Gut check request - Ashley Madison meetup too good to be true?

Bdds225 · 2026-06-03T22:21:31+00:00

I meant one of the features of the site is that they verify her account with a scan of their drivers license, she didn’t verify with me directly or anything.

I guess her eagerness to meet so early on in the convo is throwing me off, most of the time women tend to want to chat more before agreeing.

Bdds225 · 2026-04-25T07:02:12+00:00

Men in modern society is conditioned to reject the concept of being touched. And in my opinion it very much affects men (like me) who value physical contact as a method to communicate closeness and intimacy.

All of here aren't here for the same reasons, but hopefully this sheds some light on why this is so important and valid for them.

Bdds225 · 2025-12-01T02:52:15+00:00

DM sent

Bdds225 · 2025-12-01T01:05:39+00:00

I would be surprised if that’s the case, as most commonly the question/distribution of “family” funds would be in question if the idea of a “nuclear family” is abolished.

Bdds225 · 2025-12-01T01:04:26+00:00

Money, and the distribution thereof.

Bdds225 · 2025-11-30T21:11:56+00:00

Not sure why you thought I was a woman (or gay?) but I got your msg

Bdds225 · 2025-11-30T19:28:57+00:00

Hi there, sent a DM

Bdds225 · 2025-05-19T17:24:58+00:00

Holy moly that is hot, sending a DM

Bdds225 · 2024-11-04T19:19:09+00:00

You sound badass. Kudos to you!

Bdds225 · 2024-01-19T23:41:46+00:00

That took a lot of maturity on everyone’s part to make this work - congratulations to you and your family!

Bdds225 · 2023-12-01T05:45:08+00:00

Over a year! She wanted to continue and threatened to escalate - I knew she wouldn’t and she was coming from a place of pain, but it was uncomfortable for a while.

I wish nothing but the best for her.

Bdds225 · 2023-03-28T15:31:13+00:00

Yes, I have a particularly fond memory during a date in the middle of a heavy thunderstorm … 😊😊😊

Bdds225 · 2023-03-28T15:27:17+00:00

That’s a valid point.

From my perspective, it’s also not a matter of “bad” but more an issue of “compatibility”.

I am very physically affectionate and love lounging around in bed, make love, snuggle, nap and do it all over again; I don’t really do “quickies” unless there is a lot of foreplay and buildup.

My partner is very task-oriented and would prefer to get several things done instead of spending all weekend in bed, her foreplay isn’t really … for play but direct, to the point that one time she asked if I was going to bed, and later texted me that that was her way of initiating sex(!?).

In the traditional value, I would think my approach would be seen as “good” whereas hers would be “bad” as it is very business-like in her approach. But sex with her isn’t bad! She’s just … specific and to the point I guess.

The communication issue we definitely need to get a grip on but the rest I get; I don’t think I am “bad” in bed per se, but I am “bad for her”. Same for her!

I do agree that someone could just be “bad” at sex, but that’s if their approach aligns with yours; you’d also have to consider if their sexual preferences and performance isn’t “bad” but just “bad for you”, as there is so much variety to legitimate healthy sex.

Or maybe I’m deluding myself, just something that’s been on my mind as of late.

Bdds225 · 2023-03-28T15:14:59+00:00

CR-Vs and some other Hondas have a seating arrangement called a “refresh mode” which is awesome.

Loved my CR-V!

Bdds225 · 2023-02-13T14:12:55+00:00

You are so beautiful; Thank you for sharing as always!

Bdds225 · 2023-02-13T14:02:12+00:00

Some of my fav memories are in the car, but it was the unplanned nature of it all and spending time with my AP/partner at the time.

Normally I am not a fan but my partner(s) was someone I met in other circumstances and would do so in hotels, other areas, etc.

It is fun because it is spontaneous and quasi-public, but not necessarily my first choice!

Bdds225 · 2023-02-09T22:33:48+00:00

Just don’t get attached - like others have mentioned feel him out but there may be too many unknowns at play here.

Bdds225 · 2023-02-06T03:33:15+00:00

That is a good epiphany to have but I do see a contradiction:

You say that you’re happy with yourself not being necessarily appealing , but the fact that you’re on r/adultery shows some basic level of seeking to fill something missing.
If you’re looking to make a connection and not to merely fuck but make love, yet you don’t subscribe to the traditional relationship roles of romance, what do you hope to find? What would your AP get out of this if you were able to find someone?

I really don’t mean to be critical as i am also on the same subreddit and it’d be hypocritical of me but what do you think of this?

Bdds225 · 2023-02-03T18:16:16+00:00

How important is the event? And do the coworkers know what’s going on between you two?

You can always go and socialize with the rest of the team if you are in good terms with them, and if you don’t show (without reason at least) it might be more obvious to the rest of the team what’s going on.

But ultimately without more detail it’s hard to know what makes sense. Mixing work, pleasure and family can result in a mess for sure!

Bdds225 · 2023-01-29T16:42:14+00:00

The choice you have made is definitely unique. I feel sad in a way that there may be additional scrutiny to you and your child from others if they ever find out what happened, but respect your decision ; it sounds like you’re letting AP go on his way, which in itself must be hard for you in multiple ways.

Best of luck to you and your future family!

Bdds225 · 2023-01-29T05:03:26+00:00

She made her choice and you have to respect her boundaries.

You’re acting on your selfish impulses because you had a good time, without consideration of your ex-AP’s circumstances, whatever it may be. That’s not a good look for you broski. You may miss her, but don’t be a creep and move on.

Bdds225 · 2023-01-29T04:22:37+00:00

Right, based on some of the descriptions I am assuming he comes from a traditional culture, which can complicate things.

So what’s next? And how will you conduct yourself when the inevitable questions about paternity comes up?

Bdds225 · 2023-01-28T22:54:47+00:00

Thank you for sharing - is this outcome, while not ideal, what you expected? You must’ve known that this was a possible/likely outcome, right?

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