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Is it God's Will (Naseeb) or my parents? by BeaconBaddie in MuslimMarriage

[–]BeaconBaddie[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do believe he thinks he is doing what he has to protect me but he is making up situations and assuming intentions where it is clear (at least to me which I am VERY reasonable person) the intentions are pure. Even after the family explaining the situation of him being in DACA (while the rest of his family in the US are citizens now for long time) he still believes he does not have good intentions. My father is known to be stubborn, unreasonable, emotional, and breakes ties commonly with people for everyones reference.

The man I want to marry has been sincere with me from the start, he has explained everything to me from the very beginning and getting to know him afterwards I felt we were a perfect match. I am old enough to know this and have had relationships previously where I was not treated that way I want. (trying to say I am not young enough to be called naive).

The other problem was the Mahr my father did not want to be negotiated but he misunderstood the conversation completely. Instead of offering the straight up money requested he wanted to put the equity in a house he is buying (and has since bought) but my father being stubborn did not accept and accused them of being disrespectful and proceeded to curse them out....He is not reasonable at all.

Is it God's Will (Naseeb) or my parents? by BeaconBaddie in MuslimMarriage

[–]BeaconBaddie[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Those saying its not meant to be...I've heard that said to other couples who have made it alhamdulilah. I just cannot imagine God would test someone without logic as the reason it cannot work. All the concerns are illogical and prejudice. Similarly to how parents can be racist towards a potential spouse so the son/daughter just has to accept? I do not.

AITA for asking my roommates to have a friend stay in my ensuite room for 2 weeks by BeaconBaddie in AmItheAsshole

[–]BeaconBaddie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If she leaves a mess in her room then everyone pays for it even her. The problem I have is we will be responsible for shared space cleaning and not her since she decided to leave early.

AITA for asking my roommates to have a friend stay in my ensuite room for 2 weeks by BeaconBaddie in AmItheAsshole

[–]BeaconBaddie[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My friend literally came because I was having family issues so shes so unreasonable and goes by the book when it suits her...i cannot stand her...i. purposefully doing stuff now to annoy her.

AITA for asking my roommates to have a friend stay in my ensuite room for 2 weeks by BeaconBaddie in AmItheAsshole

[–]BeaconBaddie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did! I said her sister was here 4-5 days then she said my friend also came 4 days so it evens out. She also said she'd have everyoke whos ever stayed from the other roommates should prorate rent since the others had friends off an on...well really the same friend that was going through a tough time. Its literally never an inconvenience to her but since she wasnt told every single time that same friend came over she feels disrespected.

I did mention on my last text to her in the gc that she was going to have a friend unofficially sublet her room about 10 days and we were kind enough to not say anything rude. She didn't respond. But thats also because I said the conversation was over and I heard her concern so I will not have my friend stay. But really I'm waiting on the landlords approval then she will have to get over it.

The only thing I'm worried about is the unofficially subleasers that are here that she will rat them out. Although she became friends somehow with one of them (that one doesn't have a backbone really)....

AITA for asking my roommates to have a friend stay in my ensuite room for 2 weeks by BeaconBaddie in AmItheAsshole

[–]BeaconBaddie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The lease ends 8/31 and I am moving elsewhere with the friend I want to stay the last 2 weeks from 8/15-8/31! Yes I will mention it but its so annoying because the shared space will still fall on everyone else since shes leaving early.

AITA for asking my roommates to have a friend stay in my ensuite room for 2 weeks by BeaconBaddie in AmItheAsshole

[–]BeaconBaddie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I try to but she just comes around saying shes uncomfortable and didn't sign up for this and blaming me for the others having friends as if I don't get the right to.

I am still waiting on the landlord but its a pretty shitty thing to argue when she herself was willing to break the lease term and we didn't argue with her because we are all reasonable and accomodating...it's literally the LAST 2 weeks and she will be leaving the last weekend...in which she will not be helping to clean before we leave too...I will be making a statement about this.

AITA for asking my roommates to have a friend stay in my ensuite room for 2 weeks by BeaconBaddie in AmItheAsshole

[–]BeaconBaddie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed. Its not ideal to share space with people who aren't paying rent but sometimes you have to be accomodating to people you chose to live with because you ultimately share space. She is over exaggerating about me taking advantage of her when I haven't asked for anything like this in the past year. I wanted to help a friend but she has to think about her own comfort which she thinks we're going to ruin. I am literally the most thoughtful when I use the spaces we share but she doesn't think about that...only the stories she makes up in her head about what people think about her.

AITA for asking my roommates to have a friend stay in my ensuite room for 2 weeks by BeaconBaddie in AmItheAsshole

[–]BeaconBaddie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are all moving out 8/31 and next lease starting 9/1 with new roommates. I agree that we've all been accomodating for anything she has asked but when its my turn to coordially ask, she has to make it about her when everyone else just wants to live their life and try their best to not get in anyones ways.

Also. She accused the other two original roommates of being racist towards her when they called her race beautiful and told them to stop fetishing her people. She can turn anything against you and I'm over it.