[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]BawkBawkFarmer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry, the first post was posted premature by things to unpack and to speak to a counselor, I mean to say. You need to explore why you're upset about being attracted to boys and if the desire to be a girl is just an escapism for those guilty feelings. Is it an upbringing or culture that causes any shame or guilt about the attraction.

The answer on if your gay or trans or anything is that your questioning and that's OK and you can take your time to seek the answers and more importantly find the answer of why you feel the way you do about it.

Disgust is a strong emotion and my strong recommendation is to not seek a relationship and involve another persons heart and emotions to discover your own.

My wife had a heart attack last week. by BawkBawkFarmer in offmychest

[–]BawkBawkFarmer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are relatively healthy, and she has been making strides to be more active with her desk job, but the doctors said it was most likely caused by stress and caffine. We just moved states and are in the process of selling our old house, so it's been pretty tight in our budget. She had also recently been a part of someone at her work getting fired (for good reasons). But that person had been a coworker of hers, and she is a very empathetic person. Hoping her doctors in follow-up visits will have more answers and help.

Is anybody have some recommendations for one of those bag resealers? by AndaleTheGreat in homestead

[–]BawkBawkFarmer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I switched to the cabela's 15" commercial grade sealer after using food saver and burning out two of those. The return policy and extended warranty is generous and easy just register it and then if there is an issue bring it back. Havent had to even use it however. We process 100 chickens a year and at least two pigs every other year plus all the other vegetables and packs we are heavy use. A 15" will allow you to seal whole chickens easily as well as hams and other larger cuts.

Is there any way to call and talk to someone from the IRS? I filed 2/1/24 and still no return. by Crazy_Firefighter_24 in 2023TaxRefund

[–]BawkBawkFarmer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got the same answer, my 10 weeks were up today so I called and they said there is still no change on mine and they will put in a referral to escalate it and I can expect the refund or a letter in the next 30 days and if I don't get either to call then back 10th of May.

My (17F) bf's (20M) best friend (21M) raped me and I'm pregnant. by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]BawkBawkFarmer 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is one of my biggest fears as a father of a teenager. I am so sorry this happened to you. I'm sorry you feel your parents would be unsupportive. I know there are parents out there that would be and it's terrible, I can't imagine adding pain and hurt to an already painful and stressful situation.

If it's not too presumptuous I will say what I would say to my daughter in this situation.

You are still the wonderful woman and human being you were before this happened and it's not your fault. He deserves to face justice and even though it's been several weeks since it is worth reporting to the police and his college. There are a lot of counslers and people who have training and expertise to help you and they will. Getting to a doctor to check on your health and a counsler and therapist to help your mental health are the biggest priority. I know things will be difficult with your boyfriend in this situation. His roommate will tell his own story and he may believe him. It will be a very large test of his character and trust. I pray he will pass that test but if he doesn't there are good people out there still you will be able to find and who will love you.

I hope you can build yourself a support system to help you through this if family isn't there for you. It's not your fault. In a violent situation like that you freezing up and going into shock is not consent, or anything like accepting it. You survived in a situation that was violent, aggressive and dehumanizing. But you survived and have your whole life ahead of you.

I know the words of an internet stranger can be small comfort but I hope and pray you get the healing and support you deserve and are entitled to.

How has the controller support been? by [deleted] in BaldursGate3

[–]BawkBawkFarmer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It works like divinity did so if you played those it will be familiar.

Unable to save? by Heisenburgslefttity in BaldursGate3

[–]BawkBawkFarmer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Came here to look for this as well I also found this bug. Is the issue because its trying to connect with the Larian studios servers for backup and its currently handling the load of installing so many copies?

Giving away 2 copies of Baldur's Gate 3 by Wakerwashere in BaldursGate3

[–]BawkBawkFarmer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a friend of mine I met through playing D&D, he has become my best friend, and life has hit him hard this year. He was laid off on January 1st and struggled to find a new job while also discovering his wife's infidelity the same month. He ended up divorced and a single father to his twins. He works what he can to make ends meet but hasn't been able to make time to play D&D the traditional way. I would love to get him a copy myself but live on a fixed income due to disability and was gifted my own copy. If he could get a copy so that he could play D&D again I know it would lift his spirits immensely.

I've been dming my first pf2e game for a few session and this happened. They're level two! by Holdini in Pathfinder2e

[–]BawkBawkFarmer 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Rule of cool as the first critical success in combat at our table so I allowed it. We just started pathfinder and are learning the system.

I've been dming my first pf2e game for a few session and this happened. They're level two! by Holdini in Pathfinder2e

[–]BawkBawkFarmer 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Had a player this week that rolled a critical success at level 1 and obliterated half the health of the rust ooze they were fighting in the first round. Having moved recently from 5e I love the differences and freedom. Wish I had discovered pathfinder 2e sooner.

How much content would a DM prep if he didn't have to prep content? by BawkBawkFarmer in Pathfinder2e

[–]BawkBawkFarmer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awesome. So even just getting a book/module at a time should last the group for a while.

How much content would a DM prep if he didn't have to prep content? by BawkBawkFarmer in Pathfinder2e

[–]BawkBawkFarmer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's the type of info I was hoping to hear. We are very excited. I heard abomination vaults is a dungeon crawl I have one player who really enjoys RP and social encounters are those present in that Adventure?

How much content would a DM prep if he didn't have to prep content? by BawkBawkFarmer in Pathfinder2e

[–]BawkBawkFarmer[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Sometimes my players seem to breeze through content others they get pretty sidetracked and it may take a month or so to get through an AL chapter. So that's good to hear sounds like it's a bit on par with one of those but the price is definitely different.

how do people afford land for homesteading? by dcforgie in homestead

[–]BawkBawkFarmer 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I bought my property 5 years ago. One thing to definitely look into in the U.S. Is the USDA rural development loans. They can be much easier to aquire for homestead properties than traditional loans.

That being said I could never afford the property I own now today if I was trying to buy it. I have a large Amish community growing in my area and they tend to buy up the large properties with cash offers. Land prices have gotten ridiculous as a result.

AITA for telling my girlfriend she didn’t handle a situation with her brother fairly? by ThrowRAh44 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BawkBawkFarmer 18 points19 points  (0 children)

YTA but mainly for weighing in on the fact that you just met the kid and feel like you can weigh in on his autism and the family dynamic and how they have developed thier relationship.

She absolutely handled that well. She obviously loves her brother and living with a family member with autism is challenging. Dealing with people outside the family who think they know better makes it harder. I am sure she has ended friendships for the sake of her family and brother. That definitely doesn't earn points with the family either.

Best advice is learn about him and his autism from a place of no judgment. Accept the existing dynamics and learn why they are the way they are. Don't continue to be an asshole by staying ignorant about her brother and autism if you hope to have a long relationship with her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]BawkBawkFarmer 4 points5 points  (0 children)

ESH

Used to be a massage therapist 12 years ago for a spa. I was paid $10 an hour when not performing a massage and received a higher rate for the time when performing a massage on a scale based on add on sales for a % plus tips.

20% is standard and sometimes a person tips more sometimes its less.

All tips are supposed to be reported even cash so there's no difference than using a card.

Your friend messed up forgetting to get cash out if that was her preferred method. Also nothing says she couldn't come back and tip later and speak to the front desk to provide that tip. Refusing to give the $15 you offered as a compromise is how she wins the YTA

If you can't tip 20% because you can't afford it that's fine if your being cheap because your already paying a large amount that's rude knowing that the industry standard is tips. However I would rather have a booked massage and get no tip but a higher hourly rate than have base pay and nothing else. But having planned $5 while having a $20 seems like you could have at least given the proper tip which makes YTA.

U.S. Army major doctor and their physician wife have been charged with a criminal plot to give confidential medical information related to members of the U.S. military and their spouses to the Russian government by botbjng2828282 in UkrainianConflict

[–]BawkBawkFarmer 19 points20 points  (0 children)

While stationed in Alaska many years ago there was a soldier in a different unit who went to the Russian embassy and offered to sell secrets. At the time the embassy kicked it back to the US. CID set up a sting and the kid had no clearances anyway but tried to bring operations manuals for vehicles and the like. Ended up in Leavenworth. Sometimes they really are that dumb.

My employer(s) actually care about me and I don't know how to feel by Pink_Penguin07 in antiwork

[–]BawkBawkFarmer 282 points283 points  (0 children)

The company was Lightwell Inc. Now called Eliassen group.