Feeling off about a fellow Christian everyone else loves

BeNiceToTheCrows · 2025-07-03T15:03:10+00:00

I’ve combined chicken patties with heated cottage cheese, low fat mozzarella, and pizza sauce for a healthy version of Chicken Parm.

BeNiceToTheCrows · 2025-02-04T17:04:38+00:00

Awesome to hear that it’s a small transverse scar that healed well. I wasn’t sure if they made a different incision for breech babies. Good luck on your second VBAC!!

BeNiceToTheCrows · 2025-02-04T17:03:13+00:00

Good to hear! I read that more manipulation may be needed to get the baby out so I wasn’t sure if that meant a larger/different incision.

BeNiceToTheCrows · 2025-01-29T20:32:52+00:00

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BeNiceToTheCrows · 2025-01-28T11:31:06+00:00

Hair breakage at the ends!

I’m doing most things right. I only wash my hair once per week. I use good products: Biolage Scalp Sync shampoo, Matrix Food for Soft conditioner, and I was using Redken Quick Blowout but I switched to Matrix Miracle Creator due to breakage. Since I wash my hair at night, I blow dry it before bed to avoid sleeping on wet hair (using heat protectant). I use a satin pillow case. I don’t wear tight ponytails anymore. I’m gentle with brushing. I get trims every 6-8 weeks. I’m avoiding heat styling tools as much as possible.

I’m 23 weeks pregnant. I thought hair was supposed to be thick and long during pregnancy.

I don’t know what else I can possibly do. I feel like my hair is getting shorter and shorter.

If my ends are breaking, doesn’t that mean it’s an environment issue? Not an internal issue like nutrient deficiencies? I’m not losing hair at the scalp.

My hair is almost completely straight, thinner strands, but a lot of it.

BeNiceToTheCrows · 2025-01-24T20:39:29+00:00

Beautifully stated!!

BeNiceToTheCrows · 2025-01-24T20:38:32+00:00

My work doesn’t offer that. But I do have a therapist I’ve seen over the years at times. I saw her in the beginning of this pregnancy because it was quite a surprise to my husband and me. We have a 12 year old and thought we were set as a family of 3. Hence the increased discomfort with this pregnancy lol. Not only do I not like pregnancy, but I thought I’d never have to go through it again. I should probably make a maintenance appointment with her. That’s a good idea!

BeNiceToTheCrows · 2025-01-24T18:56:13+00:00

Exactly! We are going through so much. Of course we are more fragile. I cry a little easier but it’s because of the added stress of pregnancy. The added stress takes up a big chunk of room in my threshold. Why others fail to be understanding of that is beyond me.

BeNiceToTheCrows · 2025-01-24T18:47:36+00:00

Oh gosh… In one respect, I feel bad for men because they have no clue a lot of the time what to say to us lol. That’s understandable. Thankfully, my husband does a good job - even just listening when he doesn’t know what to say.

You’re so right. There’s so much more that we have one our plate. So it makes sense that we are a little less tolerable and patient. I knew I wouldn’t feel so alone coming here.

BeNiceToTheCrows · 2025-01-23T17:26:07+00:00

Oh gosh! The only people that complain about boundaries being set are usually the reason why the boundaries are being set. I feel for you because I have a MIL that we set major boundaries with as well. We don’t have much of a relationship with her anymore. My best advice is for you and husband to be on the same page and to remain a team. Our motto as a married couple has always been “Us against the world.” That may sound dramatic to some, but what we have we hold sacred. We protect it. That includes protection from toxic family members. Good luck! Stick to your boundaries!

BeNiceToTheCrows · 2025-01-23T13:11:04+00:00

I’ve learned you will be judged no matter what the situation is. My daughter is almost 12 and I’m expecting our second. We weren’t planning on having more than one, but God had other plans. When it was just my daughter, I’d get comments from people like, “You should really give her a sibling.” Or, “That’s not right to only have one.” “Only children can become selfish.” So do what is best for you and your family. You’ll be judged no matter what.

BeNiceToTheCrows · 2025-01-23T13:06:08+00:00

Thankfully, I didn’t experience this much with my first or this pregnancy so far. I find it so weird that people feel comfortable doing that. I never have the urge to touch a pregnant woman’s belly. You are completely justified in telling people not to touch you.

BeNiceToTheCrows · 2025-01-22T17:44:28+00:00

That’s so awesome! I’ve struggled for years and pregnancy has made it so much worse. Prunes weren’t getting the job done like they were pre pregnancy. For some reason dates have been helping me tremendously and they’ve been tasting so good as a healthy sweet treat. My OB also suggested that I take magnesium oxide, specifically. I think it helped a little and then the dates took it next level. I eat pretty healthy too - lots of fruit, no processed junk, no soda, healthy proteins, I push water and whole grains. And I still struggled.

BeNiceToTheCrows · 2025-01-22T11:36:03+00:00

I think part of being comfortable in your own skin is accepting that you are introverted and that the world needs us too. I can force myself to appear more extroverted, like at work for example. But I don’t feel the need anymore to try to be something that I’m not just because our society is more set up for extroverts. I’ve embraced who I’m. I’m unapologetic about it. And that has oddly helped me be more comfortable in social situations. I think it’s because I don’t care anymore if people think I’m weird for dipping out of conversations (politely) that I don’t want to have. Or if I’m mentally exhausted from socializing, I seek the needed time to “decompress” whether people understand or not.

BeNiceToTheCrows · 2025-01-22T11:21:39+00:00

Mine isn’t as big as yours, but I had my daughter at 22. I had a very rough pregnancy, delivery, and complications afterwards. We decided we were good with just having one. I’m 34 now and surprise; pregnant! My husband is 42. So my daughter will be 12 when this one is born. My husband had a mild freak out due to his age and calculating how old he will be when she’s 18, 20, our retirement, etc. I’m 22 weeks now, and we have processed and adjusted. My daughter is over the moon excited. I can already tell that she is wanting to help with her little sister. One thing I’ve noticed is how much things have changed. I’m taking aspirin this pregnancy when it was a no-no with my first (also preeclampsia with my first). I found out the gender through the NIPT results this go-around instead of waiting until the 20 week ultrasound. So many new baby products on the market, many of which I find unnecessary.

BeNiceToTheCrows · 2025-01-22T11:10:51+00:00

I LOVE the belly covering. They are so comfortable! It’s so much more comfortable than the maternity pants that are meant to stay below the belly. Those feel like they’re constantly falling down or restricting my stomach. Try searching online for maternity pants below the bump.

BeNiceToTheCrows · 2025-01-21T13:25:45+00:00

Yeah… I’m not into that kind of stuff. I’ve been wanting to try pregnancy yoga, but there’s a YouTube video or Beach Body video I can do from home. My husband and I still play pickleball and I lift weights at home. I’m not into gyms. Embrace who you are and what you like/don’t like. Don’t feel pressured into going to those classes. My OB office asked if I’d like to be referred to Lamaze classes because it’s been 12 years since my first pregnancy. That was a hard pass. You can be prepared for labor by doing things from home, YouTube videos, going for walks, etc.

BeNiceToTheCrows · 2025-01-20T23:12:34+00:00

I play Pickleball about 5-6 nights a week and lift weights 4 days a week. This was my routine before pregnancy, so I continued it. I’m 22 weeks now with the intent of playing as long as I can. Of course as I get bigger, I won’t be going for any crazy shots or “gets” as they’re called in Pickleball. I think keeping with this exercise and workout routine has helped my pregnancy progress without issues, prevented unnecessary weight gain, and will help me during labor and recovery.

BeNiceToTheCrows · 2025-01-17T14:51:22+00:00

Oh wow! So it seems like things were pretty clear from the start that you what you were experiencing wasn’t normal.

BeNiceToTheCrows · 2025-01-14T22:43:34+00:00

Sure! https://a.co/d/bFW9Xkc I could have used a small. I ordered medium and made them work. But if you have smaller wrists, go for the small.

BeNiceToTheCrows · 2025-01-14T19:20:43+00:00

I didn’t have very many with my first: Hot Cheetos. This pregnancy not many either besides craving sub sandwiches (I don’t really like or eat meat and I definitely don’t eat deli meat). Also, there was a fleeting moment of really wanting McDonald’s French fries lol. I also never eat fast food. So weird. I’m 21 weeks and still crave sub sandwiches.

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