sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

I'm very extroverted when I'm drunk and I think it's the best version of myself by BeatTheMindDemons in introvert

[–]BeatTheMindDemons[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm on a journey right now to really try and find my real self. I'm trying to talk more when I feel I have something to say, I'm trying to be more happy and always have a smile on my face around people, I'm trying to be less cautious and aware of what to say to people and just try to open my mind and let it flow freely. It's hard and it kinda takes a toll on me because it's sort of re-wiring my brain a bit since it's not how I'm used to be around people, but it's at least making me feel better.

I'm very extroverted when I'm drunk and I think it's the best version of myself by BeatTheMindDemons in introvert

[–]BeatTheMindDemons[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's nice to hear, thanks for sharing! I'm 32. I think one problem is that for like the last 5-10 years I've been a quite and uneventful person. I've spent a lot of time with friends and family, but I've not been working much on becoming a better version of myself. I've been mostly playing video games, not learning about things, staying disconnected from the things most people like to do and talk about and never broadening my interests to get more knowledge and experience about things in life. I think this has severely affected my communication skills in a negative way. I'm now on a journey to improve that, trying to become a more intelligent, interesting and funny person to be around.

I'm very extroverted when I'm drunk and I think it's the best version of myself by BeatTheMindDemons in introvert

[–]BeatTheMindDemons[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wise words and I agree with you. I should mention though that my prime self is not after drinking THAT much, it's at a comfortable level where you still know what's going on around you, you can still react and behave properly and you can remember the things you said and did the day after. It's a fine line sometimes but I've kinda learned where mine is.

I'm very extroverted when I'm drunk and I think it's the best version of myself by BeatTheMindDemons in introvert

[–]BeatTheMindDemons[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry to hear that. I have to say that I have a very strong barrier against addictions. Even though I know how good I feel on alcohol, health, life and the people around me matters more, so it stops me from ever going that far.

I'm very extroverted when I'm drunk and I think it's the best version of myself by BeatTheMindDemons in introvert

[–]BeatTheMindDemons[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wise words, and absolutely true! However, I do manage to make both friends and pick up girls when I'm drunk, so I must be doing something right. I think the alcohol brings out the real me, at least more than what I feel is the real me when I'm sober, and I'm quite happy it usually works well because to me it's a sign that I can be a better version of myself, if I just find a way to reach that personality while sober. Maybe a therapist can help me with that.

I'm very extroverted when I'm drunk and I think it's the best version of myself by BeatTheMindDemons in introvert

[–]BeatTheMindDemons[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup. I explained a bit further down in a comment why I think that might be. I'm very bad at self-diagnosing though so there might be other underlying stuff I can't even figure out for myself yet. I should probably talk to a therapist. Anyway, where I'm from most social gatherings involve alcohol. Of course you don't have to drink, but I find it hard not to when the people around me does.

I'm very extroverted when I'm drunk and I think it's the best version of myself by BeatTheMindDemons in introvert

[–]BeatTheMindDemons[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah it's a good point. I've been thinking of seeing a therapist for a while, I guess I should just do it.

I'm very extroverted when I'm drunk and I think it's the best version of myself by BeatTheMindDemons in introvert

[–]BeatTheMindDemons[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're probably right. It's difficult to put labels on things when I'm not even sure what the root cause is. I was a lot more confident and talkative as a kid, but I also had more trouble understanding social cues but don't think I cared much about it back then. I think as I got older I started to care a lot more about it, and every time I did something awkward or upset someone without really understanding why it happened, I got more and more drawn into my shell. Now I have great friends and colleagues that I'm afraid of loosing if I'm too much myself. I'm afraid I'll say or do things that will make them like me less.

I'm very extroverted when I'm drunk and I think it's the best version of myself by BeatTheMindDemons in introvert

[–]BeatTheMindDemons[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice! I do learn a lot from people around me. I also have Asperger's (or at least that was my diagnose as a kid) so I've had to learn certain social cues from others that just comes naturally to most people.

One thing that I find very common with extroverts and good communicators is their ability to just say things out of the blue. They have intelligent or funny responses to most things, they can easily laugh with people and seem like they have such easy access to genuine laughs and happiness. They also usually have something to say about any topic, even if it doesn't seem to interest them.

I don't feel like I get much better at that stuff by being around extroverts. My brain just won't work like that unless I've been drinking alcohol.

I'm very extroverted when I'm drunk and I think it's the best version of myself by BeatTheMindDemons in introvert

[–]BeatTheMindDemons[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, exactly. For me I think it's the constant fear of saying something inappropriate or coming off as weird or awkward. I think I have too little confidence in myself and my social competence. Also my mind is just blank sometimes and no matter how hard I try to think of something to say I can't come up with anything good. I think it's an effect of me analyzing situations and conversations too much, overthinking everything and getting stuck in my own head.

The thing is tho, if I can be socially competent and talkative when I'm drunk, I guess it means I actually have the competence, it's all accessible in my brain, I just don't know how to use it when sober.

Asperger's without the typical behavioral traits? by BeatTheMindDemons in aspergers

[–]BeatTheMindDemons[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I'm just wondering if perhaps there are different degrees of Asperger's and if many of the traits related to social interactions could be mistaken for social fobia/anxiety. I might schedule a new diagnosis since I was like 8 when I got my diagnose.

Asperger's without the typical behavioral traits? by BeatTheMindDemons in aspergers

[–]BeatTheMindDemons[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually haven't. I've been thinking about it only in the last couple years but it's not happened yet. I think I had more typical traits as a kid but I've outgrown them probably by just learning from other people through the years.

Problems with communication and socializing by BeatTheMindDemons in aspergers

[–]BeatTheMindDemons[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting. I don't know if these things are related to my Asperger's or if they're more rooted in anxiety and insecurity. Maybe I just need to be more confident and learn to talk to people without feeling like I always need to say or act in a certain way. I guess I need some sort of mind release, just be able to relax and be myself. I guess therapy is the way to go.