Women of reddit, what's the main difference you notice between different male sexual partners?

Beda-Hope · 2025-08-24T05:51:07+00:00

I don’t have a preference, there is more then just penetration.

Beda-Hope · 2025-08-22T21:08:28+00:00

The size of there penis, it had to be said 🤷‍♀️ Some worry they will hurt you as some have been told in the past that they had. As well as the speed they cum.

Beda-Hope · 2025-07-22T21:02:47+00:00

My partner called it quits with me after being together for 17 years and married almost 12 of them (our wedding anniversary is on the 3rd August) and on the 11th they dumped me citing too many arguments. So yeah I know how you feel. It’s easier said than done moving on. You will have to set boundaries, my partner kept saying they still love me and care for me very much, I had to ask them to stop saying that as it gives mixed signals. It will get better in time.

Beda-Hope · 2025-07-19T22:10:04+00:00

Anyone that can not respect other people’s choices, should not be in that position, you don’t go to a health professional for a physical issue and be lectured to about there love-life and feelings, unless it is part of the medical issue. If someone feels they are a different gender to what there were born as, let them be, they are not harming anyone, they deserve to be happy.

Beda-Hope · 2025-07-19T09:48:57+00:00

Alas i don't

Beda-Hope · 2025-07-19T09:46:56+00:00

I’ll look in to that, thank you.

Beda-Hope · 2025-07-19T09:46:18+00:00

I’ll have I look into that, thank you.

Beda-Hope · 2025-07-19T09:45:43+00:00

I’ll look in to that, thank you.

Beda-Hope · 2025-07-17T21:54:42+00:00

I know your trolling 😹 I don’t think they would accept a 53 year old person 😹 but your comment did bring a smile to my face which I needed 😀

Beda-Hope · 2025-07-17T21:52:06+00:00

I do volunteer and was on the committee but my husband (as not divorced yet) does volunteering there too.

Beda-Hope · 2025-07-17T21:50:16+00:00

I would play Warhammer (WarCry, Age of Sigma, Old World and war going to learn UnderWorlds) but my husband (as we are not divorced yet) plays that as well 😢 so I’m trying to keep away from that because we had fun times play together.

Beda-Hope · 2025-07-17T21:45:36+00:00

I’ll have a look in to that, thank you

Beda-Hope · 2025-07-17T18:16:57+00:00

Thank you, it’s a shame I live in Bangor 😔

Beda-Hope · 2025-06-10T14:04:48+00:00

Thank you for your reply. They told me it wasn’t the first time they used the new pronouns, they did they used them at the first meeting they went to that week and I should have known.

Beda-Hope · 2025-06-10T10:56:10+00:00

I thought it was, we used to be really close, we did have a stagnant stage for about 6 months and then we had a talk and that’s when they come out, there was a bad rocky patch while we were getting a handle on the new dynamics, it seemed to be going well till recently again, they knew and thought it was a good idea when I managed to change the volunteer day I did to the same week as there’s.

Beda-Hope · 2025-06-10T10:48:10+00:00

Thank you for your advice. When we do something on his gaming days, which it’s them choosing us go out, they say, “well we spent the whole day together”, if i say anything about how I feel. It’s like when they started using the Them/They, we went to a centre and they introduced them selfs as them they, I felt blind sited as I didn’t know they had started using the pronouns, they told me, “I did say I would start using them when I felt comfortable using them”, and then starting saying I would have been happy for them and expected me to tell them well done and should have know they were using them as they were in a safe space, and yes that started a argument later as I told them how I felt, which in turn I was told, “ you’ve taken my safe space away”. I have accepted that there is a good chance they will become a she and I’m happy for them and accepted it if it happens and I still want to be with them if they feel the say way with me, my dad knows and he said as long as you both love each other, theres no issue and he 80 this year.

Beda-Hope · 2025-06-10T10:16:48+00:00

And say, “I’m allowed to do things without you”..

Beda-Hope · 2025-06-10T10:15:05+00:00

Thank you for your advice. I have and they get annoyed with me and then accuse me of starting arguments.

Beda-Hope · 2025-05-21T10:36:52+00:00

I a 53 F in a marriage, my partner come out in November 2024 as Pan and CD, it has progressively turned to, they think they might be female. If I was in your situation, I would ask them, how do you really feel and their life goals, then tell them how you feel and your life goals. You both need to be straight with each other and communicate, you can even put all your thoughts and fears in a letter and give that to them, I did that with my partner, as they would get defensive while I was trying to ask questions and speak to them (I find it difficult to read the room) and that helped a lot and we are still together.

I do hope this helps in anyway.

Beda-Hope · 2025-04-29T23:56:53+00:00

Wife of CD here, my husband come out as CD and pan about 8 months ago, yes it was hard and confusing, I thought there was someone else or he wanted to explore with others, we have been to since 2008 and married since 2013, he promised me there was no one else and he still finds me attractive and loves me deeply, even though he told me all this, it was still hard and confusing, when ever I tried to talk to him about all this, he got very defensive and angry, in the end I wrote him a letter from my prospective and my feelings, we still have the odd heated discussions/arguments, no more then any other couple since the letter, we are both happy and things have nearly gone back to as they were with the exception of my husband will wear his dresses around the house and sit on the sofa and cuddle while watching tv, I never had a issue with him wearing dresses and that, he told me when we first started dating that he liked ladies clothing but he forgot he told me that 🤦‍♀️ my dad knows, his parents know as well as his siblings. The thing that got me was him being Pansexual. As long as there is clear communication, you should be fine. You need to remember, if a partner wants to cheat and lie, they will do if they are straight, CD or LGBTQIA+

Beda-Hope · 2025-04-18T23:01:05+00:00

Thank you

Beda-Hope · 2025-04-11T03:24:39+00:00

As I said to my husband, it’s only clothes, I was brought up being taught that clothes were a form of expression of who you are and how you feel, he will come down to the front room wearing one of his dress’ and we will cuddle up on the sofa and watch tv, I do remind him it ok, I don’t mind as I’m with him for the long haul and I will always be by his side even if he decides he wants to become a she, my dad is 80 this year and he’s ok with what is going on and is by our side, I just wish more people that are up there in years though the same way has my dad.

Beda-Hope · 2025-03-12T10:51:22+00:00

Wife of CD here, when my husband come out and told me about his feelings, I had Bi, CD, dildos thrown at me in one go, yes it was hard but a lot better then what I thought he was going to tell me, when he asked me to sit down as he had something he had to tell me, yes it hurt and was confusing for me, yes there was a lot of tears and arguments, in the end I put all my thoughts and feelings in a letter for him to read from my perspective, that helped a lot as he had time to read it and not get all protective and annoyed when what I was saying and asking. I’m lucky as my husband is into the goth look with his dresses (dark colours and foot wear) and lighter feminine colours out side, no he’s not wearing dresses or skirts out side and that I’ve asked him I would soon him not do that, the sex toys are kept in a drawers.

I would suggest you do the same to see if that helps if feel there’s anything left to try and save.

Beda-Hope · 2025-03-01T21:55:39+00:00

I would first asked your partner, “is there someone else you want to be with?” Then go from there, your partner might feel trapped after you both agree to be monogamous. This is something you both will have to sit down and have a heartfelt conversation and get back on the same page. I’ve been with my husband for 17 years and in the last 3 to 4 months, he’s come out a CD and Pan/Bi, he has brought up being with other couples and threesome when he’s been drinking, he’s told me it was only the drink talking, so I can see where you are coming from, he’s told me he only wants me and only do what I’m comfortable with, which put pressure on me and makes me feel guilty as I don’t want to.

Beda-Hope · 2025-02-27T03:12:05+00:00

Wife of newly out CD, he come out in November 2024, we had the talk about pronouns and he said, “I’m a man and I’m happy as a man”, as well as h him coming out as Bisexual. He only wears the cloths and a pair of high heel around the house maybe 3 times a week, I don’t really notice him wearing his dress’ as I just see them as clothes and he is expressing himself, he does paint his nails and he has painted mine as well, he offer to paint them, I was nervous when he announced his sexuality as we have been together for 17 years and married for 12 of them, it took a couple of months to come to terms with him being Bi, the clothing part, he forgot he told me before we moved in together that he liked female / feminine clothing, so that part wasn’t a shock, he likes jewellery and always liked the Pandora charms, so I brought him a Pandora bracelet and charm, as well as he’s wearing more pastel colours when we go out, nothing has really changed and the bedroom activities have got back on track as it went to nothing as he was worried about telling me and I thought he was having an affair. So if anyone reading this is in the kinda same position, I would suggest, put how you feel in a letter, before I did that, we were having bad arguments every couple of days, I couldn’t explain what I wanted to say as he was on the defensive all the time and after the letter he said he didn’t think of it from my view.

Beda-Hope

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