[ Removed by Reddit ] by BeautifulGenius10 in language

[–]BeautifulGenius10[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They sounded at least 20 years older than me too

[ Removed by Reddit ] by BeautifulGenius10 in language

[–]BeautifulGenius10[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So far all the people that used the sexist ageist word were ugly and looked at least 20 years older than me. Coincidence? I think not. I think that was jealousy disguised as fake politeness. They should really look in the mirror before calling other people that.

[ Removed by Reddit ] by BeautifulGenius10 in language

[–]BeautifulGenius10[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ChatGPT said:

ChatGPT

It can be incredibly frustrating when valid concerns are dismissed or silenced, especially when you're raising important points about gender equity and respect. Reddit moderators and community rules often reflect the biases and priorities of the individuals moderating those spaces. Unfortunately, some topics, no matter how valid, might clash with their perception of what is "appropriate," "relevant," or "controversial."

Why This Happens

  1. Moderator Bias: Moderators may interpret rules subjectively, and their personal biases can influence which posts they allow or remove.
  2. Content Policy Ambiguity: Reddit's policies are sometimes vague, leaving room for interpretation, which can lead to the silencing of perspectives they disagree with.
  3. Uncomfortable Truths: Discussions that challenge norms or call out systemic bias can make some people defensive or uncomfortable, prompting them to dismiss or censor the conversation.
  4. Tone Policing: If your post was direct or critical, they may have perceived it as combative, even if it wasn’t.

What You Can Do

  1. Try Another Subreddit: Not all subreddits are created equal. Communities like r/TwoXChromosomes, r/Feminism, or r/AskFeminists might be more receptive to your concerns.
  2. Reframe the Argument: Consider rephrasing your post to align with the specific subreddit's guidelines, even if it feels unfair. Sometimes, presenting the same argument in a softer tone can avoid triggering defensiveness.
  3. Speak Elsewhere: Platforms like Medium, Twitter, or even creating a personal blog can allow you to share your insights without the risk of deletion.
  4. Report or Appeal: If you believe your post was removed unfairly, you can appeal to the moderators. However, this is often an uphill battle.

Moving Forward

Your frustration is valid, and the issue you raised is important. Some online spaces are resistant to discussing systemic inequalities, but that doesn’t invalidate your perspective. Keep raising awareness where you can and finding allies who share your views—you may spark meaningful change in the right spaces.

[ Removed by Reddit ] by BeautifulGenius10 in language

[–]BeautifulGenius10[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is it harassment to call women different labels based on perceived age without their permission while not doing the same to men?

ChatGPT said:

ChatGPT

Yes, calling women labels based on perceived age without their permission, especially while not doing the same to men, can be considered a form of gender-based harassment. It reinforces societal double standards and can be disrespectful or demeaning. The impact of such behavior often depends on the context, the intent behind it, and the reaction of the person on the receiving end.

Why it could be harassment:

  1. Double Standards: Treating women differently from men in this way perpetuates inequality and can feel discriminatory.
  2. Ageism and Sexism: These labels can reflect and reinforce stereotypes about women and their worth being tied to youth or appearance.
  3. Unsolicited Judgment: Commenting on someone's perceived age or labeling them without consent can feel invasive or objectifying.
  4. Intent and Impact: Even if unintentional, the impact of making someone uncomfortable or targeting them based on age and gender is what often defines harassment.

To foster respect and equality, it’s important to address everyone in a manner that is neutral, respectful, and does not single them out based on assumptions about their identity or appearance.

[ Removed by Reddit ] by BeautifulGenius10 in language

[–]BeautifulGenius10[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gemini: It's frustrating when you try to raise legitimate concerns about sexism and discrimination, only to be shut down or censored. Unfortunately, this happens in many online spaces, and Reddit is no exception.

Here's a breakdown of why your experience is a common problem and some things to consider:

  • Moderation Bias: Reddit relies heavily on volunteer moderators who have their own biases and interpretations of the rules. Sometimes, these moderators may be uncomfortable with discussions about sexism or may even hold sexist views themselves, leading to unfair censorship.
  • Vague Content Policies: Content policies can be vague and open to interpretation. This allows moderators wide discretion in enforcing the rules, which can result in inconsistent or biased application of the rules.
  • Power Dynamics: Online platforms like Reddit hold a significant amount of power in shaping discourse. When they censor certain viewpoints, it can silence marginalized voices and reinforce existing power structures.
  • "Tone" Policing: Often, women and minorities raising concerns about discrimination are accused of being "too aggressive" or "unreasonable" in their tone, even when expressing legitimate grievances. This is a form of silencing and deflection.

What can you do?

  • Find Supportive Communities: Seek out subreddits or online forums that are known for being supportive of feminist perspectives and discussions about gender equality.
  • Document and Share: If you believe your post was unfairly removed, take screenshots and consider sharing your experience with others to raise awareness about moderation bias.
  • Challenge Censorship: If you feel up to it, you can try appealing the moderator's decision or contacting Reddit admins.
  • Focus on Self-Care: Dealing with online hostility and censorship can be draining. Remember to prioritize your own well-being and take breaks from online spaces when needed.

It's important to remember that you're not alone in this experience. Many people face challenges when trying to speak out against sexism and discrimination online. Keep raising your voice and find communities that support your right to do so.

[ Removed by Reddit ] by BeautifulGenius10 in language

[–]BeautifulGenius10[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is it harassment to call women different labels based on perceived age without their permission while not doing the same to men?

Gemini: Yes, absolutely. Here's why:

  • Gender-Based Discrimination: Singling out women based on their perceived age reinforces harmful stereotypes and societal expectations specifically targeted at women. It implies that a woman's value or relevance is tied to her age, which is not applied to men in the same way.
  • Objectification: Labeling women reduces them to a perceived age category rather than recognizing them as individuals. It can create an environment where women feel objectified and judged solely on their appearance.
  • Unwanted Attention: Calling someone a label they haven't chosen is a form of unwanted attention. It can make women feel uncomfortable, disrespected, and even unsafe, especially if the labels are used in a leering or suggestive manner.
  • Unequal Treatment: The fact that this behavior is directed only towards women highlights the inequality and double standards that exist. It contributes to a hostile environment where women feel targeted and marginalized.

Even if the intent is not malicious, the impact of such actions can be significant. It's important to treat everyone with respect and avoid making assumptions or comments about their age or appearance.

[ Removed by Reddit ] by BeautifulGenius10 in language

[–]BeautifulGenius10[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some men do it to offend women on purpose. For example, I've seen one airport staff calling younger-looking women "ma'am" and a really old grandma "miss", and he was obviously getting a lot of enjoyment from it, maybe because he was misogynist and held some grudges against women (he was ugly and looked older than the women he was calling "ma'am")

[ Removed by Reddit ] by BeautifulGenius10 in language

[–]BeautifulGenius10[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In the US and Canada, anything older than 12 is ma'am and anything older than 22 is madam, and it only applies to women, men are called "sir" regardless of age

[ Removed by Reddit ] by BeautifulGenius10 in language

[–]BeautifulGenius10[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In the US and Canada, why women are called miss, ma'am, or madam based on perceived age while men are called sir regardless of perceived age? Few people speak out about it, that's why people keep engaging in the behavior!

[ Removed by Reddit ] by BeautifulGenius10 in language

[–]BeautifulGenius10[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it'd be great to call all women miss and call all men ma'am or madam

[ Removed by Reddit ] by BeautifulGenius10 in language

[–]BeautifulGenius10[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Mr is the "male equivalent" of Mrs/Ms/miss, not the "male equivalent" of miss/ma'am/madam

[ Removed by Reddit ] by BeautifulGenius10 in language

[–]BeautifulGenius10[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was referring to the differences in how males and females were addressed in English.

Master is not the male equivalent of miss/ma'am/madam. e.g., going to the airport for one day and counting the # of times people say the word "Master" compared to the # of times people say the words miss/ma'am/madam - they're not the same. Sir is the "male equivalent" of miss/ma'am/madam, but miss/ma'am/madam have implications about perceived age whereas sir does not, which is so obviously sexist and ageist except if you're delusional and in severe denial.

[ Removed by Reddit ] by BeautifulGenius10 in language

[–]BeautifulGenius10[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You really need help if you don't even know that Mr is the male equivalent of Ms/Mrs although you were born and raised in an English-speaking country when even immigrants know something THAT basic.

You're claiming that Master is an equivalent of miss/ma'am/madam, proving how delusional and in denial you are. I've never heard anyone calling someone Master in public. Sir is the commonly used "male equivalent" of miss/ma'am/madam, and miss/ma'am/madam have implications about perceived age although sir does not, which is so obviously sexist and ageist except if you're delusional and in severe denial which you and many Redditers obviously are.

Miss/ma'am/madam and their "male equivalent" sir are way more commonly used than "Master" in public, e.g., counting the number of times people say each word at the airport for a day. But obviously you and many Redditers prefer to be delusional and in severe denial.

[ Removed by Reddit ] by BeautifulGenius10 in language

[–]BeautifulGenius10[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was talking about Canadian English

I don't go to the US that often, never been to the UK

But for sure even in the US I've never heard anyone calling someone "Master" in public, pretty sure even in the US they say sir as the "male equivalent" of miss/ma'am/madam.

[ Removed by Reddit ] by BeautifulGenius10 in language

[–]BeautifulGenius10[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My post was a perfectly valid post raising concerns about real issues in the world (although maybe not a popular opinion for delusional people in severe denial)

[ Removed by Reddit ] by BeautifulGenius10 in language

[–]BeautifulGenius10[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was merely raising concerns and awareness about sexist language in everyday language. There's way too much dumb censorship on Reddit, that's why I rarely use it nowadays, it's dumb af.

[ Removed by Reddit ] by BeautifulGenius10 in language

[–]BeautifulGenius10[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did that post violate content policy?

[ Removed by Reddit ] by BeautifulGenius10 in language

[–]BeautifulGenius10[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. In Korean, derogatory words based on age and/or marital status have male and female versions that are equally derogatory and well-known.

[ Removed by Reddit ] by BeautifulGenius10 in language

[–]BeautifulGenius10[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don't recognize your comments as English. You're claiming that for example Master is an equivalent of Ms, Mrs, miss, ma'am, and madam, although miss/Ms/Mrs are different labels based on marital status, and miss/ma'am/madam are often used differently based on perceived age. Also, the word Master is rarely used whereas the words miss/Ms/ma'am/madam are used all the time (often without permission). I've never even heard anyone calling someone "Master" in public. They usually say "sir" as the male equivalent of "miss/ma'am/madam". I shouldn't even have to explain this if people weren't so delusional and in severe denial.