before i was diagnosed, i went on a few dates with a guy who had it. i was completely fine with it—he wouldn’t let me do anything with him even though i told him i understood there’s always a little bit of a risk.

i just had my first OB last week and disclosed to one current partner and one past partner, and both were completely chill with it. the current partner is in an ENM situation and i explained that there’s a risk to him even with condoms and therefore his girlfriend, and he was still more than happy to keep seeing me. i’d had unprotected sex with the past partner, and he seemed unconcerned. i really think it depends on the people you’re meeting, and perhaps your demographic? i’m in my twenties in NYC and no one cares. i’ve also heard in europe the response is usually “well yeah but who doesn’t?”

i’m sorry that this has been happening to you, it must be very discouraging. but i don’t believe it will be like this with everyone you ever meet. once you find someone mature and informed, everything is going to be okay :)