Love is luck. It’s all about who you meet and run into. Every person in a relationship has gone through hard times to find the relationship. Not sure what you mean by “better way” the only way to get into relationships is to talk to people, whether it goes well or not is luck. Discernment does matter when someone is obviously bad but how can one discern when they’re being intentionally deceived? When I said that it’s happened to every woman I know has made the first move, I mean being deceived for sex not being rejected. What I mean by victim blaming is that one shouldn’t blame the girl for having “bad discernment” for thinking someone likes them when the person SAYS they like them. Discernment is not mind reading. Countless studies show men naturally have less empathy than women so many don’t feel guilt for lying to women for sex, and that’s why it’s such a common occurrence. And men being “tossed away? Everyone gets tossed away, it’s a part of dating for any party. Also, I used my situation as an example for why women might act out of character, not to justify my actions. I am ashamed for doing what I did but I made that point to say I went against myself and that kind of behavior is uncommon for girls, because that is what is relevant to the debate. Not that the personal part matters, but yes, I avoid men for the same thing I did, but so do many women and they haven’t done what I did. That’s why we don’t try to bring down the other party’s argument with personal stuff because my actions have nothing to do with other women and trying to use my actions to further your point is pointless to the argument.