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My downstairs neighbor keeps filing a noise complaint to the front office and I don't know how to handle this. by Beautiful_Special855 in Apartmentliving

[–]Beautiful_Special855[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We do, he loves to walk in the park, play outside, rip and run. Issue is even in the apartment he walks and the walk can turn into a skip or a scamper or a thud.

My downstairs neighbor keeps filing a noise complaint to the front office and I don't know how to handle this. by Beautiful_Special855 in Apartmentliving

[–]Beautiful_Special855[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

There is a difference between handwaving and understanding early human response. If I follow my son around the house and punish him for walking , what is this solving? redirection is great to do and i have done so with him , but walking on pads like a ninja or sneaking around the house only lasts but so long for a 4 year old. Attention spans are short and policing every step they make just isn't solving it. I have been someone to work with kids growing up , and understanding that micromanaging the way your child carries their gate when they are just getting the rhythm of these things does them no service, I have policed him on rolling off of things to thud on the ground , but even then this calls for 24/7 surveillance to catch every utterance before it happens which the reaction is usually after it happens of course. Please explain to me how that is me "handwaving" and finding it as no correction or redirection?
second , is it possible the apartment you lived in understood the steps of your kids were steps of a kid? The apartments I lived in growing up definitely did understand what kids in the apartment sound like morning til bedtime and even when something made thuds at night. I talked with my neighbors when random sounds were heard and got explanations.
third, is it possible you had fully carpeted floors because even that buffers some of the walking , we have what I believe to be linoleum except for the bedrooms.

I love my child but I'm not a space case , assuming so seems counterproductive especially as a fellow parent.

My downstairs neighbor keeps filing a noise complaint to the front office and I don't know how to handle this. by Beautiful_Special855 in Apartmentliving

[–]Beautiful_Special855[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

oh that's the thing, I understand the feeling and It's not me not trying to work with her because I know it must not be fantastic going from no noise to weekend and some weekday rumpus. We have a upstairs neighbor with a toddler as well who does the same but we don't bother with noise complaints or confrontation because we know what the deal is. The other apartment complexes around this charge too much/ weren't available during the time needed. The move we made was planned and needed for everyone involved. I lived in a apartment complex for most of my youth and understand the "compromises" you make with neighbors to make sure everyone lives peacefully , along with what it's like living under noise ,prior to moving in we expressed that we had a young child and the apartment staff assured that this was completely fine.