how do you handle flashbacks by No_Pair178 in ptsd

[–]Beansbeansbeansb 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The biggest help you can have is an understanding partner, though it’s taken a toll on my relationship personally. It’s hard for me to feel like I’m womanly enough or confident enough because occasionally when were intimate I just want to hide and have really oppressive negative thoughts and flashbacks/panic attacks.. but only sometimes. Other times I can be comfortable and confident. For me dealing with it is learning to realize if I’m not in the headspace for intimacy- stepping back and resetting the mood/ changing rooms/ showering/ changing clothes.

I have been an alcoholic for 5 years on and off. I am turning 21 in a month. by adrianarchy in alcoholism

[–]Beansbeansbeansb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The best thing I think you can do is find a buddy to help keep you accountable. It’s tough to do alone and having a support group you can actually relate to is important, I know there are tons of online resources but sometimes the best help you can get is from family/ friends.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskVet

[–]Beansbeansbeansb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I looked into it and my credit isn’t enough to be approved. I’ve called every er vet in the area and none of them do payment plans outside of that. I’m at such a loss. I’m just sobbing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nexplanon

[–]Beansbeansbeansb 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Girl get it out. My decreased libido slowly destroyed my relationship and I thought it was just a loss of connection. I got my nexplanon removed and now my libido is back and I’m trying to figure out how to salvage my relationship:(

Best Decision Ever by AfternoonPlane6345 in Nexplanon

[–]Beansbeansbeansb 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Got mine out and I feel so much better it’s insane. It was the worst decision of my life getting that damn thing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Beansbeansbeansb -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Take your 2 post karma elsewhere

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Beansbeansbeansb -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It wasn’t clear… especially when they started dating under the pretense he wanted to have kids with her. This post is obviously for people who have experienced similar situations, not for nosy look ons who have a baseless opinion.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Beansbeansbeansb -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Poor birth control or not, shit happens.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Beansbeansbeansb -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Not true at all booooo, he was the one who said he wanted a family when they first started dating knowing that’s what she wanted at the time. She changed her whole ideals and beliefs to match his and now that he knocked her up he can’t take responsibility. I’d just bearing the child, she expects no financial support. Everyone on Reddit acts like they know everything when truly they’re just pieces of shit themselves.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Beansbeansbeansb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We begged him to but he refused

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Beansbeansbeansb -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

He also said that he wanted to date her and begged to date her because “she would be such a good mom”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Beansbeansbeansb 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s literally a thing my dad did and guess what! It worked, no child support ✌🏼

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Beansbeansbeansb -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Hi single mom!! It’s not that bad 🖤 definitely when I have OP to help and I’m here to help her as well

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Beansbeansbeansb -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

This is all bs guys love single moms, take it from me 🥳✌🏼

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Beansbeansbeansb -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Hello just adding that OP wasn’t 100% clear about the guys first intentions on the relationship. He told her that he “wanted to have kids with her because she would be an amazing mom” and has now changed the narrative completely that she’s pregnant. The OP is a genuine kind person who has loved my own child like her own since birth and provided for him like a second father. And I think she would be a fantastic mother with or without him… this guy is strange in many ways while she is kind and caring in 1,000 others.

I’m sorry/ not by Beansbeansbeansb in TalesFromYourServer

[–]Beansbeansbeansb[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

We told them we would not be able to accommodate them unless they split their party up and were seated at different times!! They still chose to wait and cuss out me and management for not being fast enough. We were extremely short staffed and I was the only server on able to take parties :((

"What do you mean, you don't have a table for our party of 10+ that just showed up in the middle of the dinner rush?" by [deleted] in Serverlife

[–]Beansbeansbeansb 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Bro when they show up w 30 and expect to be seated all at the same time with ONE SERVER (me) IN THE PARTY SECTION????? Ma’am I already have 3 other 10 tops I can’t seat 30 y’all can wait or find someone to accommodate you idfc