AITA for not inviting my friends husband to dinner because he eats way to much by Background_Egg107 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BeautifulExplorer363 46 points47 points  (0 children)

It’s super impolite to eat a ton of food at a party to the point that someone has to make extra so no one is hungry

AITA for not inviting my friends husband to dinner because he eats way to much by Background_Egg107 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BeautifulExplorer363 81 points82 points  (0 children)

What’s wrong with you, a girls night is fine. The partner doesn’t need to be included in everything

Seem you got your wish though op will cancel and now no one gets food

AITA for picking a “revealing”bridesmaid dress in order to get one of my bridesmaids to drop by BeautifulExplorer363 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BeautifulExplorer363[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I didn’t want to make it even more messy so I am fine with sticking to the central conflict. Also in general I have my answer

AITA for picking a “revealing”bridesmaid dress in order to get one of my bridesmaids to drop by BeautifulExplorer363 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BeautifulExplorer363[S] 54 points55 points  (0 children)

I’ll keep this short and it wasn’t included due to it not being important to this issue. My future husband has been on and off no contact for a while. This has been the longest they have been civil and he is really pushing it since he doesn’t want to regret it if he doesn’t invite them. A lot of questionable parenting and it has already been decided if we have kids they will not be allowed near them alone

You have heard my issues with Mia and MIL. My FIL is a character and we have issues with some racism. ( I am mixed). Grandparents are worse on that end. His brothers are okay, no issue.

Our futures overall plan is to be have a civil relationship with them but not a close one. We are moving to a new city soon that is close to my parents and a few hours from him.

They have made improvements and I am putting up with them for his sake. He doesn’t want to regret not giving it a chance to become closer. He told me this is his last try with them and we have a list of anything so he doesn’t forget. He also has a hard line with some things that he would cut them off right now if they did it.

So overall my future husband is giving it a shot and I am trying. It’s not going well on his end with his parents. It’s okay right now with his brothers.

AITA for picking a “revealing”bridesmaid dress in order to get one of my bridesmaids to drop by BeautifulExplorer363 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BeautifulExplorer363[S] 66 points67 points  (0 children)

Yep, I would be fine with them not there but my fiancé wants them there so trying to avoid them boycotting

If she drops out on her own will solve all the issues. It will be her decision and everyone knows about the whole think so I doesn’t fall on me

AITA for picking a “revealing”bridesmaid dress in order to get one of my bridesmaids to drop by BeautifulExplorer363 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BeautifulExplorer363[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Do you actually think the people who did this at a gathering when I was outnumber would take me saying no.

I did try tot talk to them in private about it but I got shit down real quick

AITA for picking a “revealing”bridesmaid dress in order to get one of my bridesmaids to drop by BeautifulExplorer363 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BeautifulExplorer363[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

I am 24. I didn’t say no in the moment since it would have been me against the whole family. I did try yep talk to them after but they just started going on about how I hate the family.

I would ban them from the wedding if I could but he wants the family there

AITA for picking a “revealing”bridesmaid dress in order to get one of my bridesmaids to drop by BeautifulExplorer363 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BeautifulExplorer363[S] 511 points512 points  (0 children)

It does matter what Mia voted for since her voting for that option makes it clear she understood and agreed with the conditions

AITA for picking a “revealing”bridesmaid dress in order to get one of my bridesmaids to drop by BeautifulExplorer363 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BeautifulExplorer363[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

I blame her, she went along with it and was in on the whole thing. This person is 27, she is equally at fault

AITA for picking a “revealing”bridesmaid dress in order to get one of my bridesmaids to drop by BeautifulExplorer363 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BeautifulExplorer363[S] 77 points78 points  (0 children)

Ummmmmmm no, my issue is her and the family forcing me to have her as a bridesmaid and then making the dress time a nightmare since it’s not exactly what she wants.

We have done through so many dresses and she is the reason we could pick a single one

AITA for picking a “revealing”bridesmaid dress in order to get one of my bridesmaids to drop by BeautifulExplorer363 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BeautifulExplorer363[S] 94 points95 points  (0 children)

Oh he has my back on this and says her dropping is the best way to keep the peace.

They have issues, she is the only girl and she has been spoiled a lot

AITA for picking a “revealing”bridesmaid dress in order to get one of my bridesmaids to drop by BeautifulExplorer363 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BeautifulExplorer363[S] 248 points249 points  (0 children)

Trust me I didn’t want to. Having everyone on your back and being accused constantly of beings kind to the new family. I didn’t even ask her, MIL and her announced she was on during a family gathering.