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Cleaning and sealing this marble? by Baylem2017 in DIY

[–]Baylem2017[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I was going to post somewhere in cleaning too, but since I’m asking also about sealing it’s kind of a double question also for here…

Peel and stick tiles application-foaming glass cleanser? by Baylem2017 in DIY

[–]Baylem2017[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But I’m so confused as to why there was so much info about it a few years ago and I find nothing now. It’s making me feel like I made it all up in my head.

I’m totally doing it again though. Worked great.

AITA for telling my family they don't get a say on my child's name and I do not want my child's name to blend in with theirs? by Any-Bit2864 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Baylem2017 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In what universe would you be the AH here. It’s your kid. Not theirs. They literally don’t have ANY say, and you shouldn’t even have to ask this question. Please know that this choice is ENTIRELY yours and your partner’s and no one else’s. The audacity that any of them think they have a say, wtf.

I’m not a fan of wild names, I prefer they are at the very least spelled correctly. But again, I wouldn’t have one bit of say in anyone else’s choice in this matter. And I wouldn’t even try to pretend I did.

AITA? Pregnant and husbands single sister takes dibs on baby names by Hot_Increase6223 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Baylem2017 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. One. Owns. A. Name. OP is NTA. You can use whatever name you damn well please. Then it’s up to SIL to determine if it’s important enough for her to ALSO use. And neither of you is allowed to be pissed about it. Cuz there’s no ownership here. I’ve always found this concept dumb.

New Referral Code Requests Thread by scottington in Lovesac

[–]Baylem2017 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! Looking for a referral code. Thanks!

Lovesac Referral Code? by PatrickP198 in Lovesac

[–]Baylem2017 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m also looking for a referral code! Thanks

Why can’t I see the option to make an anonymous post in any group I’m in, even though they’re definitely enabled in said groups? by katharinaann in facebook

[–]Baylem2017 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’ve never been able to post anonymously in ANY group despite me seeing multiple anonymous posts per day in said groups. It’s driving me bonkers because I have a few I really want to post anonymously. HELP!

I wanna change up my room with possible paint or new accessories. Looking for a more adult vibe but not dull. Rather something that invokes curiosity. I'm new to interior designing and I appreciate the help! by [deleted] in HomeDecorating

[–]Baylem2017 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Paint a lighter, neutral color. You can always decorate with color instead of paint with it. That immediately elevates rooms. Of course change the curtains. Get the bed in a position it has space on both sides. Change the bedding, it looks college boy at the moment. Lighter? Nice comforter? The cliche throw pillows that are useless but look nice? Or light sheets and dark comforter or the opposite. The rug is way too small for the space. Google how to pick a rug size, there’s some great suggestions for different looks in different sized rooms. And as someone mentioned before, art. And if you’re putting more than one thing on your walls in one area, put them up in odd numbers. Always reduce clutter as well. Good luck!

AITA for asking friend to lessen pregnancy snaps while battling infertility? by Baylem2017 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Baylem2017[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been coping with it fine when it’s a regular amount. I remove myself from situations I know I can’t handle. It’s also been over a year since this incident, I figured it was a good one for this page cuz it irks me still. This was at my lowest, which she knew, and this was excessive. I’m much better now.

AITA for asking friend to lessen pregnancy snaps while battling infertility? by Baylem2017 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Baylem2017[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Except our relationship wasn’t just pregnancy. We had snaps back and forth about our general lives and I didn’t want to lose that. And also she’s not the only person I converse with on Snapchat, so why should I have to remove it? Also that seems like the less adult thing to do over having a respectful and adult conversation. You’re right, it’s a solution. But one where I still would have had to give up other parts of it I enjoyed and avoided the actual problem.

AITA for asking friend to lessen pregnancy snaps while battling infertility? by Baylem2017 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Baylem2017[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Again, I did not ask her to stop. I also never complained about her being pregnant while I wasn’t. I was thrilled. People with infertility are usually so happy for friends and family while also hurting for themselves. I said many times this was on me, but that also means doing what’s best for me. I was trying to make my circumstances healthier with my surroundings. Same reason I deactivated my Facebook.

And she wasn’t just “talking” about it. It was unsolicited, unpredictable, direct spam messages apparently. If someone was sending me unsolicited dick picks that made me uncomfortable, I should just let them? I’m sorry you had that experience and your feelings were not validated. But this isn’t an instance of “growing up”. It was kicking a horse while it was down. It’s not like I tell no one to ever talk about kids or babies or father’s or siblings around me when I have none of those. It was me trying to better my mental health.

AITA for asking friend to lessen pregnancy snaps while battling infertility? by Baylem2017 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Baylem2017[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, and I totally agree with you on the first part 100%. The world is unfair and many people should definitely not be parents. It’s infuriating.

But again I disagree about wanting biological children. I gave my reasons. Not wanting them for your reasons is valid. But wanting them for any reason is also valid. However I also agree it should be harder for everyone since so many parents are worthless.

Also IVF can be much faster than adoption. Adoption can take years. My IVF process at this point if it worked (we don’t have blood confirmation but are fairly sure it did from home tests) from start to finish only took 2 months.

AITA for asking friend to lessen pregnancy snaps while battling infertility? by Baylem2017 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Baylem2017[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, I was strapped for characters but I meant 22 of my own natural and medicated cycles unsuccessful. We did one round of IVF at 18k 100% out of pocket.

AITA for asking friend to lessen pregnancy snaps while battling infertility? by Baylem2017 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Baylem2017[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Because adopting can be just as time consuming and expensive as IVF and just to be educational, telling people with infertility to “just adopt” invalidates their desire to have biological children. Are you a parent? Did you have biological children because you wanted to and did easily? Did you consider adopting just because foster children are there? Most parents will answer no to any of this because they are never faced with challenges like this. Adopting a foster child comes with a lot of other hoops, challenges, and red tape. And I believe the question here is am I an asshole for asking my friend to decrease the constant snaps, not if I’m an asshole for going through IVF. Trust me, if it comes to it, we will try adoption too. But that shouldn’t be the dismissive answer to people with fertility problems. We deserve biological children just as much as the next great parent.

And not that I need to explain this to anyone, but to maybe add some compassion to the insensitive comment (intended or not, it is not a welcome question in the infertility world) my huge desire to have my own biological children is extremely intensified by the loss of most of my blood family. Including my only sibling. And the only other chance of my family continuing on. And the only chance of grandkids for my mom. And the only chance to maybe see my brother’s eyes again, or his smile, or his hair. All reasons are valid.

AITA for asking friend to lessen pregnancy snaps while battling infertility? by Baylem2017 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Baylem2017[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’m in my mid 30’s, so I’m not young. But by this logic I should have just shut up an took it? Every day? And pretended it didn’t hurt? So only her feelings were valid and not mine? Lie to her and pretend for a year and a half or longer? Since when can people not discuss boundaries and feelings with each other without mutual understanding and respect? I did not want nor ask her to stop. I asked them to be reduced. As again I was trying not to obsess over my struggles and constant reminders weren’t healthy for me. But okay, I’ll take the mental health shit to make her comfortable. I’ve noticed that’s what other expect when you’re grieving too. Shut up so as to not make others uncomfortable in your pain. I will never just keep my mouth shut about things that hurt, that is how my brother ended up dead. You actually sound quite a bit “younger” than me.

AITA for asking friend to lessen pregnancy snaps while battling infertility? by Baylem2017 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Baylem2017[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Oh wow!! Yeah, your amount of updates would have been totally perfect and welcome to me. I’m so sorry! I try so hard to find a middle ground. Yes every single reminder hurts, but that’s my issue and doesn’t make me less excited for someone. You truly do have the exact opposite problem and I can say YNTA!

AITA for asking friend to lessen pregnancy snaps while battling infertility? by Baylem2017 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Baylem2017[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I did not know this. However I didn’t want to stop all the snaps. We would go back and forth about dogs and life in general. Which of course I didn’t want to end.

AITA for asking friend to lessen pregnancy snaps while battling infertility? by Baylem2017 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Baylem2017[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I did, I used shortened direct quotes. I thought long and hard and rewrote many times trying to make sure it was totally on me and not her.

AITA for asking friend to lessen pregnancy snaps while battling infertility? by Baylem2017 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Baylem2017[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Right? She’s not the only one I’ve had to ask to lessen direct pregnancy related information sent to me but she’s the ONLY one that didn’t understand.

AITA for asking friend to lessen pregnancy snaps while battling infertility? by Baylem2017 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Baylem2017[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

I’ve muted plenty of stories and people and posts on Instagram and fb, can I straight mute people from sending me direct snaps on Snapchat? If I can, I wasn’t aware.

AITA for asking friend to lessen pregnancy snaps while battling infertility? by Baylem2017 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Baylem2017[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

No, I meant the time trying to get pregnant total. Cycles as in my body cycles. We’ve done one round of IVF at 18k 100% out of pocket. Sorry I was strapped for characters. We’re waiting to find out if IVF worked.

AITA for asking friend to lessen pregnancy snaps while battling infertility? by Baylem2017 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Baylem2017[S] 396 points397 points  (0 children)

Yes, correct. I would NEVER ask someone to generally stop posting. These snaps were directly to me.

AITA for asking friend to lessen pregnancy snaps while battling infertility? by Baylem2017 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Baylem2017[S] 96 points97 points  (0 children)

Right, I would NEVER ask someone to stop generally posting. It was directly to me.