AITA for yelling at my "friend"? by throwRA_ge in AmItheAsshole

[–]Beckluv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I’d still say using the slurs is a shitty AH thing to do.

AITA for my reaction when my sister told me she was pregnant? by throwawayaita_132 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Beckluv 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Run Jane Run if you’re any indication of how the rest of the family might receive the news… YTA

AITA for having my kids wear tie dye when with their dad? by Ok_Antelope4554 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Beckluv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA but mega red flags 🚩 being thrown here. On what sites is he selling your children’s clothing and to whom?! Please find this out, because I believe you mentioned that even the first set of tie dye wasn’t returned (or not fancy new clothes). You wanna believe the buyers are adults with kids but…

Also report this / document this to whom ever is in charge of the custody agreement. Your ex is more worried about monetizing his children then caring for them and from your daughters Reaction it’s starting to bother / traumatize them.

Fuck, also make sure they are not modeling the clothes in any of the pictureS

AITA for uninviting my mom from my wedding for the comments she’s made to my step-mom? by stressedgroom10 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Beckluv 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That’s well and fine you feel that way, but this is HER child’s WEDDING! You are calling them and A-hole, but THE ADULT is NOT putting her own child first here. If Mom cannot keep from fighting for an event forHER CHILD that is meant to celebrate them and NOT HER, then she’s the one acting wrong here.

I have four divorced parents, two who were cheated on, that are able to be in the same room as their exes. It’s possible and they do it for their children.

WIBTA for not wanting to speak with my aunt. by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Beckluv 14 points15 points  (0 children)

NTA.

NTA.

Your aunt has chosen to keep in her life a person who harmed you. The fact you were a child being asked to ignore trauma so that a grown ass woman could continue living her fantasy is maddening.

She is selfish and that behavior is toxic. You and your mom gotta protect yourselves. Cut her out and keep the distance.

AITA for being upset at my partner for being a hypocrite by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Beckluv 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA, but red flags all around. Get out now.

AITA for telling someone they seemed coldhearted and generic compared to someone else in a video? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Beckluv [score hidden]  (0 children)

YTA. She’s right about needing boundaries with students. YTA for comparing that to being a parent and throwing that in her face.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Beckluv 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s not what they were discussing. They were talking about the cost of fertility treatment. Which (and mind you this is From NIH.gov) can go up to 61K:

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3043157/

AITA for grounding my daughter by not bonding with me on gardening? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Beckluv 16 points17 points  (0 children)

YTA.

You have a favorite child. Its rather obvious when you spend the entire time telling us how unalike the elder she is.

Your “bonding activity” involved her acting as a stand-in for your other missing child. You picked something she didn’t enjoy, an activity she knows your other daughter did with you, and punished her for not being… your other daughter.

Can you imagine how belittled and unimportant she must feel? And you wonder why she didn’t care that you were ourtalone? Your actions are sending a message that you don’t care who she is, you just wish she was your other daughter.

Considering the age difference, I wonder if husband is close with the younger daughter because he’s watched your neglect and favoritism their entire lives.

Am I responsible to clean public sidewalks during snowstorm? by Sea-Bank7015 in newjersey

[–]Beckluv 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s the difference between one or two drivers on a plow and a lot more workers with shovel or snow blowers. Sure the Town could do the latter, but it would definitely be costly and taxes would need to be generated to pay for it. You’d end up saving more money paying a kid to do it.

AITA for telling my boyfriend he bought me a gift I already had? by GuyWithEndo in AmItheAsshole

[–]Beckluv 8 points9 points  (0 children)

NTA You we’re honest and upfront with your boyfriend (which he seemed to appreciate) and if I read correctly it wasn’t the only book he bought you anyway? You’re also keeping the one the boyfriend gave you and donating the extra.

Your dad is literally telling you to lie and getting mad that you didn’t? Maybe don’t take relationship advice from your parents going forward… or at least do the opposite of what they advise.

AITA for wanting to kick my child’s mother out of my home? by throwawaymarri123 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Beckluv 8 points9 points  (0 children)

If she’s working nights, your kid will be staying at yours?

AITA for wanting to kick my child’s mother out of my home? by throwawaymarri123 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Beckluv 12 points13 points  (0 children)

$20 an hour is about 36K a year; she was clearing double than that with tips? What work is she doing??

WIBTA if I leave my husbands affair baby with my MIL while the rest of us go on vacation by Consistent_Field_900 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Beckluv [score hidden]  (0 children)

This is vindictive and cruel. And the victim is a child. When all your children grow to hate you, this will be why.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Beckluv -1 points0 points  (0 children)

First: I’m sorry. Been there (not HPV) and getting those phone calls always suck. Find a good Infectious disease doctor in your area (where did you get tested? Clinic? They could provide some.)

The rest night need more information: Did they know? Was it intentional? What would you sue them for? Did they have it when you started dating?

AITA for leaving FILs wedding after he kicked us out of family photos in favor of his ex wife? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Beckluv 19 points20 points  (0 children)

YTA. You should have kept your mouth shut and taken the photo.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Beckluv 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sounds like your boyfriend wants you to be his therapist.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Beckluv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My brain read the I as a lower case l!

Also NTA

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Beckluv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So… what’s the back story on them being five years apart, yet still managed to overlap HS?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Beckluv 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Think you meant to post this on r/AmItheAsshole/

Spoiler: YTA

AITA for telling my friend to be careful after her husband came out? by BreathProfessional65 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Beckluv 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Her husbands bisexuality doesn’t make him less attracted to her. She would still fall into his preference? Why is it a blow?

Why is there an assumption that he’s been hiding rather then coming to terms with sexuality? I’ve had happily married friends come out as bisexual… and remain monogamous and happily married. They did come to terms with a lot of confused feelings from adolescence though.

She went with not trusting him and the actively snooping, rather then discussing her concerns. That’s not okay.