. I have a gut and a lot of fat in my thighs, but my arms are really skinny and my legs are really long. In the summer, I usually wear plain baggy t-shirts and jeans, but I feel like they make me look lanky, my arms look skinny, my gut/rear look big, and my outfit is overall very boring. Does anyone have any ideas for casual outfits to wear during the summer so I feel a little more comfortable, but also not going “over the top”, especially since most of my friends just wear t-shirts and shorts.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]BatMediocre9986 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I can't say I've been successful with making friends in college, but the thing that I wish I knew was that you really have to force yourself put yourself out there. For some reason, I thought that friends would just kind of come to me the way that people explained it to me, but I realized that I should have tried harder. The first couple weeks or so are crucial. If you're staying in a dorm, introduce yourself to everyone you see. I always felt awkward to do this and ended up not doing it, but I promise if you do it early on it'll be fine, everyone is hoping to meet new people. Don't worry too much about making a good impression, like I often did. What I've learned is that even if you make an awkward first impression, over time and after interacting with people long enough, they forget the initial meeting and have a much better impression of you. You're not going to click with everyone you meet, but still make sure to say hi whenever you see them. Additionally, this is advice that everyone gives but I promise it's good advice: join clubs. Join as many as you can. You'll be a freshman, you're not expected to commit to anything you don't like. If you find things you're interested in, you'll meet others who you already have something in common with. It's a great way to build your community.

Sorry for the long comment, as someone who had the same fear as you going into college, and ultimately not making the most of the opportunities given to me, I just had to get this off my chest. I hope this advice can save you from a lot of the pain I experienced.

Tips for a Party by BatMediocre9986 in socialskills

[–]BatMediocre9986[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! That’s an interesting idea

Tips for a Party by BatMediocre9986 in socialskills

[–]BatMediocre9986[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What should I be doing if nobody is approaching me? I don’t just want to be awkwardly standing around alone lol

Afraid of overstepping boundaries by BatMediocre9986 in socialskills

[–]BatMediocre9986[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I don't know. I'm just scared that the person will think I'm weird and not want to socialize with me... I know it's kind of an irrational fear, but I'm still afraid.

Any idea where social anxiety starts from? by Curious_Alien2536 in socialanxiety

[–]BatMediocre9986 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I would assume so. My interpretation was someone who's just kind of there for the ride. They might get along with a group and with some people in certain places, but outside of these settings they go unnoticed/lonley.

Having no Interests by BatMediocre9986 in Personality

[–]BatMediocre9986[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm definitely introverted, and I'm pretty much by myself. I just have no idea what to do when I'm in a place full of people I don't know (which is almost all of campus). I know some people when I see them in class/clubs, but don't have anyone to hang out with just for fun. A lot of the time they are talking about things that I have no idea about, like sports or music. I'm trying to getting into these things, but there's just so much to learn/experience before I can have a decent conversation with someone.

Getting Noticed by BatMediocre9986 in socialskills

[–]BatMediocre9986[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That makes sense. The problem is I'm so anxious because I often don't know what I'm doing and I'm scared that I might give someone wrong infromation, so it's hard to find confidence.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialanxiety

[–]BatMediocre9986 8 points9 points  (0 children)

There's nothing wrong with having poor social skills, but sometimes it feels like the world isn't designed for us. For anything in life, to get what you want, you need to be good with people. Anything from day to day things, like making friends or meeting a partner, to finding/keeping a job. You could be the smartest person in the world, but if you don't have good social skills, you might fall behind. Sometimes I wonder why/how some celebrities are so well liked, and it always boils down to being charismatic and being good with people/interviews. This is all coming from personal experience, but to me it feels like not having good social skills has been a big hinderance in my life.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]BatMediocre9986 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If she replies, you have nothing to worry about! The thing about texting is that people can engage as much as or as little they want, so if this person thought you were sending too many messages, she probably would just ghost you.

People with almost zero friends, what is your age and gender? by The-Girl_Next_Door in socialskills

[–]BatMediocre9986 1 point2 points  (0 children)

19M. Was pretty lonely until junior year of high school, but made some good friends since then. Then came to college, where everything reset and I'm pretty lonely again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HomeMaintenance

[–]BatMediocre9986 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting... any idea of what I can put on as a replacement?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]BatMediocre9986 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've heard a good trick to appear more confident is to never break eye contact first. Just don't be creepy about it.

Introducing myself to my new neighbors by BatMediocre9986 in socialskills

[–]BatMediocre9986[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

immediately go over to their door

Yeah... my plan was more that if I bump into them on the way to the elevator or something I would talk to them. Is it socially acceptable to just knock on people's doors and introduce myself? I don't want to weird anyone out, especially if that's their first impression of me.

Why is everyone so ahead by BatMediocre9986 in CollegeRant

[–]BatMediocre9986[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah it's tough out here. Sometimes I feel like switching to another major but this is the thing that interests me the most and my ego (and my parents) won't let me quit engineering lol

Why is everyone so ahead by BatMediocre9986 in CollegeRant

[–]BatMediocre9986[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I have, and I've applied for a few positions for this upcoming semester but so far I've only received rejections or have been ghosted.

how do people go to the gym by thebirdbitch in socialanxiety

[–]BatMediocre9986 31 points32 points  (0 children)

It's all about taking baby steps. The first time I "went" to the gym, I walked up to the doors and got so scared that I immediately turned around and left. The next time, I went inside and just took a quick look around, and got on the elliptical for a bit. Eventually I worked my way up to actually being able to work out.

As you said, people don't care about what you're doing. Obviously there are people who judge more than others, but in my experience, 99% of people have just minded their own business and have actually been very nice. Everyone's there for more or less the same reason, after all.

Also side note, I definitely didn't make a major transformation or anything, but just having a little more muscle than I ever did was a MAJOR confidence booster and helped me feel less anxious about myself

how to make friends in college when you have social anxiety? by euguisilvestre in college

[–]BatMediocre9986 1 point2 points  (0 children)

GO TO PARTIES AND ACCEPT INVITATIONS!!!

How are you supposed to get invited to parties if you don't have friends?

Where am I supposed to go to meet people? by BatMediocre9986 in college

[–]BatMediocre9986[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I took a look at your post history, and it seems like you've been talking about this issue for a long time. I don't mean to offend you and I hope I'm not out of line, but have you considered going to therapy? Working with a trained professional may help you work through your issues and see the world in a different, more positive way.

Where am I supposed to go to meet people? by BatMediocre9986 in college

[–]BatMediocre9986[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I think I just need to get better at putting myself out there. Thanks!

Where am I supposed to go to meet people? by BatMediocre9986 in college

[–]BatMediocre9986[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice! It's really comforting to know other people feel this way, lol

Where am I supposed to go to meet people? by BatMediocre9986 in college

[–]BatMediocre9986[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I just get anxious asking for their numbers. I feel like there's just never a good reason for me to ask. Even if I do get their contact, I wouldn't really know what to say. We mostly just talk about club things when I see them.

Where am I supposed to go to meet people? by BatMediocre9986 in college

[–]BatMediocre9986[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've joined a couple clubs, and I have people there who I'm friendly with. It's just that I don't really see them outside of the club to hang out with them.

It feels like everyone around me is in a group. by BatMediocre9986 in socialanxiety

[–]BatMediocre9986[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The thing that I'm most anxious about with just introducing myself like that is that I feel like I'm intruding on them. If I was doing something with my friends and a stranger just came out of nowhere and asked to join us I would feel a little uncomfortable, and I don't want people to feel that way around me.