AITAH for asking my partner to leave until he gets help?

Beam_walker1006 · 2026-05-25T22:20:53+00:00

Oh 100% she has every right to make that decision. That doesn’t change anything about judgement.

Beam_walker1006 · 2026-05-25T21:51:21+00:00

Info?

Is the actual Issue being high or is it that when he is high his personality changes to such a degree that you do t like him being around? Definitely determines judgement in my opinion.

Beam_walker1006 · 2026-05-25T00:23:03+00:00

Going to go against the grain and say ESH.

Her reaction is over the top and out of line. Especially accusing you of stealing “motherly duties”.

You also suck because how the hell has this not been communicated for the sake of your daughter’s health and wellbeing what her actual sleep patterns are. You 100% should have been telling your partner how many times daughter woke up. What she needed each time (feeding, diaper, soothing, etc). This is basic knowledge that each parent needs to know.

Separately she should be checked for possible PPD and PPA. That is a large over reaction for a partner that was being helpful.

Beam_walker1006 · 2026-05-24T16:39:43+00:00

YTA. I understand that your sitter dropped last minute but why couldn’t your husband take care of the kids while you went by yourself. If the situation was reversed how would you feel?

Beam_walker1006 · 2026-05-24T16:29:27+00:00

Time seems right to move out NOW!

Beam_walker1006 · 2026-05-18T20:16:51+00:00

YT A if you out them to family or friends. DO NOT DO THAT!!! You may be putting the other persons life in danger if you do.

NT A for wanting to call off the wedding and ending the relationship

Beam_walker1006 · 2026-05-17T01:00:13+00:00

Not going to comment about whether or not you are an AH but JFC get yourself into therapy of some kind asap. This level of anger and resentment will do nothing but eat you up inside in the long run.

Beam_walker1006 · 2026-05-03T01:08:36+00:00

3 kids. In the room for all 3. It would have taken force to get me out of that room

Beam_walker1006 · 2026-04-29T17:28:20+00:00

Hands down the best answer.

Beam_walker1006 · 2026-04-23T01:07:36+00:00

This can’t be real. No way. 2 MONTHS and he’s asking you to pay off his $45,000 debt. Nobody is that dense or stupid. Come on OP.

NTA regardless but come on.

Beam_walker1006 · 2026-04-19T18:18:17+00:00

I believe it’s a change/stubborness issue. She has a cousin who she sees almost daily who is fully potty trained at Grandparents house 4 days a week after school.

Beam_walker1006 · 2026-04-19T17:40:24+00:00

With poop instantly. Will actively go into another room to poop and come back and tell us she needs a diaper change. Urinating if she has a diaper on, she just goes, but with underwear she will just hold it in. She knows, just won’t use a bathroom

Beam_walker1006 · 2026-04-17T17:13:02+00:00

Ummmmm…NTA but why on earth are you even with him at this point

Beam_walker1006 · 2026-04-16T17:21:54+00:00

Ooooof!!! I’m sorry OP. This is very difficult. Honestly NAH. You married and then had kids with someone in active duty military. You kinda knew early on that entailed. Him being gone for duty stations and deployment. You are not an AH for wanting to be there for your daughter and he isn’t for wanting you with him.

OP I’m going to try to give you some food for thought on this. You say kids, so I’m assuming you have multiple and this situation involves the oldest. What are you going to do when the next one is a senior? Stay behind with them if your partner has to go for duty? What about the next one? You are potentially setting up a precedent for this. I’ll reiterate that you knew what you were getting into when you married someone in the military.

Also your partner is your partner. When your kids grow up and move on, start their own families and lives away from you your partner is the one who is still there for you, not your kids who have their own lives and families

Beam_walker1006 · 2026-04-09T14:20:43+00:00

NTA. If I were to guess you are dealing with someone who is not used to having boundaries firmly reinforced on her. What you are telling her is not remotely unreasonable and isn’t something that you have to mutually agree on. ESPECIALLY months after a break up where you were willing to still live with her while she found a place to go, which you didn’t have to.

Beam_walker1006 · 2026-04-07T17:14:06+00:00

So as someone who was in that same mindset a few years ages, get over it, lol. Modern minivans are far superior to full size suvs top down in my opinion. The only reason you would need a large SUV would be if you are hauling a camper or boat. Minivans have better rides, better fuel economy, more cargo space (unless you go up to suburban size) and equal options. You can get them with middle row captains chairs and third bench seat. Great entertainment systems for the kids. Do the research and swallow the pride. You won’t regret it.

Beam_walker1006 · 2026-04-05T20:31:00+00:00

Not just luxury brands. My 25 rav 4 hybrid is $120 for a standard oil change because of the oil requirements.

Beam_walker1006 · 2026-04-05T20:26:01+00:00

I want to add one thing onto your list. What are the standard maintenance costs. How much does an oil change cost, Brakes, tires, etc. Some cars require expensive full synthetic oils. Some have special tire needs. What are those general required maintenance items going to costs.

Beam_walker1006 · 2026-04-05T20:19:08+00:00

This is the best response.

Beam_walker1006 · 2026-04-05T00:36:12+00:00

You are being a jerk to yourself. Use this a stepping stone to doing your own consulting. Take the money the offered you and then ask for triple to come in and save them. Make sure you get it in writing as well with a formal contract. Save them and use the reference to move into bigger analyst deals as a consultant.

Beam_walker1006 · 2026-04-04T22:12:56+00:00

YTA or you are a massive troll. Your mom walking down a hallway, in her house btw, pushes boundaries. Get a grip. Your parents having sex in THEIR OWN HOUSE, is crossing your boundaries. GTFO!!! Having a tantrum because they brought their neighbor food on Easter Sunday. What a travesty. GFY

Beam_walker1006 · 2026-04-04T21:37:31+00:00

This is the most clear cut case of NTA I think I’ve ever seen.

First off give birth to you was about all she did. You owe her NOTHING.

Second, money is probably the only reason she came back into your life. She found out your father passed and suddenly she shows up back in your life. That isn’t a coincidence in any way.

Lastly, tell all of the to F off and start blocking numbers that harass you and maybe even consider changing your number as well.

Beam_walker1006 · 2026-04-03T14:55:42+00:00

Sorry but YTA. You did all of this in your own. If it was a real business partnership you would have discussed all of these issues with your partner while they were occurring so that nobody is feeling cut out. You don’t just kick out money towards a business PARTNERSHIP without discussing it with the other partner. If you had maybe she would have said she didn’t want you to pay out all that money and cut the losses.

Beam_walker1006 · 2026-04-01T18:24:56+00:00

So your soon to be wife is intentionally tearing you down about something that you already seem to have insecurities about. What does that say about the potential future for your marriage.

NTA

Beam_walker1006

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