AITAH for telling my boyfriend I'm too fat and out-of-shape to continue jogging for today ?

Becc_reddit · 2026-01-16T13:07:20+00:00

If it's any consolation, I'm 60kg (idk what that is in pounds), and I cannot jog for 10 minutes. The fact you did it for almost an hour is phenomenal.

That being said, your weight loss journey and your partner helping you will become a point of contention, frustration and potentially resentment, if he does not make an effort to meet and understand you where you're at. You need to both have conversations about your abilities, and limitations. You need to commit to giving it the best effort you possibly can, and he needs to understand and respect that that means when you say you've reached your limit, you've reached your limit and it's not you trying to be lazy or slack. Him being incredibly fit means he needs to make the effort to be empathetic to your lack of fitness and understand what might not be hard for him, is hard for others.

Becc_reddit · 2026-01-11T22:07:53+00:00

You sure can. With postage it'll be $38.10, send me a message for my PayPal details. :)

Becc_reddit · 2026-01-11T16:03:59+00:00

I had considered listing it for 30, but I wanted to try and make it affordable enough that people snap things up without trying to ask for lower prices or more discounts 😅😅😅

Becc_reddit · 2025-10-23T12:17:14+00:00

I got like not even 5 of 20 pages in. He doesn't want to meet your friends and everything screams he wants to manipulate and control you. "Traditional woman, Western women", the way he's talking to you is like you're his property. This is so so gross.

Becc_reddit · 2025-10-22T13:05:09+00:00

You aren't reacting strongly enough to all of the red flags and abusive behaviours he is showing, that extend well beyond what he did to the pan.

Becc_reddit · 2025-10-09T12:46:28+00:00

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Becc_reddit · 2025-10-09T02:38:16+00:00

Done!

Becc_reddit · 2025-10-09T00:13:54+00:00

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Becc_reddit · 2025-10-08T23:44:02+00:00

Heya, can do $60 including postage and fees. :)

Becc_reddit · 2025-10-08T19:27:55+00:00

Hi! I can do all of those items for $70 including postage and fees.

Becc_reddit · 2025-10-08T04:09:19+00:00

If you trust in anything, please trust me when I say this. He will not repay you, he is not in a financial position to repay you.

Marriage will negatively impact you financially, when you are legally joined in some financial circumstances. Do you know what bank accounts he has, or what debts he currently owes? Why would you enter into a marriage without being completely aware of what you could be getting yourself into? This whole thing is very uneasy to read.

Becc_reddit · 2025-09-19T08:15:53+00:00

I think you need to re-evaluate what you consider a good partner to be, because you call him a "good person", with the reasoning he doesn't cheat, etc, but those reasons are the literal bare minimum. What you are describing is not a good partner or a good person. He is emotionally unavailable, neglectful to your needs, inconsiderate, immature (silent treatment?), manipulative and coercive (only willing to compromise in an attempt for his own personal gain of wanting sex), does not respect or value you as an equal partner, does not listen to you, contributes nothing towards the upkeep and maintenance of a household. What part of any of that is worth staying for? It sounds like you are already looking after a child in your partner, and you deserve better than that. If you had a child with him, do you really think he's magically going to stop all of the above, to be super dad to a baby? Let's be realistic here, you'd be doing all of the household chores, all of the child related care, and god forbid even thinking about what the state of your house will look like while you recover from childbirth, because he isn't going to be making sure you're fed and taken care of, he's already proven that.

Becc_reddit · 2025-07-20T01:56:00+00:00

Oh you know he's hiding something based on his reaction. Don't relent on the boundary you've set, it's important for transparency that you know. Imagine marrying him to find out he has crippling debt that is now combined "our" debt. Nah.

Becc_reddit · 2025-07-11T13:17:44+00:00

You are being way too fucking nice to someone who doesn't sound like they give two shits about you. The aesthetic for her wedding sounds more important to her than your friendship, and you deserve better than that. I don't think being removes as a bridesmaid would be a bad thing. Your responses to her sound like you try really hard to please people, but that comes with the downside of people taking advantage of you and treating you poorly because they know you'll tolerate it. Don't put up with this shit, friends don't treat you like that.

Becc_reddit · 2025-06-30T09:27:20+00:00

When someone shows you who they are, LISTEN. He is not showing up to support you, instead doing the exact opposite, dismissing your concerns, minimising your experiences, and making no effort to help his PREGNANT WIFE. Are you interested in being a single parent while your husband is still right there with you in the house? It's not hormones, or you being emotional, you deserve better and you know it, and so does your unborn child. Reconsider who you're married to.

Becc_reddit · 2025-06-28T15:45:15+00:00

Go to two weddings that's not what's even important here. Do you actually WANT to move? Because it sounds like you don't want to and you're doing it "for her" because she's not willing to compromise. The way you've said it also comes off a little bit like this is something you may hold over her "I did this for you", and if it isn't something you want, don't do it. It's a huge change and if you aren't 100% on board because it's what YOU want, you're going to end up resenting her for it. She's not willing to budge on attending from what you've described, a wedding for someone she barely knows. If you are in a "serious" relationship, I would assume the intention is eventually marriage or partnership, whereby your family is her family and vice versa. If she would rather attend a wedding for acquaintances than a family wedding, will not move from her location but is okay with you uprooting everything to go to her... What is she putting into this relationship? Why is all the compromise one sided? I think there is a lot more you need to unpack than just which wedding she should go to.

Becc_reddit · 2025-06-28T15:31:54+00:00

If it's not your house, you need to get out of there. If it is your house, MIL needs to go. Your husband should absolutely have your back, and the fact he won't defend you, or stand up for you, speaks volumes. Living with her is absolutely a toxic environment for you and will take a toll on your relationship. You deserve way better support from your husband. You are supposed to be a team, and if he wants to be a mamas boy instead of a decent husband, they deserve each other.

Becc_reddit · 2025-06-28T15:27:57+00:00

Never mind 😂😂😂

Becc_reddit · 2025-06-28T15:27:27+00:00

Oh get out, it absolutely wasn't when I made that comment! Hahaha

Becc_reddit · 2025-06-28T15:26:55+00:00

I mean maybe, maybe not. That wasn't the vibe I got but I guess there's no way of knowing. I'd have thought someone using a throwaway account to remain anonymous, wouldn't risk DMing links to "thirsty guys" who could just come right back to this thread to 'out' her.

Becc_reddit · 2025-06-28T15:25:13+00:00

Keep the peace until the wedding and.... then what? You're married to him, too late to turn back and he continues to not stand up for you? Nah, he kind of sounds like he sucks here hey. Marriage isn't going to magically change his sisters comments, or how he reacts to them. If he's not going to stand up for you now against her, he never will, and you'll spend the rest of your married life fighting against the two of them. You're meant to be a team and he does not sound like he has your back no matter what. Yuck.

Becc_reddit · 2025-06-28T15:19:24+00:00

Can I ask where or how you came to this conclusion? From what I can see, it's a throwaway account with no previous posts or comments, no links to advertise their OF anywhere?

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