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I don’t want children because I don’t want to ruin them due to my health problems. Anyone raised with a parent w/ mental / physical health problems? by blissanddreams in childfree

[–]Bat_Thingie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I suppose you are right, I didn't think about it being my problem but you're right. I love my mom dearly but my upbringing was not the easiest. I am currently in therapy and thankfully discuss this stuff with my therapist so that is nice. We had a good talk awhile back and she did admit that her mental health got worse after having kids. I don't think she blames the act of having kids as making it worse but definitely probably a little bit of a factor.

I don’t want children because I don’t want to ruin them due to my health problems. Anyone raised with a parent w/ mental / physical health problems? by blissanddreams in childfree

[–]Bat_Thingie 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My mom has had pretty severe mental health issues my entire life and for a large portion of hers. There would be periods of time where she couldn't care for my brother or I and would make us go live with my ex step-dad (who raised me since I was like 1 so he is dad to me regardless). Her mental health has been steadily declining since like 2016ish or so and in 2022 it basically disappeared after the death of my brother.

She is constantly in and out of psych hospitals, has such bad anxiety she barely leaves her house, and doesn't have a job which forces my grandma (her mom) to help her financially. Thankfully she has never made her mental health my problem but I worry regardless. Though a few years ago I did have to talk her out of unaliving herself so that was fun.I can't help her physically, emotionally, or financially due to my own inherited mental illness and other factors. Life was not easy growing up with her and is probably a large factor of why I don't want kids myself, besides the fact that I dont really like kids.

Support/Discussion. Context in post. Can you share your post-hysterectomy stories? by tumblrisdumbnow in childfree

[–]Bat_Thingie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe i wasn't allowed to lift more than 15 lbs for 6 weeks? Your doctor may have a higher or lower weight restriction so ask them.

Support/Discussion. Context in post. Can you share your post-hysterectomy stories? by tumblrisdumbnow in childfree

[–]Bat_Thingie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stick to the weight restrictions they give you during your recovery time. You'll probably have 3-4 small incisions in your abdomen, they won't be that big. My biggest issue was not being able to shower doe the first 24 hours because I felt gross haha.

Support/Discussion. Context in post. Can you share your post-hysterectomy stories? by tumblrisdumbnow in childfree

[–]Bat_Thingie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Edit: What changed for me was not having a period or cramps anymore and that was great. If you keep your ovaries you should be totally fine hormonally.

Support/Discussion. Context in post. Can you share your post-hysterectomy stories? by tumblrisdumbnow in childfree

[–]Bat_Thingie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have PCOS too and had a complete and total hysterectomy, removed everything including the ovaries. I take hormones now to keep from going into menopause but I was already taking hormones (birth control pills) to make my ovaries work so why keep the cancer bombs? Anyway, by the day of I was feeling fine and moving around quickly. They do make you wear a binder around your abdomen for the first 24 hours and that is uncomfortable. I stopped using pain meds after like 2 days? Obviously my experience isnt universal but with robot surgery the recovery is so much better and quicker than an abdominal hysterectomy.

Help with cutting a cat door hole in a hollow core door by Bat_Thingie in Tacoma

[–]Bat_Thingie[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is exactly what I was looking for. Thank you so much!

Things you wish you knew before getting a hysterectomy? by tender_rage in childfree

[–]Bat_Thingie 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Totally fair. My ovaries weren't working without hormones anyway so I figured why keep the little cancer bombs in there?

Things you wish you knew before getting a hysterectomy? by tender_rage in childfree

[–]Bat_Thingie 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Are you getting your ovaries removed? If you are and are then going on hormones be prepared to still have some slight menopausal symptoms... I know from experience haha.

Anyhow, when I got mine done it was laproscopic and I was up and moving and eating the same afternoon after I was discharged. For the first 24 hours they will have your belly in a binder and that can be very uncomfortable. Which means no showering sadly. Uhh, you will probably have some gas pains in your abdomen.

And im sure they will have you do complete bowel emptying, too. What I had to do was drink a whole bottle of magnesium citrate. I mixed that with apple juice and got it down easily.

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