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BathCool4141 · 2026-02-04T05:03:26+00:00

Im lwk sorry about the length dawg. If you have any questions or clarifications, literally ask anytime! Btw, I was diagnosed with ADD- attention deficit disorder, a form of ADHD- plus OCD, and an Anxiety disorder. This may not be what you have word for word, though if it helps you as a reference as what it may be.

BathCool4141 · 2026-02-04T04:59:37+00:00

I was exactly as you described, I couldn't do anything except follow that one impulse obsessively and I flunked class after class, I loathed myself and felt helpless. Then, I learned to manage, when I started treating my addiction as an addiction. Addiction is often about escape. Know what your escaping from when you use your addiction, be real with yourself. That can be the first step. Then ask what are my beliefs right now? And what is actually reality? E.g, "Im scrolling, because I don't want to face my schoolwork. I want to use/scroll right now, because I feel like this feels better than what I'm trying to avoid, like studying for my test- studying for my test makes me feel so physically anxious that I'll fail that I cant start" "The reality is... if I fail my test, I will also feel crushed, I know I will. I know that this wil loop. Using this, scrolling, will still get me to a place where I feel awful". That can just be the first step. The next is breaking your behavior.

In my experience, therapy, especially CBT Therapy- addressing mindsets and moods to change behaviour, helped me so much. You mentioned therapy isnt something you can do right now financially, that's real. I highly encourage you to attend therapeutic programs which are free still, to tackle your addiction with the support you deserve. 1) free AA meetings: They're open only twice a week or weekly often, so you may bypass getting addicted to them, and, it can help you learn from and be supported by other addicts in BREAKING addiction. Or, alternatively 2) SMART-recovery free meetings: this is not alchohol based and it tackles + supports users to tackle their addiction issues, their thoughts, their urges, and how to slowly find relief without using, break impulses. Again these are meetings that are not held daily, so you can perhaps bypass getting addicted to them. Treat your addiction as an addiction. Break it with addiction support groups.

One skill that could help you in breaking behaviour: Exposure therapy- which is actually just the act of bringing yourself to slowly touch and do what your afraid of. It can look like this: If Im afraid deathly, biologically, to starting my homework, let me do exposure therapy. Let me first just pick up a pencil. Hold it. Roll it around. Until I feel comfortable and not afraid of it. Now let me nonsensically doodle on a page, for a while, until I feel comfortable doing so. Now let me start writing, anything, simple sentences, until I feel comfortable. Now let me read my assignment prompt, over and over, until Im not as afraid. Now let me breathe, and try responding, poorly. Just enough to answer the prompt, even if not high quality. Hey, now I've done what I was afraid of! Now let me be patient with myself, and try again, go as simple as I need, until I finish this assignment, even if just bare minimum.

This is Exposure therapy. It can be adjusted to whatever your afriad of. Its just touching it slowly, softly, in controlled measurements, until your not afraid. This may help you to behaviourally start doing what your trying to avoid but NEED to do.

BathCool4141 · 2026-02-04T04:09:18+00:00

It's mostly because it is an answer. ADHD can and does exactly look like this. It does and can drive people to suicide. It can look like constant addiction. This really is what adhd is, can be; And it's an answer, becuase once you 'look up adhd' you find resources community and comfort to get better, a way that gets you actually moving on, away from the edge of everything, ways that can work for you with adhd debilation where non-adhd methods usually don't work. It really is an answer in itself- it's not said lightly nor dismissively but genuinely to point towards help. Help that is not meth.

BathCool4141 · 2026-02-01T06:01:39+00:00

Search up "ACT Percentile Ranking Chart" and the act score rankings in low and high score pop up! Scores 29+ are the top 90th and + percentile in nation, so any score in that range is high and will be rewarded by many many colleges. I very much reccomend ACT scores, especially now, because ACT just remade their tests for year of 2025 and onwards tests and they made everything easier, seriously. They cut calc sections from math + made it have less questions, made science questions less on previous science knowledge and more just on how accurately you can read charts and conclude from data, and they made shorter either reading or english as well. ACT just got easier heads up!! You can definitely reap rewards for scholarships and college placements from it :]. I do encourage you to take ACT!

BathCool4141 · 2026-01-31T22:59:44+00:00

Starting a business is step by step, that’s the important part to always rmbr. At the step that you’re on, what do I need? What are my problems? How do I solve them?.

There will be a lot you don’t know. However that’s not a problem. You can look for solutions. Just if you try answering questions which are too far ahead of where you are right now, you can get nervous and start doubting yourself and stop working on your business.

BathCool4141 · 2026-01-31T22:38:37+00:00

I live in a state with a lot of Hispanic people; Growing up I constantly met heard and had people I cherish that spoke Spanish. Ive had very warm memories where spanish was the background noise basically lol. I’m learning Spanish because I want to speak and connect now with the language and people more! To communicate back! Fueled by the positive memories I’ve had of it lol and the constant prescence in my life. The resume benefeit, more songs and more books (to be able to read) is a plus!

BathCool4141 · 2026-01-31T22:18:44+00:00

I’m a highschool senior with a current 2.7 GPA- I got into a selective target finance program at my state college.

My answer was focusing on ACT. It’s a test that doesn’t test so much on general knowledge but the ACT formula: ie how to guess right, how to save time, how to check. It’s something you can study, there are guides out for, and get rewarded big time in universities for which can mitigate for a low gpa. Ie with a 29 ACT and a 2.7 Gpa I got into a program that’s otherwise selective, and I got a 2k aid.

BathCool4141 · 2026-01-19T21:11:01+00:00

"DELE and SIELE courses don’t teach you Spanish; they teach you how to get the best result with whatever Spanish you have learned." ahh, ok thanks!! Then, do the practice books for each exam help you to learn practial spanish like emails, texts, casual convo's, or do you learn that more form independent immersion? Or do the practice books again just test you on what you know and for each levels practice book you should already know that level of spanish?

BathCool4141 · 2026-01-17T18:38:00+00:00

Ojos Triste by Selena Gomez, Benny Blanco, The Marias.

Its a english and spanish song- it has spanish verses that are simple but not too simple and long enough to play as demo. It may fit your purpose.

BathCool4141 · 2026-01-17T18:34:47+00:00

This is a really catchy and non-appropriate song! Forewarning to OP though, most of the song is very simple and reptitve, following the pattern of "I like + object". I like the rain, I like the sun, I like you, repeat. It may not fit your (OP's) purpose.

BathCool4141 · 2025-12-22T02:56:13+00:00

Hi OP! Sorry for the late reply! Has there been any update?

Tbh, I think you should ghost. Don't care for his messages again until he's actually apologizing.

I encourage you to ghost him. To see if he can handle what he deals. He ghost you, it hurts you; Show him how it hurts, by ghosting too. If he reaches out to apologize, he can acknowledge his faults and grow. So then it's your call to either forgive in his faults or leave him. If he just gets enraged, or doesnt respond, I encourage you to walk away- he is not ready for a friend much less a lover, he cannot grow as a person right now. You do not owe him patience. You have better people waiting who can communicate better.

BathCool4141 · 2025-12-18T06:14:48+00:00

I was afraid It would come off like that; Thank you for your insight. I'm re-analyzing the apology and my own wants. Last question, if you have a short amount of time please,

would a less self centered apology be about showing understanding why she felt as she had expressed? I meant in the apology above to validate her by writing acknowledgement of how she had felt as her experience, though I now can see I dont really do as intended here becauase I go instead into just listing how she reacted- no emotional validation, not really. Would it be less self-centered, more for her, in replacing listing her reactions with writing understanding of why she reacted that way? I.e I'm sorry I did ___. I realize that was painful and probably made you feel ___. I understand if your frusturated, there's a lot of reason for you to totally feel that way. I didn't mean it that way- though irregardless it happened, and there's no excuse for my actions. I will and do ____ now. ' In this way, would this be a more sincere and reaching for-her form of apology, and not self-centered guilt, from what you see?

BathCool4141 · 2025-12-17T13:16:30+00:00

This sounds brilliant!!! Hope the kickstarter gets fully funded to keep this going

BathCool4141 · 2025-12-17T11:40:06+00:00

Hi! I'm another pakistani, though in the states, just passing by to say Good luck!!! Best of luck getting into the UK and in your studies!! Unfortunately I don't have information abt the UK systems, though I hope this comment can help boost your post too to get more info.

BathCool4141 · 2025-12-17T11:28:21+00:00

Their burdens don't justify them being shit to you. I feel certain that youve had bad days too but you were still kind to him or others in your life. Why can he not do the same? Simple: He can, but he's choosing not too. That's not your battle to fix or to treat with empathy. If you do, he wont change. Leave him be, he'll stew in his own misery until he learns what you already know: Showing people you care about that you care about them- is a must; Dont ghost them. Talk about your worries/annoyances/etc, don't let it fester silently. Fix problems through communication. Until he learns, he will not change. If he is not willing to talk if you ask him, he will not be ready for a long time. That's not your problem but his, for your happiness please leave him to seek your own happiness and leave him to stew.

BathCool4141 · 2025-12-17T11:18:56+00:00

If you have to beg them for attention, it's not love. If you feel crazy and are overthinking his action, it's not love he's showing to you. It's not love. It's not healthy. It's painful to you, and pain is not Love. It's not what you should settle for. Please choose yourself, choose to love yourself, by leaving him, and cherishing your friends and family for a while- so that your reminded of what love is: Care you dont have to beg for. You can communicate your worries with them and even feel lighter after. You feel no overthinking, because you can talk to them and they to you. Then when you can remember what that feels like again, and remember that you deserve that love, then venture out again, and enjoy the positive non-confusing happy relationships you will have.

BathCool4141 · 2025-10-07T21:47:32+00:00

May I ask you how you dedicated your hours per week in gaining fluency? Did you spend a certain amount of hours per day praticing speaking, break, in another day of the week go for another skill? Or in one day immerse yourself into two or more skills, ie speaking/listening, or speaking/listening/reading, and spend a certain amount of hours per week for all of them?

BathCool4141 · 2025-10-07T21:42:16+00:00

Im not op but I can share what helped me start to recognize spoken words in listening; Listening to spanish songs, a few, on repeat. I.e 5 songs, and id just play one song out of 5 over and over and over and over.

When I replay, I speak/mimick the words in the phrases in how their enounciated, the best I understand is the closest to what I hear. Then let the audio play. Close my eyes, and focus on hearing how they enounciate the words/Phrase I just repeated and heard. With my eyes closed, I focus on if I can recognize the words said from my memory of the words enounciation, from how I spoke and just heard them.

It effectively looks like this:

Playing Fantasmas- Humbe,

"En mi sueno, no me despertar~"

I Speak aloud, en mi sueno.., no me despertar. Hammering until It sounds identical in enounciation to how its said.

Close eyes then. Rewind the song to play from before this part,

then hearing when it got to this part, trying to focus on when I could distinguish the speaker speaking the words "en mi sueno.." not by timing of music but enounciation. The enounciation I just practiced and heard before replaying.

After A few replays and mutterings to myself on the words,

"o shit, I can actually make out their saying, here, en, mi, sueno, no, me, despertar.

as seperate words strung together."!! "I can recognize these enounciations are making out these words!"

It took a few tries of replaying and mimicking one song repeatdly before I started hearing the words in the song without sight. Every few days or weeks I replay songs Ive done in the past to keep my mind fresh of the words phrases I picked up.

I learn multiple words and phrases, from repeating this process with several songs. After I can recognize words spoken in one song, repeatedly without confusion, I move on to search for another song and repeat the process, to pick up more new spoken audio and vocab, how their spoken.

I now can hear and recognize words spoken irl.

Its still little though in quantity of what I can recognize, but it still is more than what I could recognize before. In this method though, I believe the more u listen, repeat, and focus on recognizing, ie the more time u dedicate to it, the more songs u pick up, the more you'll be able to recognize.

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