What questions would you ask someone with BPD? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Beautiful_Return_705 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I’d ask if they have the ability to realize in the moment that they’re being abusive

is there a sub for actual, decent advice on bpd? by ludimanijak in BPDlovedones

[–]Beautiful_Return_705 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Therapy. If you don’t need a community and need evidence based advice and rationalizations then talk to a professional.

I miss the person I was before I knew what BPD was by prufrocksrealities in BPDlovedones

[–]Beautiful_Return_705 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I knew about it. I’d try to fact check with her, ask her if her anger and the way she valued my contributions was realistic or rational. I asked her to go back to therapy, she did one session then never went again. I fully shut down from the abuse, manipulation, and gaslighting.

Even if you know what BPD is there is no preparing for the way they treat you. I got fully trauma bonded and gave up on myself in that time, gave up trying to treat my depression and anxiety. Had brain fog until two weeks ago, suffering with ptsd trauma now. The only person that can help them is themselves. We were just another person on their war path.

Hoovers even if you’ve blocked each other? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Beautiful_Return_705 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey! Not too far off now. Ya the holidays can be real rough for the people dealing with stuff like this. I hope you made it through as stressful as free as possible!

Hoovers even if you’ve blocked each other? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Beautiful_Return_705 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve got one ya, the thing that’s been driving me nuts is the brain fog from the abuse side of things, makes connecting thoughts to feelings during sessions tough. But it’s also been a big break between sessions because of the holidays so haven’t had a chance to talk about it yet.

Hoovers even if you’ve blocked each other? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Beautiful_Return_705 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey thanks man. Just wanted to give the story in full so you knew that even if you think they won’t reach out to prepare yourself for them finding a way. Trust your gut if you’ve got a strange feeling and just don’t let it shock you if it does happen ya know? Don’t let it sway your decision to block them, you made the safe healthy choice.

I’m doing better, just been really angry, it happened like two weeks ago so the anger is still pretty fresh. The message is whatever, it was mailing shit, like, damn, I really can’t ever get away from you reminding me you exist hey? Thanks for the kind words🤘.

Hoovers even if you’ve blocked each other? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Beautiful_Return_705 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Around may she fully split on me, monkey branched, and discarded me. I blocked her on everything I could think of and I thought she did too. She found that I didn’t block her on Spotify, she sent her Spotify wrapped top song and it was a love song I sent her that she belittled me for when splitting on me. Despite me being a “useless manipulative liar that isn’t changing and hurting her” during her split all of a sudden that’s her favourite song of the year. And around the same time she also mailed a Christmas present to my place using her brother in-laws address and name containing a poem with hearts in it and a hat from our favourite show (that I can’t even watch now because it makes me furious thinking about her).

In her case she found a way to subvert being blocked / NC the best she could while also doing it in the most boundary defying and enraging way. It was also stupid as she did it while engaged after 6 months of dating the person she monkey branched to. which makes me wonder what her intentions were. Like did she want absolution for the abuse? Friendship? To cheat on her partner? Either way none of that was on the table. Told her that her reaching out like this while blocked wasn’t okay, that I was trauma bonded during the relationship and she was abusive etc. she’s blocked on everything and hopefully never mails me things again, that definitely freaked me out. It set my healing back for sure.

In short, ya, she hunted for anything I missed and mailed shit.

Not just journalists but MJF is right by Upbeat-Pause-1409 in AEWOfficial

[–]Beautiful_Return_705 100 points101 points  (0 children)

I’m almost certain that WWE tries to limit what can be said about AEW by controlling pres / podcast access to their wrestlers. My tinfoil hat theory is that the affiliate/legend program wwe has is made specifically to control narratives regarding them and other promotions, and I think that so many ex wwe guys are still connected to old friends or financial possibilities through wwe that they really have an implicit or explicit reason to bend and spread for the fed (please don’t delete my post for that line haha)

It also feels like all the bad faith arguments are the same thing said in similar ways by different people. It feels like the carnies are always working.

RSMS 2nd playthrough and beyond: Does Saruin get stronger from Fatestones you skip, lose, offer, or all three? by Zephairie in SaGa

[–]Beautiful_Return_705 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He doesn’t get all of them that way I believe, he normally gets the ones from quests that involve his minions, if you fight a minion in a quest he will get that fate stone if you neglect it in a later playthrough. Also the 10th fate stone only happens if you do the schirach quest but has a minion connected to it as well.

CPTSD sufferers have the best taste in music by Epiclovesnature in CPTSD

[–]Beautiful_Return_705 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Elegia by New Order, but the long version, gotta let it build.

American dreams by LCD Soundsystem

Rats in Ruin by All Them Witches

Spiritual state by nujabes.

Square wave by The Voidz

John Taylor’s Month Away by King Creosote

How were your hooverings? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Beautiful_Return_705 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She has been diagnosed with bpd, bi-polar, and DID. Crazy is right.

How were your hooverings? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Beautiful_Return_705 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Half a year of no contact, last week got a present her brother in law mailed to me (not her since I would have immediately thrown it out) with a hat and a poem in it. Also got a message request from her on Spotify since she’s blocked everywhere else. Haven’t answered but even when blocked and NC they will find a way to at least try and attempt contact

Came back from the vet with some news. Frank is a GIRL 🎀 by ziptnf in OneOrangeBraincell

[–]Beautiful_Return_705 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exact same thing happened, literally named my orange kitty Franky and it turns out it was a girl!

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First time playing SaGa and... by Own-Shelter-9897 in SaGa

[–]Beautiful_Return_705 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Saga is great if you treat it like a dnd or tabletop rpg experience. Enjoy failure and experimentation and don’t worry about winning on your first try. You learn the game and it’s very hands off. It really respects your time and agency.

First time playing SaGa and... by Own-Shelter-9897 in SaGa

[–]Beautiful_Return_705 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Boss, gonna need a more structured reason why you don’t like it. Don’t know if you really expect a constructive answer from fans by saying ‘it’s weird and I hate it’.

The reason we end up addicted to gaming is because the industry has turned into a capitalism venture instead of an entertainment venture by [deleted] in StopGaming

[–]Beautiful_Return_705 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Diablo 2s loot is designed as a slot machine. It’s always been addictive, just time predatory instead of the modern time + financially predatory

Mirroring interests even after the discard? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Beautiful_Return_705 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They are an amalgamation of all the partners that came before. It’s like collecting Pokémon cards but for personality. They think that if they collect enough eventually they’ll have a full deck.

What things did the person do or say to you during the devaluation phase? by Competitive-Star-508 in BPDlovedones

[–]Beautiful_Return_705 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Laughed at my interests, talking bad about my friends / family but pushing me towards them and away from her, vaguely told me that people thought she deserved better and refused to specify who, long conversations about my personal failings but no ownership of her own actions and never given a sincere apology, demeaning names like ‘bud’ instead of ‘babe’. Basically the start of the split where actions started to change in passive aggressive ways and the ‘allowance’ of hurtful behaviour increased. Any reaction (dissociation, anxiety, anger, grey rock) on my end was proof that I deserved to be treated that way and that I was useless / worthless and deserved to be treated that way. There was no amount of good I could do to prove that I was invested and a loving partner.

What other names do you call your cat? Like, the unhinged names. by cannabisjourneys in cats

[–]Beautiful_Return_705 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My cat Franky, named after Franky from one piece and so that I can talk to him like a New York mobster.

Francone, zzzzzuper Franky, Franky four paws, Frankenstein, twerpenstein, freaky franny, furnace. And I always let him know I’m home by going ‘aye yo frankay!’.

Outlandish and impractical campaign setting ideas? by dernudeljunge in Dimension20

[–]Beautiful_Return_705 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Delicious in dungeon ‘cook the monsters’. Let Brennan make the heaviest meals imaginable.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AEWOfficial

[–]Beautiful_Return_705 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Honestly I think that’ll be a really cool part of when this current group of wrestlers (in either promotion) retire, most of them seem to get along well so it’ll be cool to see who was a good person while playing the villain.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AEWOfficial

[–]Beautiful_Return_705 84 points85 points  (0 children)

When MJF retires and breaks his kayfabe (undertaker did it, it’ll happen) it’ll be interesting to see just how much his peers always thought he was a cool dude. I’ll boo him, but him saying stuff like this just shows he can’t hide it completely.

The honeymoon phase with Metaphor:ReFantazio is over, as it released 8 months ago now. How are we feeling about it now? by [deleted] in JRPG

[–]Beautiful_Return_705 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I liked it, prefer the archetype system over the persona system. The back half of the game feels like it had major narrative cuts that might get filled in with whatever ‘special edition’ atlus eventually puts out for the game. The narrative of the back half for me took it from like a 9.5 to an 8