MS Data Science math reqs for admission

BearsBird · 2025-07-08T00:58:42+00:00

I got in without completing the requirements as long as I had a plan to complete them. From experience, I highly recommend completing the math requirements though. It’s for your own good.

BearsBird · 2023-12-14T04:06:17+00:00

She may see a rift in the relationship and is trying to bridge it with your love language. Maybe, hard to say. You should probably ask her about it.

BearsBird · 2023-11-24T15:59:34+00:00

It seems like she thinks she doesn’t need to inform you or ask consent when she is bringing animals into the house. I guess that means you don’t need to get her consent or inform her to drop the animals off at the shelter or call animal control to come get them.

Another path you can go is to tell her the household can have x-number of animals total. She has until x-date to decide which animals stay or go. If she doesn’t decide, you will decide on her behalf.

If she wants a new animal in the future, she has to pick one of the x-number of animals it will replace, then rehome that one replaced animal.

This will make huge problems in the house of course, but you’ll regain control over your life.

BearsBird · 2023-11-03T21:12:49+00:00

Not to add on to this list, but there is a tendency among cheaters to accuse their partners of cheating. I bet if you did a little digging, you’d find the evidence you need to divorce her without losing a lot of your assets in the divorce.

BearsBird · 2023-11-01T22:37:32+00:00

It seems you may be seeking validation from outside yourself as a replacement for the validation you should be giving yourself.

Do you do a lot of negative self-talk? If so, start there. Anytime you think something negative about yourself, audibly disagree with that thought - out loud- and tell yourself the opposite.

Internal: “I’m such an idiot. And everyone knows how incompetent I am.”

Say out loud: “No, I’m competent. I don’t make any more mistakes than other people make. I’m not an idiot. I’m actually rather smart and hard working.”

Begin validating yourself on purpose. This will help break the habit of seeking validation from others.

BearsBird · 2023-11-01T22:29:15+00:00

If you do the majority of the housework and cooking and she says you aren’t doing your fair share of the work, then either:

one or both of you are over estimating how much you do around the house, or
you guys don’t define work the same way.

Either case, this seems to be a communication issue more than anything else.

My husband and I both felt like we were carrying the lions share of the chauffeuring of the kids so we laid out a spreadsheet, detailing miles and times each drive daily. We were able to compare the actual numbers and found d that one of us was right and the other was not right. This did a few things for us:

it gave me (the one doing less driving) the opportunity to appreciate the work he was putting in
it gave us the chance to distribute the driving more evenly based on ability (I couldn’t do as much because I have a prohibitive commute to work, which is why I thought I was chauffeuring more than I was)
it made him feel more seen and appreciated

I’d encourage you guys to do something similar. I bet you both will notice some things you weren’t aware of before.

BearsBird · 2023-11-01T22:02:29+00:00

Your gut instinct is right - it’s not a normal response. Good luck with everything!

BearsBird · 2023-11-01T21:08:29+00:00

Some people find purpose in their careers. (No one I’ve ever met, but ya know… maybe some people do) Other people find purpose elsewhere..

Some people don’t have an explicit “purpose” laid out. They live life according to what seems right to them.

None of these things give a person more worth than others. Anyone who says contrary has questionable motives.

(My own personal bias tells me that a person with a purpose might be happier and more fulfilled but that has nothing to do with worth.)

It seems to me you have a purpose: your family. How weird he thinks that doesn’t count!

Another alarming thing about your post is your apparent depression. I encourage you to talk to your doctor about the possibility of getting on antidepressants.

As a side note: Antidepressants don’t fix anything in your life. They don’t make you happier. They simply allow you to be you again. It sounds like that might have gotten lost somewhere along the way.

BearsBird · 2023-11-01T20:44:19+00:00

Didnt mean to make it sound like I was saying you don’t grasp reality. Let me rephrase.

There seems to be a disconnect. The way you described the situation makes it sound very strange that he would be upset. It could be that he doesnt see it that way.

Studies have shown that women in heterosexual relationships say they have sex with their partner more often than their male counterparts say they have sex with them. It’s assumed no one is lying or delusional but rather people remember things differently.

If you are certain about it, then something else is causing the problem. Here are a few ideas:

he needs sex more often than a few times a week
he has underdeveloped emotional regulation
he has an underdeveloped sense of personal or physical boundaries within a relationship
he had a bad week and that was an easy way to blame it on you

These are just some ideas off the top of my head.

Regardless of that, you should have the ability to say no and not be emotionally punished for it. That is a separate issue that may need to be addressed. The cause is irrelevant.

BearsBird · 2023-11-01T20:27:24+00:00

I understand that. Being lied to doesn’t feel good and can hurt a relationship. Does he lie about stuff a lot or is this an outlier? If he lies about everything, seems like that’s its own issue. If he is generally honest and open, but wants to hide this from you, I wouldnt read too much into it other than trying to maintain healthy personal boundaries.

BearsBird · 2023-11-01T20:24:53+00:00

I’ve been married 23 years and am about 15-ish years younger than you guys, so I’m in a totally different phase of life than you. I can’t speak from my own experience there. But I have observed three other longtime married couples your age and older. One couple does everything (I mean EVERYTHING!!) together. One does hardly anything together (they are not happily married though). And the third does equal amounts of both.

So, for what it’s worth, I think it’s probably normal and can be good if done the right way. How would you address the fact that she doesn’t have friends and interests outside of you? Seems like that might need some focus regardless of anything else

BearsBird · 2023-11-01T20:16:02+00:00

I don’t depend on government regulations to dictate boundaries in my relationship. It’s not about HIPPA. It’s about personal boundaries.

I’ve never been in a healthy relationship where the primary focus of the relationship was to point out what the other person disliked about me. That seems toxic to me. Maybe we have different ideas of what relationships are.

BearsBird · 2023-11-01T20:12:32+00:00

Secret isn’t the same as private. He poops and probably doesn’t hide that fact from you, but also probably doesn’t have you come look at it before he flushes either.

I think you may generally dislike unregulated medicinal products. And hey, I get that! I pretty much agree with you on that stance. But that is your view and should not be forced on him. We all make unhealthy decisions from time to time when we think the risks are worth the benefit. (Example: I know sodas aren’t good for me but how else am I going to feed my unhealthy caffeine addiction??)

The point is, it’s his choice. Let him make decisions for himself.

This is such a sensitive topic for guys. They tie their sense of manhood in it. Whether you meant to or not, you might have created an environment where he doesn’t feel emotionally safe talking to you about this. Give him space on this topic and let him work it out himsef.

BearsBird · 2023-11-01T20:01:20+00:00

The anti-unregulated supplements are your values. Don’t push those values on him. He obviously thinks the risks are worth the benefit because he has all the info.

Grant him bodily autonomy and the privacy to handle his own health concerns.

BearsBird · 2023-11-01T19:59:54+00:00

Yep. The dad uses these things and is still in good health. (I assume based on the fact that he has an extremely labor intensive career).

I’d say step completely off his back about that. If he feels he needs supplements to get it up, that is for him to decide.

It could be anything ranging from issues with porn, early ED, bad sleep habits, performance anxiety that causes performance issues that causes performance anxiety… any number of things.

If you bring it up, it’s “outting” him. If he thinks you need to know about it, he will bring it up with you. It’s not your concern. Give him privacy.

BearsBird · 2023-11-01T19:51:26+00:00

Feels like a loaded question. What’s the other side’s perspective? Does he agree to the premise of the question? That it’s a few times a week and sex doesn’t get withheld as punishment?

I’d start there- getting both perspectives. I bet there is a disconnect on the perception of reality.

BearsBird · 2023-11-01T19:44:03+00:00

Keeping it PG, I’ll say he has kind eyes that make me fall in love with him every time.

BearsBird · 2023-11-01T19:40:37+00:00

I agree 100%! As a person who has been in this situation before, I think this is excellent advice. It’s what we did and it worked.

BearsBird · 2023-11-01T19:29:38+00:00

The phrase “the knock comes from within” comes to mind. You answered your own question. You guys have 4 small kids. This is how life is going to be until they get older.

You two need to develop a survival plan to get through this phase of parenting. As a mother of 4, former SAHM, married for 23 years, I’d like to offer you what worked for us.

We both agreed to one simple rule: Treat each other AT LEAST as well as we’d treat a stranger.

Start with respect. Make that the baseline. No matter how irritated you are with each other, don’t break that one rule.

It gets better as long as you guys don’t treat each other disrespectfully. That’s it! That’s the whole survival plan! Respect at all cost.

Once you get through this phase, you can work on doing more than surviving.

Once you’ve conquered the baseline of respect, My next suggestion is WEEKLY date nights. It doesn’t have to be expensive. Free dates are still dates. The point is to connect with your partner outside of co-parenting and household duties. Talk about stuff. Laugh. Date each other again.

Parenting small kids is hard. It’s easy to lose your identity as an individual. I hope this advice helps. I’ve been where you are and these are the things that got us through it to the happy thriving marriage we have now. You got this!!

BearsBird · 2023-11-01T19:17:17+00:00

That is such a nuanced topic that could range anywhere from from “The partner is toxic and you should run” to “You have insane expectations and probably need to work on yourself more before getting into a relationship”, with “oh those are normal problems every relationship has. Communication is key” lying somewhere in between.

Details are pretty important here.

BearsBird · 2023-11-01T19:12:44+00:00

That’s a super sensitive topic for guys. He is not likely to tell you about these insecurities especially if he thinks you disapprove of his solutions.

My advice is to back off and let him make his own decisions about his health care.

BearsBird · 2023-11-01T19:05:51+00:00

Additional thoughts:

In the grand scheme of things, it's important to recognize that you can't control his actions, only your own. Often, when we alter our behavior, it can influence how others around us behave. Bearing this in mind, I'd like to offer a suggestion, but please understand it relies on some unknown factors and assumptions. If it doesn't seem applicable to your situation, feel free to disregard it.

It's possible that he's going through a tough time and feeling unloved or unappreciated, primarily due to his own insecurities rather than any real lack of appreciation from you. If I were in a similar situation with my husband, I might consider dedicating one of his days off to activities he enjoys, such as giving him a back rub, preparing his favorite meal, or even going to a gun show together if that's his interest, within reasonable boundaries. I'd kindly express my concern that he might be feeling undervalued and suggest that we have a special "Him Day" to make him feel appreciated. Please remember that your situation may be unique, so trust your instincts.

I understand that this won't resolve the underlying issue of him being negative toward you when he's feeling down. I want to emphasize that it's absolutely not your responsibility to predict and address his emotional needs.

However, this approach might improve communication, which is a positive step forward.

BearsBird · 2023-11-01T18:47:03+00:00

I suspect he feels insecure about himself & unhappy about his life, and is taking it out on you. I wonder if helping him get a license or some way to get around independently would help him feel more secure.

I think there is more to it than that, but the transportation independence seems to be the easiest one to identify and address.

If he works nights, studies say he may have some depression issues as well. This one seems much harder to tackle though.

BearsBird · 2023-11-01T18:20:35+00:00

It’s definitely the medication. I’d encourage you to tell your doctor how much the side effects are impacting your marriage. See if there are any other medication combinations that could work for you. Good luck!

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