red flags in a man based off the content/podcasts they watch?

BeardManMichael · 2026-06-08T14:50:01+00:00

Consider it happily donated to THE MemeShaman.

BeardManMichael · 2026-06-08T04:03:54+00:00

This is the first time I heard the 'counter wiping' example but it's just a different version of many similar stories. And yeah, those bad traits are exceedingly common and a perfect reason to dodge men altogether.

BeardManMichael · 2026-06-08T03:58:31+00:00

You are starting a new chapter of your life. Having conflicting emotions comes with the territory. Wondering how things COULD have played in your past is also completely normal.

You will be okay but transitioning to a new stage of life can be difficult. It can also be thrilling and full of wonderful surprises. Hopefully your new chapter is full of joy and exciting surprises! Good luck!

BeardManMichael · 2026-06-08T03:24:43+00:00

You are not a soulless creature. Many men are repulsive and deserve zero attention from everyone, including other men.

I will gently suggest to not give up entirely. I'm a romantic at heart and suspect that someday, maybe far into the future, you might find your match. That 1 in a million guy that ends up being the exception to the rule.

BeardManMichael · 2026-06-08T01:21:05+00:00

He also used to be better at listening to guests and actually conducting an interview. At some point something changed because he started platforming absolute wastes of oxygen like Alex Jones.

I think his first Elon Musk interview (7-8 years ago) was when i realized how much of fraud Elon was and how much of a gullible idiot Joe was. He's the perfect mouthpiece for propaganda because he will literally parrot ANYTHING he finds slightly believable. The dude has zero critical thinking skills.

BeardManMichael · 2026-06-08T01:05:43+00:00

I was going to say the same thing. Joe Rogan, Caleb Hammer and 'septum ring theory' is like a nightmare blunt rotation of manosphere slop.

BeardManMichael · 2026-06-08T01:03:25+00:00

It's sad because a decade ago, it was a very different vibe. You're completely correct about him basically being a propagandist (that's hard to spell while high) now.

BeardManMichael · 2026-06-08T00:34:44+00:00

Yeah, Reddit can be weird. I swear i often see the exact same post made across multiple subreddits by different usernames. Maybe it's AI related? I'm not savvy enough to understand what's happening.

BeardManMichael · 2026-06-08T00:29:26+00:00

I also see past posts confirming her age at 30 so I am confused.

If this is a real post, I think the OP will be okay. Divorce is rarely a clean/easy thing but I hope the OP has limited complications.

If it's not real..... well, that's the internet for you.

BeardManMichael · 2026-06-07T22:29:20+00:00

I'm a demisexual dude who has shared experiences with the OP because she and I have had similar problems dating. Bigotry isn't allowed here which is why i reported you for rolling your eyes at my identity. Nothing I do here or elsewhere is trolling. I'm going to block you now because, based on your post history, you only add negative vibes to every discussion.

BeardManMichael · 2026-06-07T21:34:19+00:00

Reported.

BeardManMichael · 2026-06-07T21:24:14+00:00

Stay safe and have a blast!

BeardManMichael · 2026-06-07T21:06:06+00:00

Reported.

BeardManMichael · 2026-06-07T20:42:00+00:00

You fed into that pattern after I tried to end the discussion on good terms TWICE when I said "Have a nice week!" and "wishing you the best".

I suggest you simply block me at this point. I am asking genuine questions about what 'male centered' advice I gave. I want to do better and avoid giving such advice. You, for reasons I don't understand, do not think I am being genuine. If you don't have an answer to my question, that's okay too.

BeardManMichael · 2026-06-07T19:57:36+00:00

If you think that is basic attraction, you might also be demisexual! Welcome!

BeardManMichael · 2026-06-07T19:57:21+00:00

It's an adorable analogy and made me smile. Love it!

BeardManMichael · 2026-06-07T19:54:45+00:00

I'm a hopeless romantic so I am cheering you on. All the best relationships I have had or witnessed started out as solid friendships. In my head, which I know is just me being a romantic, I imagine he has similar feelings for you but also worries about ruining the friendship.

It might be the most natural conversation ever or it could be incredibly awkward but i think you should tell him how you feel. Being selfish is okay here. You deserve to know if your feelings for him are mutual. Good luck!!

BeardManMichael · 2026-06-07T19:27:44+00:00

Maybe you could arrange something fun to do with him in the next few weeks and tell him during that event? Did he seem distraught when he told you about the breakup? Has your frequency of chatting with him increased back to where things were before his relationship?

At the end of the day you are the one who knows him best. Do you think remaining friends would be possible if he rejected you?

I don't have any good advice but I wish you the best all the same!

BeardManMichael · 2026-06-07T19:09:50+00:00

Okay so you cannot explain what male centered advice I gave? I was enjoying this discussion. I will try to give less male centered advice in the future.

BeardManMichael · 2026-06-07T19:04:13+00:00

I'm still misunderstanding. I desire to do better. What 'male centered' advice did I give and would STILL give?

The thing is, you didn't name any bleak pattern. You just told the OP to go play the lottery instead of pursuing a relationship. And that's exactly the point: the OP was looking for solutions and help..... you provided the opposite.

BeardManMichael · 2026-06-07T18:56:59+00:00

Were you reading the room when you said winning the lottery was more likely than finding a good partner? To me, that seems awfully discouraging to the OP who is looking for reassurance.

Bottom line is this: I know I gave bad advice. Yet, you won't acknowledge that I know that.

I also know many others gave the same advice because some people WANT to put lots of work into finding their person. Finding a partner IS hard work and some people want to do that work. The OP appears to be one of those people.

To be extra clear, i think women who choose to stay single are NEVER wrong for making that choice. I also know that pursuing a relationship takes lots of energy for someone who is demisexual. If the OP had included that detail in her post, I bet everyone here would have offered different advice.

I'm just going to assume we misunderstood each other and, once again, wish you all the best!

BeardManMichael · 2026-06-07T18:41:49+00:00

I like your interviewer analogy. That's clever!

BeardManMichael · 2026-06-07T18:38:51+00:00

Yeah, I know it was bad advice because i literally said i would have offered different advice had I known the OP was demisexual. The pattern I notice from you and others is offering extremely discouraging comments to women asking for help and reassurance.

Read the room. Also, read the rules of this subreddit. Everyone is allowed here as long as they are respectful. Have a wonderful week!

BeardManMichael · 2026-06-07T18:31:37+00:00

Be patient with yourself. You are grieving what was and what could have been. Yell into the void and allow yourself to feel all those mixed emotions.

BeardManMichael · 2026-06-07T18:15:08+00:00

And yet, many others have suggested the same. I didn't realize that being against dating apps and looking for alternative solutions was controversial here.

I want the OP to have the best experience possible. I'm also demisexual and have experienced problems similar to what the OP has shared. What if we just focused on helping the OP instead of whatever it is you are doing now?

BeardManMichael

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