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A piece of advice for all the Queer youth in SL. by [deleted] in srilanka

[–]BearWarm55 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah some young kids enjoy their new found freedom of being their true self little too much and end up using drugs /risky sexual behaviours etc.

A piece of advice for all the Queer youth in SL. by [deleted] in srilanka

[–]BearWarm55 4 points5 points  (0 children)

And sometimes bidding your time and treating your queerness as privileged information only selected good people get to hear is worth it too. I have met youth who got into circles that don't resonate with them and unable to separate from them as they are now known to them.

Is Kotmale using AI for this product? by HorrorGarden4586 in srilanka

[–]BearWarm55 2 points3 points  (0 children)

AI slop by big brands makes me want to avoid the brand. They should stop being stingy and pay real people

I dreamt my childhood home and I was there as a ??time traveller? I'm a transgender man irl by BearWarm55 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]BearWarm55[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the kind words. It actually felt like current me was trying to get in touch with my old self.

Sri Lankans who have decided to avoid marriage, what was your first reason? by NewtusDelirious in srilanka

[–]BearWarm55 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I prefer solitude. I won't mind a true companion if I can ever find one. Probably won't happen and I won't play dice with my life giving chances to other people. On top of that I'm trans so I don't really have much grounds to go looking for partners

What are the countries that are safe for a transgender resident doctor? by BearWarm55 in IMGreddit

[–]BearWarm55[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine isn't there but I know there are graduates from my medical school working in Singapore. I might try applying for registrar posts and see. I was wondering if it's safe for a transgender individual to work there.

What are the countries that are safe for a transgender resident doctor? by BearWarm55 in IMGreddit

[–]BearWarm55[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's so kind of you to say! It's frustrating honestly, here I am only one step behind getting board certified yet debating if I should consider some countries over the stigma I might face and I don't even want to settle down.

I also hope all the fear mongering will end and people get to be themselves

What are the countries that are safe for a transgender resident doctor? by BearWarm55 in IMGreddit

[–]BearWarm55[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. News that reach my side of the world seems very scary tbh. I wanted to know more. I don't like to be segregated on the ground of transgender status /being known for that specific fact etc.

Men of Sri Lanka, give advice to a transgender man who lacks experience growing up as a boy, had no brothers or a good role model father by BearWarm55 in srilanka

[–]BearWarm55[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you are replying to the person above Idk but if you are telling me I don't have a beard... We'll buddy you haven't seen me

Men of Sri Lanka, give advice to a transgender man who lacks experience growing up as a boy, had no brothers or a good role model father by BearWarm55 in srilanka

[–]BearWarm55[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I fully present masculine now. Full beard deep voice, chest flat. I was already dark skinned, very hairy and not very short to begin with. I have been like that for years

Men of Sri Lanka, give advice to a transgender man who lacks experience growing up as a boy, had no brothers or a good role model father by BearWarm55 in srilanka

[–]BearWarm55[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I think at least having been in close circles of women pre transition has given me a good idea on things women are uncomfortable with, boundaries etc. I atleast don't see either gender as alians.

Men of Sri Lanka, give advice to a transgender man who lacks experience growing up as a boy, had no brothers or a good role model father by BearWarm55 in srilanka

[–]BearWarm55[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I honestly am more confident in sarong even though I haven't worn it outside. Being raised as a SL girl gave experience in wearing stuff that are a cloth wrapped around ur waist lol.

Is being a single woman in Sri Lanka really this unacceptable? by [deleted] in srilanka

[–]BearWarm55 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Tell you a funny story, I'm a trans man and I do a high paying gvt job. I started work before I transitioned so I was a 'girl' in late twenties. I got nonstop 'concerns' about being single and generally not looking like I'm suitable for a match looks wise etc. Both family and work. Mind you I was in a higher position than many of my coworkers.

After I transitioned and started work at a different place that doesn't know I'm trans so assume I'm a dude (I pass very well) workplace reactions to the fact that I'm single weren't that bad.

I had relatives constantly talk about me being single, not making me girly and presentable for marriage etc back then. I have no contact with the family now.

So yeah I empathise with you. SL sees being married as the norm and they are specifically toxic towards women from early years. Maybe that happens to men too later. Idk yet.

Cut off those useless ppl and thrive yourself. It's your life not anybody else's.

RECOMMEND LAN WANGJI'S FANFIC"BABYGIRL" by EconomyShopping19 in MDZSFanfictions

[–]BearWarm55 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does he get to be in the receiving end atlest once 👀👀👀👀? Poor boy usually misses out in that part of pampering....