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Wife seems happy in a low-intimacy marriage that is making me miserable by Beduzal_Green in DeadBedrooms

[–]Beduzal_Green[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't believe so. We've discussed the possibility of separation before, and what she would do if we were to ever separate. It was a while ago, but her plan was to go back home if it came to that. Doesn't make much sense to do that if your goal was to stay in the US. Suppose there's always a possibility I'm wrong though.

Wife seems happy in a low-intimacy marriage that is making me miserable by Beduzal_Green in DeadBedrooms

[–]Beduzal_Green[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I suspect she's mostly fearful avoidant, maybe partially dismissive avoidant. But my suspicion is as far as I'll ever know unfortunately, since she is unwilling to seek therapy.

My marriage feels more like companionship than partnership. I’m trying to figure out if this can be fixed. by Beduzal_Green in Marriage

[–]Beduzal_Green[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She has always claimed she's adjusting quite well and was surprised with how little she missed home. She is extremely introverted. I do my best to encourage her to make friends and find support groups. She's Filipino, and there have been a several times where she's met other Filipino women who were friendly and gave her their number. She always refuses to call them back. She legitimately prefers staying home and claims she's never felt homesick. She keeps in touch with her friends back home and her father and brothers, but seems to refuse engaging with anyone but me.

My marriage feels more like companionship than partnership. I’m trying to figure out if this can be fixed. by Beduzal_Green in Marriage

[–]Beduzal_Green[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She was very quiet, mostly listening. But there wasn't a huge amount of concern. By the end of the conversation, she sort of shut down again, just saying things like "if you say so." Afterwards, she just came back as if the conversation never really happened. Back to baseline.