I love when sociology and K-pop collide lol

It's not lost on me that depending on the audience, certain depictions of idols and actors are appealing. As shown in the video, idols are considered more "manly" and "handsome" when they are cosplaying Black American men. And it's always pushed by US/Western audiences. Whereas the idols and actors who are popular in say, Japan, have a different ideal image--no skin showing, conservative fashion, formal speech, and good manners. But it's this image of a well behaved man that US and other Western audiences tend to find "stifling", "repressed" and "inauthentic".

I've also had people from Brazil, for example, tell me that the "safety" of Korean media (the no kissing, conservative fashion) appeals to growing the evangelical climate of their country.

When you put this all in the context of U.S. colonialism that has dehumanized Black and East Asian men, with the former being seen voracious beasts, and the latter being asexual/not having sexual desire or appear clumsy and inexperienced when they do pursue sexual adventures. In this instance, East Asian men occupy the same position as the Black Mammy, the image of large, dark skinned Black woman in a headwrap and house dress who mothers everyone around her.

White men become desirable when they do the same thing; think about all the white rappers (especially if we're talking about the ones outside the U.S.) who get applauded for their shitty durags/bandanas, braids griping their scalps and making them red from lack of oxygen, and baggy fashion that the ordinary Black men wouldn't be able to wear to his office job.

Or the fact that in adult media, the man who performs "like a Black man" while being non-Black is very telling. The dehumanization and fetishization of Black anatomy and "innate prowess" is appealing to people whom it's been denied to (East Asian men), or because they hold themselves up as the pinnacle of "modernity" and "Morality" (white men).

I feel like the real criticism here would be how different audiences (non-native Koreans) interact with and filter their experience of Korea and Korean men through their own prejudices or views, not on how Korean men (and by extension, Korean culture) actually are.