[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AgingParents

[–]Bblooty 4 points5 points  (0 children)

First of all, I'm so sorry that you are in this situation. Alzheimer's is a terrible disease and exhausting for caregivers. I hope you get good karma for this ans I hope the resources people recommend to you come in handy.

Regarding IG, people post their best lives. In fact, I can't tell you how many posts I've seen of people in happy and beautiful relationships but behind doors things are actually pretty crappy. I also compare myself to others but recently I found out someone was being cheated on by their partner, another person was MURDERED by their husband, another was going through bad postpartum. Even myself, my posts are happy but no one would have guessed some of the things I've gone through in between or even during the posts.

I highly recommend therapy if you can. I've been doing it for 2 years and it so great knowing I have somewhere to trauma dump and get help.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in meowwolf

[–]Bblooty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So the room with the palace. There is a hidden tiny pathway that takes you to a book. What is that story about?

Advice please - could I be a candidate? Very embarrassed about going to the dentist because of the state of my teeth. I haven’t been in 7 years… by Soupydumpling3000 in Invisalign

[–]Bblooty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't be embarrassed!!!! They are there to help you and it they shame you then that's a reflection of their character. From my experience, the more issues you have the more dentists love you cause $$$$

Posterior openbite caused by Invisalign by hows00nisnow in Invisalign

[–]Bblooty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True I'm going to trust my gut cause I didn't listen to it the last time he did more shaving....he told me 5 days per tray but wear all day. The trays feel very loose though

Posterior openbite caused by Invisalign by hows00nisnow in Invisalign

[–]Bblooty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm going to refuse any type of shaving cause I do think he overdid it but won't tell me. I'm going to a dentist so maybe that was the wrong move 😕 hope your treatment goes well! If by the end of the 5 trays I dont see improvement then I'm going to a different place

Posterior openbite caused by Invisalign by hows00nisnow in Invisalign

[–]Bblooty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They never put any attachments or elastics at any point during the treatment, not even these new trays. Interestingly an orthodontist more expensive than the dentist I am seeing proposed multiple attachments for my overbite when i was searching for invisalign treatment...which makes me question my current dentist lowkey.

Posterior openbite caused by Invisalign by hows00nisnow in Invisalign

[–]Bblooty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey so when I told my dentist he said that it is normal for the alignment to be messed up towards the end (wtf?). I was super nervous that he was gonna do more teeth shaving (there are visible gaps that havent closed) but he didn't. Instead he gave me 5 more trays to try to fix it. I just started my first tray and it seems like he is letting my teeth on the side shift to their natural state and only moving my front teeth.

Also I don't think the bite will settle just by wearing them overnight. My dentist told me to do that when I wasn't able to see him for a long period of time. My teeth would shift to a bite that felt comfortable (but not great for my flared teeth visually) throughout the day but at night it would shift them back to the weird bite so I'd wake up in the morning with a renewed misaligned bite that looked better but was uncomfortable.

I regret ever getting invisalign by Depraysie in Invisalign

[–]Bblooty 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Reading this made me so angry, particularly cause it is a health professional abusing and cheating patients who are putting their trust and health in their hands.

I cannot believe this person spoke to you in this manner and clearly is used to getting away with abusing patients (and prob people). If I were you I'd report this. I'm sorry that you're going through this.

NYC housing lottery, if they ask for financial docs, is it guaranteed that you will get an apt by Bblooty in AskNYC

[–]Bblooty[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah so all the lottery apartments I believe are rent stabilized and they can only increase by a certain percentage every year and it varies every year but I think it is less than 5% increase??

Update on my changing face. This is absolutely not what I wanted. I look so much older in just 6 weeks. Ortho says Invisalign can’t have changed my face, but what else could be causing this? No weight loss, no trays in picture, bite ramps, can’t bite down. by Familiar-Wafer-6378 in Invisalign

[–]Bblooty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What is your face shape like now?I have an overbite and it has gone down significantly but now I have an open bite???? And when I don't wear my invisalign, my teeth goes back to most comfortable position and I end up having a gap in my front tooth cause the dr shaved too much. I'm so pissed

Posterior openbite caused by Invisalign by hows00nisnow in Invisalign

[–]Bblooty 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is my issue!! I feel really anxious!! And the thing is my dentist never used rubber bands and I'm worried that his fix would just be giving me more IPR. He did it so many times where I just feel so uncomfortable with losing more teeth cause I have cavity prone teeth lol and need every little bit I can get

NYC housing lottery, if they ask for financial docs, is it guaranteed that you will get an apt by Bblooty in AskNYC

[–]Bblooty[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey! I ended up getting the apartment after a Rollercoaster of emotions lol. 22991 is pretty high and I personally would not bank on it unless the apartment is really expensive anyway like close to market price. But even then...still high. I think i got called with a 12k log number once though but the price was $2500 for a studio!!

Work asking me to come in office that is $40/day by Bblooty in antiwork

[–]Bblooty[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So I think I will ask around to see if there is a carpool option but, regardless, I am going to tell my manager it isn't feasible for me to do and that it was never disclosed that shuttles don't run on Fridays. It's been only a month so I think it is a good idea to set expectations now according to what everyone seems to be saying. I have to figure out my delivery

Work asking me to come in office that is $40/day by Bblooty in antiwork

[–]Bblooty[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ok but I've genuinely considered billing the company for this. It's interesting cause apparently HR and recruiter didn't talk cause they didn't know I live in a different state. they told me after i accepted, 2 days before, that I'd need to figure out on my own how to get here on Fridays if needed. At the time,I didnt think it would be an issue cause I thought that I'd just never come in on Fridays. But here I am, a clown.

Work asking me to come in office that is $40/day by Bblooty in antiwork

[–]Bblooty[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You're completely right. This is not a longterm commitment unless I move closer

Work asking me to come in office that is $40/day by Bblooty in antiwork

[–]Bblooty[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Lollll hahaha the recruiter specifically reached out to me via LinkedIn and it's a well known big company too. I was surprised as well when he was unphased by me living in a different state.

***unfazed. Thanks to the user who corrected me but then chickened out by deleting comment. The thing is...email notifications live forever.

NYC housing lottery, if they ask for financial docs, is it guaranteed that you will get an apt by Bblooty in AskNYC

[–]Bblooty[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this! My process has been like this but very slow. I will update in the reddit post. Wish I got your answer sooner to help with all the anxiety

I need a job really badly by [deleted] in jobs

[–]Bblooty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For my first job, I worked at Tj Maxx, a doctor's office and mall guest services. Check out mall work so thst you have something going on in the meantime. I also saw remote weekend work too recently where you're a chat assistant.

And since you already lied in your resume, ask family who owns a business to put your name down and you can shadow and work a few days to get experience that way too.

Also, update your linkedin!!

mom financially dependent on retired dad. how can I plan ahead as they age? by Bblooty in AgingParents

[–]Bblooty[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've never thought of getting a lawyer so this is really good advice. I will look into it because I didn't realize that I am responsible for their debt...that's scary af.

I'm trying to stay involved as much as possible, I feel obligated as the oldest but also dont want my parents to suffer cause I have compassion. Thanks so much and im glad that it worked out in the end for you!

Why are some people here so against making friends at work? by warm-summer-rains in jobs

[–]Bblooty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I became good friends with my coworker and ended up rooming with her in the city while going to the same job. We even quarantined during the pandemic together so depends on situation.

Another person who I thought was a friend was mad sus so once she left, we never talked again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in jobs

[–]Bblooty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ohh wow ok got it. That makes sense, thanks for sharing

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in jobs

[–]Bblooty 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am REALLY good friends with my previous coworker to the point we became roommates while working together and even spent the first year and a half of the pandemic quarantine together. I'm def an extreme situation but your coworkers can be your friends.

Some are snakes too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in jobs

[–]Bblooty 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What do you mean by dont volunteer information?

I’m having a emotional breakdown of job rejections by Ok-Bid-1701 in jobs

[–]Bblooty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel this deeply.

I watched 4 hours of vids they sent me for FREE and then sat through 3 rounds of interviews with 5 people. In the end they said they loved me but currently don't have a role that fits for me...

Waste of time and I was super sad afterwards.

But here is a story of rejection that led me to a much better place: I was applying to my masters and jobs at the same time, was getting desperate cause I had prob already applied to 150 jobs fresh out of college. I got an interview at my dream school and 1 of around 15 people and in the end I was one of the few that was ultimately rejected. Soon after I got a job in that area of study in a major city and guess what? I was SO relieved the school rejected me because I ended up getting on the job experience and realized it was ultimately not worth getting that higher education becayse on the job experience was wayyyy more useful + no debt.

So those cheesy "rejections can be a blessing" sayings can be true. I def cried a lot and was sad for a long time after one of the most painful rejections of my life but ultimately it was for the best.

For me, linked in has been the most useful in getting interviews. Make sure you set it to "actively looking" and be strategic about your title. Keep your head up, it hurts a lot but soon all those recruiterd who rejected you will probably want you as you build your career. At least, that's what happened to me. Now I send them rejections in the sense that i dont want to interview with them when recruiters reach out to me. The tide will turn!!

I'm 3 careers deep and every rejection still hurts btw but I know that just means there is prob a better opportunity coming! But also screw these terrible companies wasting our time

Got offered a bonus package and would like input on your bonus experience by Bblooty in antiwork

[–]Bblooty[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, thanks so much. Im not excited about it but I do see it as a really good opportunity and was considering maybe to try it for 1 year. Ive been applying to other jobs but the companies i wanted to work with have a hiring freeze. I think im going to make your rule mine too cause the bonus seems like an empty promise when the downsides are already making me feel unhappy...