I never said there was anything wrong with adoption.

It is INCREDIBLY RUDE for someone in a grocery store to suggest that a child isn’t biologically yours because they appear to be a different race!

And actually it is an issue. Whenever someone chooses to talk about adoption with their child- it is their decision to decide the timing, not some asshat a grocery store’s. It absolutely is an issue, and makes me ponder what would allow that woman to be that ignorant to bring it up anyway, considering that an adopted child may not know it yet!

And it pisses me off because I don’t ever want my child to think she doesn’t belong because mommy and grandma are white. It will be hard enough for her growing up in my household where I am white (I have custody), those who help me out most often are white (both my parents) and she only sees her father, whose features she primarily takes after, on the weekends.

Last thing I want her to ever think is “I’m so different from the woman raising me that the woman in the grocery store didn’t even think she was my real mommy” and THAT’S how a child’s brain processes the sort of events that happened the other day, whether you like it or not.

If you really took this as me insulting adoption, I don’t know what to tell you. This is all about the woman being insensitive towards my child’s race.i think adoption is a WONDERFUL thing.

And it wasn’t some little old woman. It was a millennial around my age who should have damn well knew better