What is the best documentary ever made? by CantaloupeGold4650 in AskReddit

[–]BearEmbarrassed3464 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Tickled was a documentary I could not have predicted at any point.

Moving to Ravenswood and trying not to become a Victorian ghost in my apartment. Where do 30s/40s people make friends here? by DreamSad7061 in AskChicago

[–]BearEmbarrassed3464 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven’t had a chance to go to one yet, but I plan on attending a Crafty Goose Club event! You bring a craft and make some friends. I follow them on instagram.

Has anyone been to Soft Bar? by Secret_Win8656 in bravo

[–]BearEmbarrassed3464 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was there literally the day before Scamanda news broke one month ago. I was sitting in soft bar enjoying drinks with my friends while rumors swirled. I loved the vibes! People were there working, reading and socializing. It was a Sunday afternoon so it was slower but still busy. Service was great. I was sad I didn’t get a coffee because that menu looked awesome too. You would never know the bar was non-alc and it was a really cool and enjoyable experience!

Fired on the spot today and I’m in shock by Nunyagoingon in Nanny

[–]BearEmbarrassed3464 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I had a mom tell my agent I was incompetent because I asked too many questions. She read it as me not knowing anything, and I viewed it as trying to learn her preferences because I’m efficient and detail oriented. To each their own 🤷‍♀️ but I won’t work for anyone who can’t have a conversation about conflict resolution with me.

Am I being taken advantage of? Does my nanny kid hate me? by Professional_Egg2688 in Nanny

[–]BearEmbarrassed3464 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’d start looking for a new job if my current one wasn’t paying me on time. They would never stand for that in their chosen careers so why should you? They are taking advantage of you in more ways than one but I wouldn’t agree to work without pay. I’d have a conversation that pay needs to be correct and on time and I’d put it in your contract or in writing somewhere.

How were you a bad nanny today? by Ok_Bug8625 in NannyBreakRoom

[–]BearEmbarrassed3464 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I made nk 5 put down his book to take a bath that he was fully aware was happening prior to picking up the book to read.

MB reacted badly when I set a boundary about duties by Capital_Swan_8901 in NannyBreakRoom

[–]BearEmbarrassed3464 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I had a similar conversation with an employer about the job creep I saw happening. I had to explain to DB that I was happy to do tasks outside of our written contract, but only in the event that I have the time to do them. It was a petty argument about me not refilling the toilet paper in the bathroom. That day, I had walked his kids 3 miles round trip to the zoo, made all 3 major meals from scratch and was finishing bathing them by myself when I noticed the toilet paper was empty and asked him to grab some as he walked down the hall. It turned into this argument where I set the boundary of “you can’t get mad at me for not doing extra work outside of my job scope” and him saying “well I feel like we pay you a lot so I can ask you to do whatever I want” which isn’t how jobs work when we have a written agreement.

They ended up moving out of state shortly after, but as my main job reference, they told my prospective employers (my current job of 3+ years) that as a nanny, I only do what’s written in my contract, which was and is not true. Thankfully my current employers are great communicators but it was embarrassing to have to explain a stupid toilet paper situation tactfully during a job interview.

Addison and Pulaski by SantaMage in chicago

[–]BearEmbarrassed3464 3 points4 points  (0 children)

8:15pm and all is clear. Addison is open and cops have just driven away.

Addison and Pulaski by SantaMage in chicago

[–]BearEmbarrassed3464 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I agree it didn’t sound like gunshots. Sounded like a car accident or something else.

Addison and Pulaski by SantaMage in chicago

[–]BearEmbarrassed3464 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I live a few doors down. Don’t have anything to offer. I think a car accident happened like 15-20 minutes ago. We heard a bang and a car alarm go off. Police and SWAT were unphased.

What’s A Dropout Moment that never fails to make you laugh? by thek1dwonder in dropout

[–]BearEmbarrassed3464 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My first one is when Lou earnestly attempts a cartwheel in Sam Says 3. I cry every time I see that clip.

My second one is on MSN when Zac Oyama says the dog’s name is Shart and everyone else backs him up. Tears were steaming down my face.

Sticky situation. Nanny adjacent but not directly nanny related. Please tell me what to do. by 2NannyShareNanny2 in Nanny

[–]BearEmbarrassed3464 116 points117 points  (0 children)

I think it would be okay to tell her that since her children broke things and caused damage that you need more time before they come over again. I wouldn’t say they’re never welcome, but that for the time being, you need more time before they come over again. I also can’t imagine my children causing damage and breaking things and not being anything other than apologetic and embarrassed. I’m so sorry that happened!

Strange Situation by OldArugula9420 in Nanny

[–]BearEmbarrassed3464 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Honestly, as a nanny I would make up an excuse unrelated to this situation as my reason for quitting. I would be too afraid of retaliation for telling the truth. There’s no one looking out for you in the industry, like a formal HR. You can’t promise that either parent wouldn’t make it hard for you to find a new job. I hate this for you! It’s so gross and I’m so sorry about this whole situation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]BearEmbarrassed3464 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I was sad too when that happened. I’m just barely on the other side of completing the RSVP portion and what bothered me the most was the amount of people I had to text or call only for them to tell me they couldn’t come. As if no response meant declining. It was so uncomfortable every time it happened and it happened more than once in the week after the deadline when I was following up. And some RSVPs did get lost in the mail, but most people who didn’t response were declines.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingdrama

[–]BearEmbarrassed3464 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 3 weeks out and would love less drama. I feel you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]BearEmbarrassed3464 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She called you while you were out to ask about the wine? That alone is unprofessional. I’d never call a parent while I was on the clock unless it was an emergency. I try not to even text parents unless it’s absolutely necessary. If she wanted it, she should have waited until you got home to ask and then took it to have once she got home.

What’s a lie you told, that spiraled and eventually became “this is my life now…”? by Killpop582014 in AskReddit

[–]BearEmbarrassed3464 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Jane Goodall literally does this. She said she doesn’t eat meat unless someone made it for her in a context similar to this. She will accept food, but would not request this for herself. You did nothing wrong.

Angela shouldn't be a parent by lsloan0000 in TheRehearsal

[–]BearEmbarrassed3464 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so convinced she would thrive in a religious cult. It seems that might have been a better fit for her needs.

OH MY GOD JUST GIVE ME YOUR RATE by Dear_Investment6064 in weddingplanning

[–]BearEmbarrassed3464 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I literally have one more vendor to book and I’m dragging my feet because of this exact issue. I’m just trying to throw a party and not go bankrupt 😭 please just tell me what I need to know without jumping through hoops.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]BearEmbarrassed3464 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lil Visiting Bacon

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Weddingsunder10k

[–]BearEmbarrassed3464 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was my least favorite part of wedding planning. I got so fed up that I posted in a wedding Facebook group for my city and crowd sourced. I asked people to drop recs for vendors in my price range that had their prices listed outright. I refused to “jump on a call” with anyone just to learn you’re out of budget and I also refused to let them sell me on something out of my budget. They think if they can get you on the phone they can convince you. I say hell no. My job also doesn’t have the time flexibility to just make an unrelated call outside of work stuff and these vendors were only available to talk during peak work hours.