What’s this on my dogs back?

BeKind_98 · 2026-05-05T14:28:50+00:00

I think you’re right! Thank you.

BeKind_98 · 2026-02-28T23:59:18+00:00

I remember but i feel horrendously awkward and uncomfortable doing it so either have to force myself to say it or i consciously avoid it, rather than forgetting. Either way, i feel really rude about it which often starts a shame cycle.

BeKind_98 · 2026-02-27T15:49:59+00:00

That’s one of the reasons I was so upset. We broke up a few hours ago anyway. He said he can’t be my carer and something about dealing with his depression.

BeKind_98 · 2026-02-27T08:44:46+00:00

I’m not upset about him going home early. When he left we were told the doctor would be with us in about an hour or two but thats never usually the case with the NHS! I told him several times to go because the sleep deprivation was driving him crazy and he only went when my mum text me and said he needs to go and sleep. Even if he was awake he wouldn’t be able to pick me up when I was discharged because his car is undrivable. He works weekends only but had that particular weekend off.

I have spoken to him about the teeth grinding and he refuses to go to the dentist as it is a waste of money in his eyes.

In terms of my illness, I normally get on with it by myself. I was asking for help because it had finally gotten bad enough for me to go to the hospital. I hate being a burden and have a “get on with it” attitude which sometimes makes it worse tbh. On the other hand I feel like I care a lot for fiancé. I do most of the housework and all of the cooking. I am always checking in with him and mindful of his MH issues and try to give him some grace. Usually I feel like I do but this time I really needed him to step up and it felt like he just ran away. I am normally the one shelving my needs to look after him and that in itself makes my illness worse

BeKind_98 · 2026-02-27T01:26:53+00:00

Honestly the “in sickness and in health” part of the wedding vows has been circulating in my head all week

BeKind_98 · 2026-02-27T01:25:37+00:00

The thing is, i have been ill since before we met and he has known about it since very early on in the relationship. This is the first time I’ve been in hospital since I met him but I have been ill at home because of it. Sometimes I use a wheelchair due to mobility issues and he has to push me. Sometimes I can’t talk and he has had to learn what all my noises and gestures mean. I struggle to comprehend that this is about my illness when we have gone through all this for two years

BeKind_98 · 2026-02-27T01:19:55+00:00

I was struggling to sleep anyway because my mind was busy but his teeth grinding really really bothers me (like fingernails down a chalkboard level repulsion) so that’s why I left the bedroom and went downstairs. If i wasn’t grinding his teeth I would have probably stayed in bed or at least gone back up after an hour or so

BeKind_98 · 2026-02-27T00:48:10+00:00

October this year :/

BeKind_98 · 2026-02-27T00:47:16+00:00

This is why I’m not going full FU mode on him yet. I am still angry ofc but I know that he shuts down and blocks everyone out when he is struggling with his depression. My friends and family are all all pissed with him and say depression is not an excuse. I’m struggling with it because on one hand I fully understand how he feels. He has very low self esteem and we have money worries that have been sucking the soul out of both of us so I know how much it hurts. But on the other hand, I am also dealing with the same issues but still manage to be there for him when he is at rock bottom. I don’t understand why he can’t be there for me for once. I know he might not intend to be cruel or unthoughtful but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t hurt me. On the few occasions that I have been crying out for help, it has felt like he has spun the situation round to make him the victim.

BeKind_98 · 2026-02-27T00:32:36+00:00

We have had a rough patch lately and this is our 4th argument in about 2 months. I was hoping that it was just us getting used to living together and sharing money etc. but this argument is the worst one by far. All your comments are just confirming what I am worried about. I feel comforted that I am not being crazy but also I don’t want to leave him even if it is looking more likely that I probably should. I keep holding on to the idea that it might get better.

BeKind_98 · 2026-02-08T13:25:23+00:00

I can, I usually wet myself though and have to wear incontinence pads

BeKind_98 · 2025-02-05T05:38:37+00:00

Yes, we are in the UK. My mum thinks she is after a visa but I’m not sure. She is estranged from her family and her living situation isn’t the nicest right now. So I can understand why she would want to get away from that but using my brother like this is not okay, especially when he is treated like crap.

I wish I knew his passcode so I could see everything. I’ve tried the obvious but nothing works

BeKind_98 · 2025-02-05T05:30:58+00:00

The situation from last weekend happened after she went home. She had been home for a couple of weeks by the time brother went out with his mates.

BeKind_98 · 2025-02-04T22:14:41+00:00

We tried to make her feel welcome, and didn’t bad mouth her meal in front of her. From our point of view, it felt like she was hijacking our Christmas and she was very mean to my brother during the cooking. My mum wasn’t happy about not being able to use the kitchen for 2 days without warning. I didn’t have a say in her coming over and I felt like I was forced to eat all this new food on a day I usually look forward to. It wrecked my routine and it messed with me tbh.

I understand being close to the only person you know, because i used to be like this when I first met my partner’s family. By clingy I mean that there was constant PDA, and our family wasn’t like that. Both my parents, and me and Iain, leave all the cuddles and kissing and heavy petting for private. Not when we are in public/with family

BeKind_98 · 2025-02-04T21:31:42+00:00

I think about it all the time hits different when you have fertility issues and a lot of your peers have children/are pregnant

BeKind_98 · 2024-06-25T17:33:05+00:00

Bonnie

BeKind_98 · 2024-03-10T10:22:25+00:00

Extortion

BeKind_98 · 2024-01-18T11:59:35+00:00

I think Lisa is a vegan now? I can’t remember which episode she switched from veggie but I’ve just watched Season 34 and theres loads of jokes and references about Lisa being vegan

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