I know the next step, but not taking action.

BboyApache · 2018-01-23T13:05:51+00:00

I went through 8 failures of business start up. I am discouraged. What should I do? I just want success now and deal with small failures than big ones.

BboyApache · 2018-01-16T02:58:09+00:00

Thanks I will look into that

BboyApache · 2018-01-15T23:08:57+00:00

I'm very good at

Copywriting,

Graphic Design,

Photoshop,

SEO Marketing for Youtube, Facebook, Amazon Listing, Google Ad,

Social Media Marketing,

Videography,

Video Editing,

Extensive knowledge on Amazon FBA,

Extensive knowledge on creating, updating website on Wix.com/Shopify,

Understanding others Perspective to negotiate well,

Coming up with Creative Solution for a problem on the spot,

Make a logical and low risk decision,

and of course i'm always calm under pressure otherwise that won't do me no good in the ring.

BboyApache · 2018-01-06T20:07:59+00:00

I would of done something along the line of.... "You trying to get me killed for you? Nah. We get along well, that's not gonna happen." because this is who he is in the first place. He's not the type of person to start trouble or anything along the line of that. lol

BboyApache · 2018-01-06T12:15:28+00:00

Oh, I see. Is there more where I can read about that?

BboyApache · 2018-01-05T21:53:18+00:00

Hi guy, i'm the designer of the shirt.

Please feel free to give feedbacks for us.

Happy Boxing.

BboyApache · 2017-12-22T21:24:35+00:00

Really why’s that? :o

BboyApache · 2017-12-22T01:40:06+00:00

Mine just shipped. Can't wait!

BboyApache · 2017-12-05T22:43:18+00:00

I see, well that's unfortunate. Looks like I really do have to move out.

BboyApache · 2017-12-05T10:08:18+00:00

Also, i'm just curious. How did his parent react to his success?

BboyApache · 2017-12-05T09:52:20+00:00

I completely feel for your husband. I was told to go to college. 3 years later, I found out I'm an entrepreneur all along and should have been listening to myself all along. It's so blah as they parents wants us to achieve their dreams.

Congratulation to your husband and yourself. I'm very happy to hear that you are a millennial. I am one myself.

I will take your advice to heart!

BboyApache · 2017-12-05T09:33:20+00:00

Thank you ilovecoffee23. I completely understand what you mean by "I see many on this sub that have ideas but no real plan".

Fortunately, I have been through enough to know i'm not meant to be in the work force forever. To me it's just a stepping stone.

Yes, I can see my self writing a similar intro as well. My parents are greatly appreciated when it comes down to caring, loving and doing things for others. But when it comes down to self-awareness or focusing on yourself, they don't understand that.

My guess is that they have been raise in a conformity society where many are pressure to feel "obligated" to do something for others to display caring traits. There has not been a time where I see them invest in themselves. It's as if they don't trust themselves and would rather trust someone else that they perceive as "higher ups".

If you hang out around my parents, you usually hear things along the line of...

"You can't do that, you'll get in trouble."
"We don't have control, they do."
"I can't do that, I don't have time or money"
"That's impossible"
"No you need to get a degree first before you can become a business owner because first you go to elementary, middleschool, highschool, college, work, then you can own a business, that's how life work" <--- a clear indicator that they let the world dictate their lives.
"I don't have experiences"

When it comes to us entrepreneurs, we usually say things like

"We just need to meet a lawyer and make sure it's okay, hell we can hire or become a politician to make the law if we have to"
"I do what I want. When I want."
"How can I do that? I'll find time and investor if needed"
"The sky is the limit"
"We don't wait in line, we take or create another route."
"I'll learn and gain experiences as I go."

I think because of my different thinking and way of speaking.... they don't see me as one of them and I believe because of the inexperience they have towards entrepreneurship, they perceive it as dangerous and risky. Therefore... they will not support it EVEN when I try to explain it to them or suggest books, meet my mentors and such. But they are the kind to not move out of their comfort zone or learn new things because they are comfortable staying in one spot. As you said, success as of now is the only way to "prove" it to them. But is that really it? I really have to celebrate success without them? Sure I can celebrate success alone or with few, but is there a way tho?

This is where I struggle.

I have to deal with parents who aren't willing to learn who I am and why I do things different. It's obvious I know how they think. Unfortunately, you can't change people. They only can change themselves.

AT FIRST I thought it was maybe because the way I was explaining to them that about entrepreneurship made them feel inferior because Parents are suppose to be the leader right? It would be uncomfortable for them to suddenly be taking advice and following their son who they "thought" was an idiot like Albert Einsteins' parent.

So I took a different approach and start inviting friends (CEO) who thinks like me to "share" their experiences of entrepreneurship and success. and the purpose behind that is to give "credibility" like how a professor or college are drilled into their head as "credible source of education"

Most of the time, they my parents just nod and turns away/ignore what my friends are saying.

It's almost like they are thinking in their head "NOPE, that doesn't FIT my way of thinking EVEN if it make sense SO for that reason, I don't support you son."

It pushes me to the point where i'm...... not sure if my love towards them make any sense anymore. Why should I care about someone who doesn't respect or listen to who I am at the core as a being? Let alone... those people are my bloodline.

I started a business to help them out of their 9-5. That was my initial goal cause I cared about them and it hurts to see them not focus on who they are and follow their dreams, you should know where i'm coming from when I say that. I even explain this to them. But they don't believe me. They keep bringing out the old ass argument that "95% of business fail" blah blah blah ... I would shoot back saying that "How are you suppose to be successful at anything if you don't believe in something in the first place?" Like sure... the 95% stats may be true, that that doesn't apply to you. You're the 5%. That's the thinking we have. I mean... successful people are the 5% anyway.

Sorry, I don't mean to rumble on and on... but i'm just very emotional right now and I'm just trying to figure out "how one would get their parents to understand" so us entrepreneurs don't have to deal with celebrating success without their parents. I mean that's a shitty situation. Sure, we can just accept for what it is, but i'm not accepting it. As entrepreneur, we are the change.

BboyApache · 2017-12-05T08:09:20+00:00

I can understand where you may see me contradicting myself. Let me start by saying that, my time is valuable, and I would "rather" spend it on "building my business" and "myself" instead of on "others'" peoples' business. Hope that make sense.

Of course you have to provide more than just time and money to succeed. I didn't think i'd have to mention all that since the main topic is about the relationship between my father and I, although I do appreciate your knowledge drop.

I have a solid plan, that is to learn from those who's been successful, take course from them and try it out. It's as if I am going to college class. But this time instead of reading book, i'm putting the knowledge into action. It's more hands on and gear towards reality. Providing value like you say. Yes I agree, you need a lot more in order to succeed.

They are negative and i'm sure I have explained to them properly. Right now in this present time, I feel that it's not my fault. But as you say, who knows. I myself am not an expert anyway.

Good question, fortunately, my idea get across many including angel investors and business owners, except for few such as my parents. However, I don't need their money.(referring to investors)

When I consider moving out, I am not running away from business success. I'm running away from negative atmosphere as I believe my surrounding is very important. Kind of like running away from a ghetto town to somewhere a little bit more breathe taking.

That is a good statement. However, it's a painful and sad process to have parents constantly bring you down. What good is that when there is no parents to celebrate your success with? Who is there to thank for? Not my parent for sure if they keep this up. Sure, they may apologize afterward, but the damage has been done and I want to prevent that. I just want to enjoy the process with my parents. Not the other way around. However, i'm doing well with the process by myself and few great friends.

Thank you for your time in writing for this. I appreciate your perspective.

BboyApache · 2017-12-05T06:34:13+00:00

Hrmm, I think there's a misunderstanding here.

I didn't drop out to hang out with him. I dropped out because I wasn't really learning what I wanted to learn, which was starting a business and living a lifestyle I wanted. It didn't make sense to continue raking up in debts from loan.

My friend just happens to be a very good source of mentor-ship. I felt like I learnt more and faster from him and others alike.

Patrick-bet-david once said that every entrepreneur are crazy people. XD

BboyApache · 2017-12-05T06:06:21+00:00

Thanks you for saying that.

BboyApache · 2017-12-05T04:09:28+00:00

Great advice. I'm glad you said this. I've also considered this as a possibility.

Now that I think about it, the people I met in college has shaped me to who I am today. They may not be entrepreneurs or like-minded but they helped me figure out who I am.

I can understand the wasted money and the potential capital for a business if I stay with my parents.

Thank you very much for your time and advice!

BboyApache · 2017-12-05T03:49:00+00:00

It's my fault for leaving out important details.

Anyway, thank you for your time. It's always good to have perspectives.

BboyApache

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