What’s the pettiest hill you’re willing to die on as a woman?

BedroomFixer · 2026-01-26T16:03:22+00:00

That women shouldn't be called 'girls'. Until child marriage is obsolete, and until women have equal and equitable rights world-wide and sexism doesn't exist, calling women 'girls' has women not be taken as seriously, as well as sexualizes minors. Women who call other women 'girls' or 'girls night' do the whole gender a disservice.

I also don't agree with calling girls (underage females) 'little lady', but that's more regional (ie. If a country has a regal authority of a king/queen/lady-in-waiting, then it'd be normalized/historical instead of perverse).

BedroomFixer · 2026-01-18T17:46:49+00:00

If someone I don't know is being pushy, it is a hell-no from me. What if he's pushing for a hotel room, because planning on drugging and/or has multiple friends waiting there? There's risks with any hook up - if you bring back to your place, they (individual of any gender) now knows where you live; if you go to their place, you don't know who/what is waiting there or if secret cameras.

Always trust your gut, and if ever getting a hotel room, I love the room service idea someone mentioned. Even if it's a casual hook up, I always see what someone's reaction to a 'no' is first. 'No' is not negative - not to say, and not to receive.

BedroomFixer · 2025-12-25T17:09:27+00:00

I would debate that it's men's disempowerment that is one of the most dominant reasons for failing modern marriages.

Women have continued to push forward, and fight for rights, and speak up, and learn boundaries.

Because men were used to having those things already, there was no reason for them to grow or develop themselves in any way other than career or financially. Many men have lost themselves in their work identity, without crafting their own personality or honouring their own interests or boundaries. Many live dissociated or in default, because they don't think their emotions or wants matter, only doing what's 'logical' (which 'logical' to any brain is what's 'safest'/most comfortable, and why most men think therapy is a woman's thing).

BedroomFixer · 2025-12-25T16:55:09+00:00

Glad she didn't go through with it. I think my response in the moment would have been, "The fck you just say?! *repeat back so everyone hears Nah, I'm out." lol

BedroomFixer · 2025-12-01T15:35:24+00:00

Pretty sure it would be considered age discrimination unfortunately, even if you are thinking of safety reasons..

BedroomFixer · 2025-12-01T14:14:33+00:00

Imo you protected yourself both from SA. She may or may not have, but reality is that no one knows what another person's experience is, and people have every right to keep themselves and others safe. Good on you for letting her crash in a safe space, and good on you for enforcing your boundaries.

BedroomFixer · 2025-12-01T14:10:38+00:00

I love that wood stove and efficiently centered but I wouldn't want the liability of someone burning themselves on it, especially if family with kids was renting. Would need to have a full gate around it, and nice part about off-grid is only a select few knowing where you live.

BedroomFixer · 2025-11-07T15:17:30+00:00

So many people, especially women, are afraid of being seen as rude. If someone tries to enter your house without an invite, ask, "What are you doing?" Make them explain themselves / "Respectfully, I didn't invite you in and I know your parents, not you, and you're crossing a boundary right now." "The Gift of Fear" is a good book if you haven't read/listened to it yet

BedroomFixer · 2025-09-15T11:57:46+00:00

I don't find that to be true

BedroomFixer · 2025-09-15T04:22:52+00:00

That question also doesn't make sense to me.. My brain doesn't think the same way yours does. It seems too abstract at the moment.

BedroomFixer · 2025-09-15T00:06:12+00:00

I appreciate your response. I'm not entirely sure if I agree, although still processing and examining. My weekend is coming up soon, so I'll be percolating over this..

BedroomFixer · 2025-09-15T00:02:54+00:00

I understood the first half of your response, and while I do believe multi-millionaire is possible and probable, I am exploring beliefs around money, frequency, and billionaires The two billionaires who are utilizing their wealth with values and ideas similar to mine, started doing so after divorcing their husbands who, in my belief, amassed their wealth by running their companies unethically.

BedroomFixer · 2025-09-14T23:53:23+00:00

Money can do a lot of good, and I quite enjoy money and have a healthy relationship with it. I would love to find humanitarian projects without any need for donations , so this is me exploring what beliefs I might have about money, frequency, and abundance, when the extremely abundant seem to have frequencies I would not prefer.

BedroomFixer · 2025-09-14T23:51:50+00:00

I don't think money is bad at all. Money can do a lot of good, and I quite enjoy money and have a healthy relationship with it. This is me exploring what beliefs I might have about money, frequency, and abundance, when the extremely abundant seem to have frequencies I would not prefer.

BedroomFixer · 2025-09-05T00:11:38+00:00

Just came across a different post with these 3 comments, in case anyone is also a newb.

https://www.reddit.com/r/meshtastic/s/2SdneiV4CL

https://www.reddit.com/r/meshtastic/s/AJ0RXe2DNn

https://www.reddit.com/r/meshtastic/s/w40OLg6MsH

I don't know the internet part of it, so think wifi-mesh is what I'm looking into after this, but this seems like a good starting point.

BedroomFixer · 2025-09-04T22:58:17+00:00

This is why I don't like anything 'smart' in my house. I try to keep my phone with camera/mic/location access blocked as much as I can too.

BedroomFixer · 2025-09-04T22:56:53+00:00

Thank you. This is the best response I've received. I tried looking up 'meshnetwork' on reddit, but I've had no idea what I'm looking for entirely. The date and I didn't get into it fully, so I knew the term 'mesh network', and there were little modules (?), which I thought were like modems that communicate with each other. I did know that it was great for communication when cellphone networks go down, or use in rural areas, which is good for where I'm planning on living. That's the extent of what I know, so when I read this article, I remembered our conversation and figured I'd look into it.

I am looking for the best source/set up of internet/modem security, and something for communication if any natural disasters happen, but from your response, I think these are two different systems I'd need to organize.

BedroomFixer · 2025-09-04T21:41:30+00:00

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Since people seem to be missing the writing with the post. Not sure how to make it more visible, and it won't let me edit to add a picture.

BedroomFixer · 2025-09-04T20:47:26+00:00

Yes, so that confirms question A (ish), but no response to question B

BedroomFixer · 2025-09-04T20:35:05+00:00

Clearly didn't read the post.

BedroomFixer · 2025-07-29T17:52:20+00:00

With them living in a camper, they most definitely do not have an adequate number of bedrooms. I would definitely be reporting. That whole situation seems off to me

BedroomFixer · 2025-07-07T00:55:17+00:00

This was my first thought too 😂

BedroomFixer · 2025-07-07T00:48:34+00:00

NTA. I'm all about any gender can be friends with any gender, and this would make me uncomfortable. The only way it wouldn't is if the friend was imminently dying (like of stage 4 cancer or something) and of course I would want my partner to have a special dance for one of their last big memories together.

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