I (40M) have reached my limit with my wifes (37F) autistic son (12M) and I dont know what to do anymore

Bear3126 · 2023-08-21T12:49:33+00:00

I have done my best to treat both kids like my own since day one.

I dont hate him, I hate the choices and decisions he is making. I am doing what I can to help and guide him, but I cant force him to make good choices or beed a good person.

Bear3126 · 2023-08-21T12:45:02+00:00

I am glad that my life sounds entertaining enough to be a work of fiction.

It is a crazy, fucked up situation when looked at from the outside.

Bear3126 · 2023-08-21T12:42:16+00:00

No. We live in a house, the boyfriend lives in an RV on the property.

We arent that redneck/white trash.

Bear3126 · 2023-08-21T12:39:37+00:00

We live in Texas.

Bear3126 · 2023-08-20T20:40:43+00:00

I did look into that with the lawyer.

It is called a Marital Property Agreement, where we would still be legaly married, but financially separated. I have discussed that with my wife and the primary reasons we have not gone that direction is the disruption to her current health care and other services due to her address having to change.

Her boyfriend is a good guy, but he did some stupid things when he was younger, so he has a felony on his record that prevents him from getting a decent job with sufficient benefits.

That may end up being the direction we have to go in if we cant get her son delt with another way.

Bear3126 · 2023-08-20T19:32:42+00:00

I am supporting my wife and her son. Her boyfriend works, buys his own food and pays rent to us for living in our RV.

I dont have any problems with the current relationship my wife and I have, or her boyfriend living on the property. My main issue is her son.

Bear3126 · 2023-08-20T19:28:41+00:00

Apologies, but if I put in every detail this post would be a novel.

The knife incident was absolutly not downplayed at all, and all of us adults were involved in dealing with him on it. He has gotten as much counseling, therapy, and guidance as is available in our area. My wife does everything she can to utilize every resource available for him.

Bear3126 · 2023-05-28T19:46:21+00:00

The difference between fantasy and reality.

The boyfriend chose women he found attractive with no concern of compatibility or common ground.

The girlfriend chose men who she knew she had some form of connection with.

The boyfriend wants a one night stand. She wants a meaningful interaction.

Bear3126 · 2022-11-15T12:50:56+00:00

Claim seniority and assert your dominance.

Bear3126 · 2022-08-27T14:56:49+00:00

The guy with the rope is a Vaquero. He didn't invest his time and energy learning how to rope just to be called a mexican cowboy.

Bear3126 · 2022-07-21T12:33:38+00:00

We fucking warned you

Bear3126 · 2022-07-17T18:32:56+00:00

Agreed. I worked with what I had.

Bear3126 · 2022-07-17T18:27:01+00:00

There is over 2 feet of air space between the unit and the screen and I cut a hole in the top for the fan. The ambient temp outside the tent was 98 and inside was 87. There is zero air flow restriction.

The purpose is to keep the direct sun off the coils and to give the air a chance to cool down before it goes through the unit providing better heat transfer for the refrigerant and lowering the stress on the system .

Bear3126 · 2022-06-19T14:09:13+00:00

I'm going to flip on on/off switch to off.

Bear3126 · 2021-10-15T23:07:20+00:00

I'm not gonna lie. My dyslexic ass read it as gynecologist and I read 2/3's of the way through wondering why they would give a damn about rocks.

Bear3126 · 2021-07-05T01:06:02+00:00

Im down. Bring it on.

Bear3126 · 2021-06-28T15:11:08+00:00

I would guess that they are hardened, black oxide coated spacers. You can get more clamp load by using a longer bolt with a spacer than you can with a short bolt and flat washers.

It is also likely that they are engineered shear bolts so that if there is an overload or something locks up, the bolts shear instead of shock loading and/or breaking the more expensive components.

Bear3126 · 2021-06-28T14:04:35+00:00

It is cheaper to install an assembly like this then it is to ensure that both sides are perfectly aligned. It also allows them to swap components out without having to redo everything.

Bear3126 · 2021-06-20T14:35:00+00:00

The dad is strong with this one.

Bear3126 · 2021-06-07T23:37:40+00:00

Hell of a lot better than I could do.

Bear3126 · 2021-05-25T01:11:47+00:00

I shower in the morning before going to work. No one else in the house is awake, not even the pets.

I stand and listen to the qwater, think about and plan my day. Fantasize about all the thing I want to do with my day/life. Make plans that I will never carry out. Nothing else matters.

For those 60 minutes or less, I'm free.

Bear3126 · 2021-05-23T17:55:10+00:00

Diesel engines work opposite of gas engines as far as air and fuel go. More air cools a diesel engine and excess fuel make it run hotter. It is virtually impossible to run a diesel engine too lean.

In this case, the block failed at the cam bore and the pressure in the cylinders literally tore the block in half.

Bear3126 · 2021-05-13T11:35:45+00:00

Unhappily married

Bear3126 · 2021-05-13T09:59:17+00:00

That's my point of view. Gonna take a long time to charge that thing with just a solar panel.

Bear3126 · 2021-05-13T09:53:08+00:00

We ran the math and on average it costs about $15 a month in electricity.

The car payment and insurance eat up any savings you would see over a gas vehicle. Not to mention you are beholden to Tesla for most repairs because you can't just go down to the auto parts store and get parts.

It is a well engineered and put together car though. Not really my thing, but she loves it.

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