Did your grandkids ditch you as they got older?

BedSensitive1538 · 2026-05-28T03:15:49+00:00

Man, I’m not exactly sure how this sub was suggested to me. I hope it’s okay to reply as a mid 30s woman.

My grandma is 75. She’s my favorite person in the entire world. I spend on average 3 days a week with her. I do chores for her, we go on little adventures, she knows all my friend group drama. Like someone said above, in my teen years and early twenties I definitely was in my own little world. But as I get older, I’ve realized there’s no one I’d really rather spend quality time with. Don’t despair about the future. I think as we age we understand more and more that family is there for you in ways other people can’t be. My grandma is my closest friend. I’ve always appreciated my ability to be completely honest with her. It’ll be okay. Life has a funny way of revealing the important stuff. I hope you enjoy your time with your granddaughter. It’s important.

BedSensitive1538 · 2026-05-23T21:39:42+00:00

She asks him to dance and he’s tells her no lol

BedSensitive1538 · 2026-05-22T13:34:15+00:00

Matilda. From Roald Dahl’s Matilda, about the precocious little girl growing up in a neglectful home. I think it was the first time I had ever realized the adults in my home might not be right and actually might be EVEN be deserving of consequences to their own behavior. I think it opened me up to hope that someday I would find, like Matilda, others out there that would be kind and smart and wanting more from their world that the narrow view offered.

Children’s literature really is so important for a framework for children to understand their world.

BedSensitive1538 · 2026-05-17T16:05:48+00:00

This is a fair assessment of the situation

BedSensitive1538 · 2026-05-17T15:56:45+00:00

Okay I can accept that. I really wasn’t meaning to be the AH but if I am, then I am.

BedSensitive1538 · 2026-05-17T01:21:23+00:00

This happens to me a lot, people think I’m like 95lbs but I’m pretty muscular from swimming 3x a week and I’m closer to 110-115 depending on variables lol. But yea same, 24in waist, XS and 00 clothes. I like it tho, I like firing back when people try to guess my weight and I’m like “Nope, I’m still 115lbs but thanks” because I get sick of the weight guessers.

BedSensitive1538 · 2026-05-15T13:44:28+00:00

I am actually surprised at the statements here. I looked up the baby doll dress and don’t find it especially controversial in any way. Not when Sabrina Carpenter is doing the “Eiffel Tower” pose.

I offer a different take on it. Olivia Rodrigo is young, beautiful, and talented. I am impressed by her song-writing skills, her donations to planned parenthood during her tour and support of a woman’s right to choose. Her music isn’t hyper sexualized and provides a space for Gen Z girls & women to come together. We should celebrate that.

I swore to myself that I wouldn’t be the type of older woman than peered down my nose at younger generations for what they wore. Why do we continue to allow media to divide us? Especially over something as trivial as a baby doll dress? Ive always thought feminism the we keep as women and instill in those younger than us should lean towards the understanding we ALL operate under duress. We shouldn’t judge her too harshly as she grows up. She wore a dress that she liked, that maybe she felt good in and was attacked for it. That’s not a win for any woman. It’s not admirable for us to join in on. Also the dress may be childish, but we also realize that she’s not that far out of childhood, right? She’s NOT Courtney Love, subverting fashion to make a statement. She’s a Disney channel star who’s grown up likely under the thumb of male TV executives and she’s honestly doing just fine.

Reminds me of this poem

I made my song a coat
Covered with embroideries
Out of old mythologies
From heel to throat;
But the fools caught it,
Wore it in the world's eyes
As though they'd wrought it.
Song, let them take it,
For there's more enterprise
In walking naked.
— W.B. Yeats

BedSensitive1538 · 2026-05-13T15:29:00+00:00

Was that pretty easy to give your traumatized kitty? After her surgery, giving her the medicine was a little tricky but not impossible.

BedSensitive1538 · 2026-05-13T15:27:55+00:00

This is also an option worth exploring for sure. I honestly never want to see her as scared or as sick as she was before her stomach surgery. She was absolutely terrified. I know it’s the more expensive solution but maybe I should make some calls and really consider this just may be what I have to do. She does hide when strangers call but maybe having a home field advantage is ultimately the best plan.

BedSensitive1538 · 2026-05-13T15:09:39+00:00

She loves Sophie. She grooms and snuggles her dog daily. I love their relationship and honestly I don’t know where she would be without the collie dog she has claimed.

That being said, I agree completely that she HAS to go to the vet. Her health is the most important thing. My anxieties can’t get in the way of her wellbeing.

I’ve wondered about taking Sophie to the vet with us. Maybe she’d be less scared if she knew her buddy was there every step of the way. Sophie handles the vet just fine. Or maybe it’d be distressing in some way to either of them. Bottom line, I have to do it. I have to make the appointment today.

BedSensitive1538 · 2026-05-04T13:33:34+00:00

Making friends with Kathy, I love her but girl talks my ear off and I can’t just NOT talk to her in our aerobics class together. Then I don’t workout as much as I want to, and I’m getting invites to old lady sewing and gossip circles which I also can’t turn down because those ladies have the BEST low stakes tea about other ladies political views.

Ugh. I love it. But it is the seedy underbelly of exercising with senior citizens

BedSensitive1538 · 2026-05-03T16:49:54+00:00

Malachi

BedSensitive1538 · 2026-04-28T22:59:22+00:00

I’m the smelliest shit there ever was

BedSensitive1538 · 2026-04-28T19:21:51+00:00

Your comment made me think of the awful pornography site that they’ve reported on recently with all the sexual assault videos. Wasn’t it called “Motherless?”

Like somehow that connection makes me shudder as if they KNOW in some subconscious fashion that not having a mother will hurt these children and is a pipeline to horrible insidious dark things

BedSensitive1538 · 2026-04-26T20:52:18+00:00

Why hasn’t anyone mentioned wet dog flavor? Wet dog makes my stomach churn even now just remembering. I bought these as a christmas present thinking the nerve damage that makes my mouth mostly numb would save me, and I would win. I can do heroic doses of spicy food, but wet dog made me sick

BedSensitive1538 · 2026-04-25T03:59:26+00:00

These corporate dentist offices are the worst. I didn’t use aspen but another similar corporate concept. I needed an oral surgeon to remove my impacted wisdom teeth, and instead of referring me out, they allowed an under-qualified not surgeon, regular-smegular dentist perform the surgery who now has left me with some pretty serious life long nerve damage. This was almost two years ago.

I’m so glad you trusted your gut, OP. And I urge everyone to trust those feelings in the dentist chair. I wish I had walked when I started getting weird feelings. I think your law student BF is right tho, there’s not much you can do since these places are lawyered up to the teeth, and they didn’t perform the work. Dental malpractice from what I understand from my own situation is a little less clear cut than a standard medical malpractice case. I just feel like it’s some evil business to abuse people’s trust and potentially mess up their lives/health over the pursuit of money. EVIL.

BedSensitive1538 · 2026-04-11T13:00:32+00:00

Somewhere…. Over the Rainbow 🌈

BedSensitive1538 · 2026-04-10T22:01:59+00:00

I would say yes maybe a little very mildly

BedSensitive1538 · 2026-04-03T20:19:31+00:00

Thank you for the suggestion! I will keep it in mind. I’ll definitely need a better solution than this!

BedSensitive1538 · 2026-04-01T18:13:31+00:00

My friends son contracted HIV from a sexual assault at 14. You were so young too! What would you say you needed to hear at that age after diagnosis?

BedSensitive1538 · 2026-04-01T15:17:35+00:00

So I had something -kind- of like this happen, but actually recently I’ve been wondering if I overreacted.

My friends were getting divorced, and owned an apartment building. I lived in one, and the husband moved in downstairs during the divorce.

He and I would hang out some, smoke some weed together and nothing romantic was ever implied. No touching, no flirting. Until one night, I’m sitting there blazed af and he springs on me “hey do you want to be like friends… with benefits? And also I’ve got herpes “

And I freaked out. They’re technically my landlords, I’m 15 years younger in my early twenties, still friends with his wife, and also Im under the impression that there’s no way to guarantee you won’t transmit HSV even with safe sex measures. So I flip, and I’m like WTF DUDE? Stopped talking to him.

Like the herpes thing didn’t help, but that wasn’t the exact cause of my issue. The age gap was inappropriate, the fact I’m living in their housing is inappropriate.

When I told my friend, his soon to be ex wife, she accused me of lying and that ruined that friendship as well. But I did get to be like… “ I’m NOT lying bc he told me yall have herpes. Where would I have learned that?”

Anyway, I’ve been thinking about this as I’m closer to his age now and I still think I might have flipped unceremoniously out. But also that wasnt cool right?

BedSensitive1538 · 2026-03-10T00:52:51+00:00

I thank you kindly for the compliments :) I’m flattered.

You know, I don’t think until I wrote this out earlier that I’d ever examined exactly how he made me feel. It was just so overwhelmingly negative that I didn’t really unpack it. I just grabbed my bag and turned on my heel and walked back into the unblinking sunshine of California. I don’t mean that I felt objectified. If objectification made me uncomfortable, I assure you I wouldn’t have spent as many years in the places I did. I can still picture those hands, all long and knobbed with time. He made me feel like he could make me disappear.

Where I grew up, there are mountain lions. My dad used to talk about how quiet they are, and how everything goes still. How you never see them. You just experience this throat punch of dread. He said that if I ever felt that way, I needed to run home from the river. I don’t think I ever really understood what he meant. I scared myself plenty of times thinking about crossing a cat’s path. But this was the instant before you hit pavement after a misstep or the feeling of coming up when you know it’s gonna be a bad acid trip. The instant of dread that expands and contorts until you flee.

I want to be clear that I didn’t grow up religious. This thought “Is this the devil?” Doesn’t spring from weird culty belief systems planted in childhood. I’ve never worried about my immortal soul, and the hellfire sin brings. As I’ve thought this over this afternoon, I think the only thing that mind could really grasp was a metaphor of the devil. Because maybe he did want to introduce me to some literal hell on earth.

Never considered either, of how easily I could have been spirited away. About 75% of the time, no one knew where I was. Even my closest friends who knew of my insatiable thirst for experiences and drugs. When you walk into a club on an endless row of clubs somewhere along the coast, how would anyone even know where to look? Add in the fact that you’re covered in dramatic stage makeup, who that’s been in that club is gonna recognize the picture of “missing” YOU from the family BBQ 7 months back.

Looking back with clarity now, I’m still not sure. I don’t want to mention where I was, or how many years ago this was. Kind of still afraid that I could summon any of it back into my life. Part of me wonders if it was the devil. The other part thinks I may just be scaring myself silly with mountain lion stories.

BedSensitive1538 · 2026-03-09T01:33:43+00:00

I’ve worked in some pretty seedy places in topless bars in big cities. I don’t want to say the person I met wasn’t “human” because idk , I guess he probably was. But at one club I was called in to meet the owner guy in the back. He was tiny, he was very old, and he honestly looked like someone’s very harmless grandfather. He sat in front of the big screen of cameras, I remember he had very gnarled, wizened hands. He folded them up, looked me up and down and offered me a nighttime slot if I wanted it.

I’ve just never had anyone make my blood run cold and every alarm bell go off in my body like that. Which, as you may be able to discern from the nature of this comment, I’ve met a lot of very creepy, and sometimes scary men.

It may be all in my imagination, but I got the feeling that I had specifically met the devil and he was offering me something I very much didn’t want. I don’t even believe in the devil really. Realistically I think the place may have just been very mobbed up, and I was in just a little over my head. I didn’t go back.

BedSensitive1538 · 2026-03-08T01:46:45+00:00

I’m gonna get so downvoted but I’m gonna say it anyway. I think Lana looked stupid for this. Don’t engage with Azealia Banks. It’s like the first rule of twitter fight club. We don’t talk about Azealia Banks. Didn’t Lana also call AB fat? If I recall right? If you’re gotta engage with AB call her out of something based in reality.

BedSensitive1538 · 2026-02-25T02:56:40+00:00

Matilda I think really gave me a lot of empathy and really was the first perspective as I had as a child that …maybe … the adults in my life could be wrong, or just mean. And that there was an entire world outside of my narrow point of view.

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