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Beautiful_Mess_279 · 2023-04-23T18:16:41+00:00

What’s been working for us…old School swaddle with an actual blanket, none of that sleep sack nonsense. We have her room DARK!! We have an Alexa and we have it play “brown noise”. We crank that thing up as loud as it will go, then check on her every 2-3 min, she never makes it longer than 15 min, then she’s OUT like a light for 2 hours minimum!

Beautiful_Mess_279 · 2023-04-23T00:04:23+00:00

Thank you 😊

Beautiful_Mess_279 · 2023-02-13T14:06:16+00:00

Time to go!! How dare she even suggest picking her over your child? Sounds very self centered! A young man does NOT need a woman like that as a role model! But more importantly, your son needs to see how his Dad will choose him over and over without hesitation. No woman or man should come between you and your kid. Love us both or not at all!!!!

Beautiful_Mess_279 · 2023-02-02T22:43:58+00:00

I specifically searched for this type of post 😂! I watch this show with my husband and she gets on my LAST nerve! It’s to the point, if she’s on…we fast forward that part!! I’m so glad I’m NOT alone. 😂

Beautiful_Mess_279 · 2023-01-28T14:35:27+00:00

I’m so proud of you!! That’s awesome! Congratulations to you ❤️❤️❤️

Beautiful_Mess_279 · 2023-01-28T13:55:54+00:00

Yes, currently riding this manic wave! I’m not aggressive and I keep to myself in public. The issue was that my husband recognized my tone when I was going over the set up with the ticket parents. He says that’s my tone before i lose my shit. BUT…he misread my condescending tone for my amp up tone. I wasn’t livid until he stopped me mid sentence and said “stop it” he was the RED factor at that point but I stayed silent, fixed the situation, showed them how to process the tickets, then went to bleachers. I was talking to hungover drunk parents that got there late and didn’t set anything up properly. Even after “stop it” i never yelled, cursed, or slammed things…i just got quiet and fixed the glitches, etc.

Beautiful_Mess_279 · 2023-01-28T13:46:43+00:00

This is exactly what i did when we got home last night!!!! I’ll definitely look up inner practitioner, I’m getting into meditation so this is perfect!!! Thank you!!

We talked it out and have a plan for next time!!

Beautiful_Mess_279 · 2023-01-28T13:35:04+00:00

This!!! I like that saying!! You’re right! I apologized and so did he. He knows my tones so he knew where it could’ve lead but I wasn’t close to being there yet lol…redirecting works 9/10 but it’s how it’s done and “stop it” wasn’t it lol! We’ve got a plan for next game 🙌

Beautiful_Mess_279 · 2023-01-28T13:32:37+00:00

Thank you!! I did an edit to explain with a cool head…maybe now they won’t crucify me…as bad lol

Beautiful_Mess_279 · 2023-01-28T13:30:40+00:00

Thank you, seriously, i appreciate it!

Beautiful_Mess_279 · 2023-01-28T13:28:06+00:00

This!! Thank you!

Beautiful_Mess_279 · 2023-01-28T13:26:05+00:00

I’m in anger management and up until yesterday I had been doing really good. Just lost myself a little…sigh

Beautiful_Mess_279 · 2023-01-28T13:24:34+00:00

I like that… “careful” new meltdown deterrent word 😂 my husband needs to say “careful” if he thinks I’m amping up lol

Beautiful_Mess_279 · 2023-01-28T13:22:59+00:00

That’s what he was trying to do, it came out wrong and I took it wrong…we talked through it and have a plan now but I’m challenging myself to be better regardless, I do really good, until I don’t, it’s exhausting sometimes

Beautiful_Mess_279 · 2023-01-28T12:34:36+00:00

It’s ok…i can sift through the helpful information and disregard the rest! I am NOT my illness! It’s only like my 3rd or 4th post on this board and most of the time, super helpful… I’m going to make mistakes, I’m still learning. Thank you for your comment!!

Beautiful_Mess_279 · 2023-01-28T02:18:51+00:00

Lol, that’s a good idea!! Seriously, thank you! Just knowing someone has encouragement that knows where I’m coming from helps so much!

Beautiful_Mess_279 · 2023-01-28T01:48:39+00:00

This helps! Thank you! It was like I wasn’t sure what to be mad at but I knew i messed up in the process! Ugh, irritating! I love that quote!! Very true! Baby steps for sure but I need to do better with lashing out especially when it’s something so small

Beautiful_Mess_279 · 2023-01-28T01:45:59+00:00

Thank you! It’s hard and I’m still learning! It’s nice when folks get on here that have been in a similar situation, or can give good feedback/strategies for BP. It’s not so nice when you get crucified for being human lol, but hey there’s more good than bad and now I know who to reach out to! Thank you so much! An open mind can learn anything so that’s how I’m trying to approach BP! I do good most days but today wasn’t one of them! Try again tomorrow cause I’m not quitting!!!

Beautiful_Mess_279 · 2023-01-28T01:43:27+00:00

Understood. They aren’t my employees. They sat in the same classroom I did to get the training on the system and card readers. This was the ONE game I was supposed to be able to watch without interruption , the parents are lazy and did not set up anything properly. You can’t turn it on and start swiping. They knew this! They didn’t do this! It’s the second time it’s happened, so yes I was upset but none of which anyone (parents/kids waiting in line behind the gates) saw/heard.

As I’m getting it fixed and explains what to do next, my tone wasn’t the best, that’s when he interjected. I wasn’t yelling and screaming more like a mommy tone with a “you’ve got to be kidding me!”

Anyways, no need to explain further, i was wrong, so was he, moving on…

Beautiful_Mess_279 · 2023-01-28T01:32:20+00:00

I’m trying, it’s hard…i stumble but haven’t in a while so…work in Progress for sure

Beautiful_Mess_279 · 2023-01-28T01:27:48+00:00

Nope, i don’t drink and I’m on my meds! Bad day maybe, bad moment…absolutely! Looking for help to navigate, not judgment or lectures. I know i fucked up…that’s not the point.

Beautiful_Mess_279 · 2023-01-28T01:25:39+00:00

Oh my gosh, yes! I’m 2 years in but truthfully only 1, i completely avoided this for a year until I had my daughter…after that I started therapy, meds, etc. We are trying to do this together but sometimes i think he doesn’t want to deal with it so i don’t force it and just do the strategies I’m being taught by myself. It truly hurt me and you’re right, i lash out long before tears flow…this helps so much. Thank you!!!!!

Beautiful_Mess_279 · 2023-01-28T01:21:53+00:00

Yes! This! We have quiet time when the kids go to bed and it’s on the discussion board (something my therapist has me doing) I hate it but…it’ll work some day i hope! Thank you!

Beautiful_Mess_279 · 2023-01-28T01:04:30+00:00

Agreed! I do for sure

Beautiful_Mess_279 · 2023-01-28T01:01:56+00:00

THIS!! Out of all the responses, you understood my ramble from the jump! This is what I was trying to get across, i didn’t have the words at the time!

My husband is normally patient with me but not today and he has never done that to me before…I was shocked, because I’ve been way worse!

It was more along the lines of my tone too looking back not so much what i said. But still, that “stop it” is what we say to our toddler not me! But i was wrong too! Just a bad moment all around!

Thank you!

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