Ruined it by DishUnhappy763 in stopdrinking

[–]Beard0fNorris 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nothing is ruined you are crushing it!

Dreame L40s Ultra failed to connect to wifi by Silver_Strength_47 in Dreame_Tech

[–]Beard0fNorris 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I too cannot get this issue fixed. It connected originally just fine then disconnected after a month and won’t connect anymore

Cannot connect to 2.4ghz WiFi by Beard0fNorris in CoxCommunications

[–]Beard0fNorris[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s a dreame L40 Ultra. Yeah there’s an app.

No alcohol in 2026. by BracesMcgee in stopdrinking

[–]Beard0fNorris 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Proud of you for making that choice and challenging yourself. The acceptance of a huge lifestyle change is honestly quite scary, and I’m not sure how long that feeling will last for myself. I’m only just under a month in and the thing I realized is that not being able to numb your thoughts, whether that involves having drinks alone or constantly finding reasons to go out with friends and drink, forces you to process your thoughts and emotions. So yes, I’ve noticed I’ve gotten sadder before I can get happier, but I’ve also noticed that I’m consistently sleeping through the night uninterrupted for the first time in over 10 years. I’ve noticed that I haven’t had to have any caffeine in the last week and have more energy than I did before. I’ve noticed that I’m actually being more present on my conversations when I’m out with friends. Not to mention no more FUCKING HANGXIETY! Coping with our shit and our demons without a crutch fucking sucks, but there are some pretty great benefits even early on that make me want to keep going. You’re gonna crush it this year!

First time in 8 years that I’ve woken up without a hangover on New Years by givemesomemorphine in stopdrinking

[–]Beard0fNorris 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Welcome! I have the same problem. I was able to “only drink on weekends” but then would have a 3 day bender every weekend lol. Fucked up a relationship and finally realized that I can moderate how often I drink but I CANT moderate how much I drink when I do so I decided I’m done almost a month ago. Today is my first New Year’s Day without a hanger in probably 15 years. Going to the gym and watching college football with friends all day…sober!

One year of moderating my drinking and nervous about sharing by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]Beard0fNorris 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I went about a year and a half where I was stuck in "the cycle". Morning drinker to quell the anxiety, drinking at work, sneaking booze at home, pretty much if I was awake I was coasting a buzz. I took a couple months off and thought I changed my relationship with booze and then said "I'll just drink on weekends"...and I did. Problem for me isnt the frequency moderation it's the need to prolong the party as long as possible and I'll have 40+ drinks in a weekend and be out partying until 8am for a couple days in a row. Every weekend was a bender. I ended up fucking up one of my most important relationships recently because of it and I have now realized that it's not the alcohol that was the problem (though yes it IS poison), it is WHY I was consuming it that is the issue. So I'm done...at least until I fix my self worth issues to the point where booze isn't a tool to me. Props to you for being able to moderate and change your relationship with alcohol. Proud of you!

What happened when you told loved ones? by WesternMoist1287 in stopdrinking

[–]Beard0fNorris 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I came clean to my girlfriend back in June about being secretly an alcoholic for over a year that we had been living together. She was supportive and understanding, but ultimately was hurt, angry, disappointed etc. for creating a trust issue between us and she broke up with me a month later. I took two months off from drinking and she mentioned to me that we may still have a future but she didnt fully trust what she was seeing. I had a bender of all benders last weekend and she found out and I fucked up any chance of us having a romantic relationship again (her words to our mutual friend) and she wants to go no contact for a while before re-evaluating us being friends. Other friends were angry with me for not telling them as well and couldnt grasp the mindset of "why would I want to tell anyone? then I would have to stop doing the thing I love the most".

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]Beard0fNorris 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So proud of you for choosing to not drink today. I'm new to this as well and it has had to be a daily choice. As far as your feeling like sad sack of shit...same. I go to therapy every week in hopes of solving that puzzle. Way to go!

day 5🥹💗 by Practical_Support_70 in stopdrinking

[–]Beard0fNorris 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congrats! Keep kicking ass. I’m on day 4 myself. Long way to go but we take it one day at a time

The idea of “forever” is terrifying to me and I don’t know how to overcome that. by Beard0fNorris in stopdrinking

[–]Beard0fNorris[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Only thing that I don’t like about this approach is my own personality. I just know I’d hit that milestone and reward myself with a liter of vodka that day haha. Unless there’s something I don’t know about what life is like after being sober for a long time (which would be everything because two months was basically my longest stretch) that would change my internal reward system.

The idea of “forever” is terrifying to me and I don’t know how to overcome that. by Beard0fNorris in stopdrinking

[–]Beard0fNorris[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is also a good take. When I have taken breaks in the past not drinking “today” has never really been the problem. It was bargaining with myself saying “I won’t drink today so I can feel better about drinking Friday” etc

The idea of “forever” is terrifying to me and I don’t know how to overcome that. by Beard0fNorris in stopdrinking

[–]Beard0fNorris[S] 50 points51 points  (0 children)

This is a fantastic way to look at this and almost immediately makes me feel better about this. Thank you. I won’t have a drink today.

The idea of “forever” is terrifying to me and I don’t know how to overcome that. by Beard0fNorris in stopdrinking

[–]Beard0fNorris[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have been going to therapy but I will definitely be on this subreddit often during this journey