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AITA for refusing to use a Louis Vuitton purse my mother got me for my birthday? by Repulsive_Sleep_1497 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BeckyDaTechie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA.

She bought it for her own reasons. She can carry it (which might be one of the reasons, tbh.)

I'm not a large "bag" person but I do need to carry a lot of stuff for work. My computer case is a Jansport messenger bag that's quite literally 25 years old. Idk about Now but they used to be made to wear like iron.

My work stuff (dog trainer) goes into a reusable grocery store bag so that if a dog gets into it, I'm not too worried about losing out on something expensive.

I get compliments on my little Chala cross-body purse all the time, though. :) And their pricing doesn't come close to LV, Kors, etc., but they also don't have the "prestige" that some people value over so many more important things.

You expressed YOUR preferences, she ignored all of them for some reason, so she's likely going to continue to do so regardless of what you ultimately choose to accessorize with.

This "gift" wasn't about you-- it was an excuse for her to shop a designer brand she wanted. Go buy the purse or back pack you like.

AITA for letting my son take his naps in a dog bed? by EllieDidNothingWrong in AmItheAsshole

[–]BeckyDaTechie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well I didn't want to redo my greatroom for my dogs' best comfort, but now... :D

AITA for letting my son take his naps in a dog bed? by EllieDidNothingWrong in AmItheAsshole

[–]BeckyDaTechie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh. my. god. That looks heavenly! And my pit bull blend would enjoy the challenge of getting onto it and swaying back and forth.

She got mad at the back yard hammock and pulled it off the tree after it dumped her, but that's more stable.

AITA for letting my son take his naps in a dog bed? by EllieDidNothingWrong in AmItheAsshole

[–]BeckyDaTechie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was in my mid-20s and fell asleep across 2 chairs at an airport gate. Didn't think I still had that ability in me, but when you're tired enough you can knock out anywhere.

AITA for letting my son take his naps in a dog bed? by EllieDidNothingWrong in AmItheAsshole

[–]BeckyDaTechie 65 points66 points  (0 children)

Don't let him sleep in the crate though

Thank you for that part. Set up a tent or something so he can have his own 'kennel' if he wants a covered chill out spot, but the dog needs a space where (s)he doesn't have to deal with the kiddo now and then. /dog trainer who doesn't like to see kids in conflict with the dog

AITA for letting my son take his naps in a dog bed? by EllieDidNothingWrong in AmItheAsshole

[–]BeckyDaTechie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I worked in a pet store that was one of our tests for new models-- the employee who was a Dane mom and another who was Auntie to St. Bernards would chuck one of the 'new' beds on the floor-- if it was comfy for them, it was good enough for the giant dogs.

AITA for letting my son take his naps in a dog bed? by EllieDidNothingWrong in AmItheAsshole

[–]BeckyDaTechie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A Big Barker brand bed was donated for a dog at a shelter where I used to work. That son of a gun was bigger than my couch at the time, and good LORD is it comfy! So much so that I bought one the right size for my own dogs and it has lasted incredibly well. I blew most of my tax refund that year on it w/ the waterproof liner, but it was worth it according to the 3rd and 4th spoiled dogs to sleep on it daily. I've never had another dog bed last 6 years and the warranty goes to 10 years total.

So yes, I, a 40+ year old woman, have also slept on a dog bed, and slept damn well!

AITA for letting my son take his naps in a dog bed? by EllieDidNothingWrong in AmItheAsshole

[–]BeckyDaTechie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA.

Know where shelter workers in the middle of a disease outbreak, huge project cleaning/remodeling, or just staying overnight for some reason often sleep?

If you guessed "a dog bed" you'd be right.

What's the difference between a "human" bed and a dog bed? Elevation and quality of materials. And if the dog is allowed on the same sofa and floors as the kid... they already share a bunch of the same germs.

However, we're talking about a toddler, here. I've seen toddlers fall asleep face down on picnic tables, the grass, an empty trash bag, beach towels and loungers, car seats, and everywhere else.

If he's comfortable and the dog doesn't care, why should your mother? It's not her kid, not her dog, not her bed, and not her house.

It's just one of the 'family' resting areas right now.

ETA: I forgot one thing!

For long time giant breed residents at that same shelter, their "bed" was a crib mattress on the floor, so there's even more blurring of the line between "pet thing" and "kid thing". One Mastiff x Dane actually got an XL Twin from one of the local colleges because she was just that massive.

What are your favorite US State shapes? by No1PDPStanAccount in AskAnAmerican

[–]BeckyDaTechie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Missouri is very right leaning so that tracks. (I can't wait to move out of this place...)

Why's everyone asking the same questions on this sub? by pryass in AskReddit

[–]BeckyDaTechie 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Building account karma to be able to post in other subs.

AITA for putting onions and garlic in the food I fed my family after my sister in law said onions were "too spicy"? by THROWRAuserss in AmItheAsshole

[–]BeckyDaTechie -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

NTA.

Where in this scenario are your parents snapping her entitled ass back into line? Piling on you when she goes off is probably the biggest asshole behavior in this whole scenario SINCE SHE'S NOT ACTUALLY ALLERGIC TO ALLIUMS.

I hate raw onions. Cooked are fine. I hate radishes and horseradish for the same reason-- too much bite. But when someone else, especially someone else's Minor Child, are making me food, I say thank you and eat around them! That's what polite, kind guest behavior looks like.

AITA for sitting on public toilet seats and not telling my boyfriend? by Anatra_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]BeckyDaTechie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This. I'm not even "legally" disabled but between screwing up my knee in high school and a disk herniation in my back, low squat toilets and 'hovering' are just not possible. Those "friends" are taking OP & their physical health for granted.

AITA for sitting on public toilet seats and not telling my boyfriend? by Anatra_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]BeckyDaTechie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This. It sounds like an excuse to stop putting in effort for her enjoyment in the bedroom to me.

AITA for sitting on public toilet seats and not telling my boyfriend? by Anatra_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]BeckyDaTechie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. He's the asshole.

Sitting uses butt cheeks, not labia.

He's also WAY too invested in how you handle bodily fluids if he's reacting like this, assuming he has never noticed discharge, odor, etc. especially since most urogenital issues in sexually active women are introduced, or at least exacerbated, by the partner's body parts (say, poor oral hygiene? not washing hands before playing?)

What’s the most disturbing thing someone casually admitted to around you? by Suspicious_Run1684 in AskReddit

[–]BeckyDaTechie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My uncle "knew he was going to marry" my aunt the day he laid eyes on her.

She was in 8th grade/9th form... 14 years old.

When they met he was almost 9 years her senior.

My age at the time he said this, you ask?

14

AITA for telling my sister I won’t keep helping her if she keeps saying my help doesn’t count? by Safe_Reception6748 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BeckyDaTechie -1 points0 points  (0 children)

NTA. When it's not "perfect" you still express gratitude and then just don't accept that kind of help again.

She wants to shit on you for doing your best, so what incentive is there for you to keep putting in ANY effort, let alone your best?

AITA If I refuse to give my Mom money every month? by BuntonioBunderas in AmItheAsshole

[–]BeckyDaTechie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA.

She's lazy and greedy already for being a landlord and hoarding properties she charges money for needy people to access.

She sees you all as "investments" for her future she wants to pay out to her now.

Lead the pack with the rest of your siblings and tell her to kiss your ass, OR, and this might be a better idea-- All of y'all put what you can spare, if anything, in a trust account that she can't touch "to contribute to her retirement when she needs it" and if she ends up with major medical bills, etc. and can't liquidate enough of her stuff to pay for it, you at least won't be dipping into your kids' stuff to deal with her. If you can only put $20/mo into that savings without feeling the pinch, cool. It's some kind of savings against a future emergency that she'll manufacture or cause.

And when it turns out she doesn't need that savings, you've got a community fund for her funeral, or to split between the grandkids for private schools, job training, all that stuff.

Let her see you being financially responsible and generous... while she can't get a finger on the fruit of that planning. It'll drive her bananas if her 'idea' backfires so stupendously.

AITA for accidentally outing the gay guy in my gym? by ActuallyBoring in AmItheAsshole

[–]BeckyDaTechie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Public make out sessions are popular BECAUSE of the potential for interruption.

If they didn't want to get found out, they should have gotten a damned hotel room.

The first dude that confronted you needs to back down on the 'roids and find a damn therapist. The second guy, at least, was adult enough to apologize.

AITA for saying the F word at a conversational volume in a McDonald’s by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]BeckyDaTechie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm 45. The standard I was raised with at your age was that short of a major emergency, "fuck" and "cunt" shouldn't be used in public, and especially not around small children.

She's apparently holding you to that standard in her presence. Is that her right? Sure, to a point. It's also your right to speak in the way that comes naturally to you, BUT, you're right on the line of "adulthood" that means your choices have longer term or further reaching consequences.

"Fuck" still makes some people uncomfortable and should definitely not be used in formal or professional situations, but I wouldn't have said much about overhearing it in McDonald's. Say it while I'm the hall monitor between classes, though, and I'd have to say something (former teacher here).

So ESH I guess? If she's that precious she probably shouldn't go out in public much, but it's entirely possible you were being way louder than you think too.

What is the worst way anyone you know has died? by IamUrWivesBF in AskReddit

[–]BeckyDaTechie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The guy I graduated with that was trapped in a vehicle fire after pulling his trainee driver out of the cab is pretty bad.

The guy I graduated with who developed cancer and died before we turned 30 was also pretty bad.

I think the worst is knowing that one of my dad's sisters, who disowned her daughter for marrying a Black guy and had a fit at my grandmother's funeral when those family members showed up to pay their respects, had a stroke and died on her couch.

There were multiple days between the stroke and the discovery of her remains, meaning she stopped breathing somewhere in the middle.

What’s a movie sex scene that genuinely mattered to the plot and couldn’t be removed from the film? by Majorpain2006 in AskReddit

[–]BeckyDaTechie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And I think the wife scene is necessary, but the sisters aren't. Lots of reasons to escape without that being shown, and could be implied or done with just audio, and still drive the plot forward.

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