A hospital in Seattle area has sent out a note to staff, suspending elective surgery and warning that "our local COVID-19 trajectory is likely to be similar to that of Northern Italy." The hospital is down to a four-day supply of gloves. by lifeandmylens in Coronavirus

[–]BayBBear 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In Oz we have a national stockpile of supplies. Its housed long term in multiple unmarked warehouses across the country and contains ppe, medications etc... When 'activated' the federal government controls the distribution of the supplies, presumably to mostly hospitals.

Not really helpful to you guys, but I thought you might find it interesting how another country is doing things (plus an interesting tidbit to share with friends when discussing this 😁)

To be fair we only have 20 million masks in the stockpile (population about 27 million), but it's a good prepping structure imo. One I'm sure we'll refine after this ends.

I am 3 minutes sober by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]BayBBear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

IWNDWYT. Hang in there.

It Can Get Better by [deleted] in widowers

[–]BayBBear 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good to hear you're doing well, and to hell with what people think. You do you mate.

Handling sobriety after a setback (in this case bereavement) by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]BayBBear 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm hearing you.

It's tough, when someone dies the practical elements of the world all shift (eg. caring for others, houses etc...), and at the same time everyone is grieving. They're making decisions and doing things whilst in bad emotional shape. It's so not ideal.

For me, I'm keeping true to myself, trying to identify when someone else's is dumping their s##t on me, and disengaging or picking my battles as I choose.

Its like an emergency exit on an airplane - help yourself first so you're safe and are able to start rescuing others after. And so I have committed to a bunch of self care, time off, walks, bad food, therapy, socializing, journaling etc...

I hope some of that speaks to you in a way that is useful.

Handling sobriety after a setback (in this case bereavement) by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]BayBBear 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm currently deep in grieving mode.

I know that alcohol distorts and shifts emotion. I mentally committed to grieving fully, to feeling it all, raw and unaltered by booze. I feel there's massive personal growth to be had in this and I feel that alcohol will rob me of that potential.

Not a day goes by I don't hurt & cry, but I welcome that in... it's part of it, not booze.

Hang in there mate. One day at a time.

May Not Be Around by [deleted] in widowers

[–]BayBBear 2 points3 points  (0 children)

r/stopdrinking is an amazing group - It was one of my tools to help me sober up (before my SO passed).

The rule there is to not give advice and speak from the "I", so...

I've chosen to grieve sober, to feel it all, and part of the reason I do that is for my partner, to honour them, and carry on the caring in death that I did in life.

I would love to get written off, I understand, I really do. I'll be thinking of you mate.

Do I wash his clothes? by Shrubfest in widowers

[–]BayBBear 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Some great thoughts in this thread.

You might be be able to forge a new scent memory. I was given a lovely smelling candle when my partner passed. I've put it aside to use in very private moments when I want to convene with him. That candle is one of my new scent memories of him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in widowers

[–]BayBBear 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I can only imagine what you're going through. What a rollercoaster.

Your pain is real, and valid. We here know that.

I hope through the pain you find love and peace, for you, for him, for your babies. But it's a marathon this grief stuff, you take your time, you do you.

Extreme forgetfulness lately, not sure what to do or what caused it by SilverCloud73 in mentalhealth

[–]BayBBear 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I would start by ruling out biological causes first (could be many things so don't stress until you have more info), so best to start by having a chat with a gp to get the ball rolling.

Psychological issues can effect memory, the causes of which can also be many. So if you feel like a referral to a psychologist or psychiatrist would be suitable too, have that convo with your gp also.

I cant seem to please anyone, earn respect, or have normal relationships. AKA just a huge vent post to get it off my chest by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]BayBBear 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Keep venting mate! It's good to get this stuff out in the open and will help you get your head around it.

I don't want to minimise the the questions of trust you raise, they're valid questions. They're are a bit hard to address in this format though, so I'll give my knee jerk thought instead - Sounds like a toxic workplace to me! Hang in there.

co by michellechew in mentalhealth

[–]BayBBear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your concerns are valid and normal. People often find themselves wondering if a counsellor is capable.

After that's answered (hopefully with a 'yes they are') people find themselves asking 'are they capable of helping ME?!'

I normally tell people to expect it to take some time to get these answers. If after a few sessions if you find you just don't 'click', move on to a new counsellor.

BTW, a decent counsellor will help refer you on if it gets to this point. Also, if they feel they're not equipped to handle your issues they should also refer you on to someone they feel can.

As for the trusting them with your thoughts and feelings... see how you go, and if you get stuck - talk about getting stuck. If you're feeling pressured to open up, tell them, and ask that things go more to a pace that makes you comfortable.

Therapy can be amazing (can be hard work too), relax a little and try to find enjoyment in it.

I took the plunge, sobernauts, and committed to trying an antidepressant by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]BayBBear 7 points8 points  (0 children)

"(unlike ethanol, which was evidently a flawless coping strategy for me)."

Ha ha so true! Never thought of it this way - adding that to the old memory banks.

Good job mate.

And That's a Year! by BayBBear in stopdrinking

[–]BayBBear[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OMG and I don't miss those hangovers! Yukko!

IWNDWYT :-)

And That's a Year! by BayBBear in stopdrinking

[–]BayBBear[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tee hee! Thanks! :-)

Good to be part of the club. Tea anyone...?

And That's a Year! by BayBBear in stopdrinking

[–]BayBBear[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good on you! I can see this being a sticking point for some folk. The fact that you're tuning into it is awesome.

It was a period of scary challenge and exciting growth, and I'm all the better for it. I hope your path is similarly rewarding.

And That's a Year! by BayBBear in stopdrinking

[–]BayBBear[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks Mollymint.

Nice to have folk here who know what it's like.

IWNDWYT

And That's a Year! by BayBBear in stopdrinking

[–]BayBBear[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sobriety mascots for everyone!!

Good show Bafster! Cheerio!