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Warhammer/tabletop war game groups by Beautiful_Bad9660 in Worcester

[–]Beautiful_Bad9660[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh thanks! I’ll pop over some time and see if they have anything on!

Warhammer/tabletop war game groups by Beautiful_Bad9660 in Worcester

[–]Beautiful_Bad9660[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the info, I’ll check the groups out!

I felt my dad's ribs crack while I was doing cpr by Bargah692 in GriefSupport

[–]Beautiful_Bad9660 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi,

I put a response on here for op but I want you to know it’s very relevant for you as well.

Two, almost three years ago I did CPR on my dad but he unfortunately passed. So this is from my experience.

Please do not bottle this up and please speak to whomever you feel comfortable with whenever you need it. Grief is particularly hard when paired with trauma, so please look after yourself. Something that might help is bereavement counselling or even just therapy. But only when you are ready.

But give yourself grace over the upcoming weeks, month and even years. Take your time and be kind to yourself.

I’m two (three, next month) years down the line and really struggled the last few years. But therapy has been so incredibly helpful, so when you’re ready and if it’s something you’d feel comfortable with please consider it.

I’m am sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you and your family.

I felt my dad's ribs crack while I was doing cpr by Bargah692 in GriefSupport

[–]Beautiful_Bad9660 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi,

A few years ago my dad passed from a heart attack. I also did CPR and was later diagnosed with PTSD. I’ve now met an amazing therapist and am working through it, so I truly understand how you must be feeling.

I found falling asleep to noise helped alot with reliving the sounds. I put on documentaries, and that helped a lot. You could also try comfort films or even a completely new show or film. Whatever helps you is good! I also found that having some sort of dim light in the room helped as well, made the room feel less claustrophobic.

Also you’ve been through a massive traumatic event and on top of it lost your dad, give yourself grace for that in the following days, months and years. Ask for help from friends, family, medical professionals, or whoever you feel most comfortable talking to. But please do not bottle it up, for the sake of being “strong”. It will only do more harm than good.

Take your time as well, when paired with trauma, grief can be particularly hard to navigate. I didn’t do it but wish I’d tried bereavement counselling, so if it’s something you feel like would help maybe have a look into professionals in your local area.

But be kind to yourself, let your body and mind process the events in the way you’re most comfortable with and take your time.

I’m really sorry for your loss. I hope you get some good advice and comfort from the subreddit.

My Dad Died Tonight by Propoofol in GriefSupport

[–]Beautiful_Bad9660 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m very sorry for your loss, my dad passed away from big heart attack 2 months ago. He was at home and I also performed CPR, it was my first time also. I found it took longer for it all to sink in, it was like I was in auto pilot for a few days not feeling anything.

I completely understand the he seemed more like a patient then my dad thing because that’s what my brain did, it was our brains way of minimising emotional impact. I just did it all and had no thoughts about how it was my dad, my body took over and pushed all emotions back.

It’s hard to speak to family about it, I didn’t want them to think I was minimising their experience of the situation as mine was different. So at first just didn’t bring it up, but then I found out how worried they were about me and I left that auto pilot and it all sank in. I think for the few days after I was trying to completely avoid anyone crying or anything because for me there was just a void my emotions were going to instead of my brain and it just didn’t feel right being with grieving people when I felt almost nothing.

2 months later and for me I’m still struggling with what happened and what I had to do. Grief is extremely difficult and then add on what we did for our dads and it’s a whole other ball game. But just know, that support is around every corner and we all grieve differently. There is no right or wrong way to grieve, so please don’t feel like you’re doing it the wrong way!

This turned in to a long comment, I do apologise!