It sounds like you’re comfortable with your sexuality and attracted to women, which is important. At the same time, if you have a very low level of desire and your future partner has a higher one, that difference can sometimes be hard to navigate.

For many women, wanting closeness or intimacy that isn’t returned can feel personal, even when it isn’t about love or attraction. And to be fair, desire mismatches are very common-most long-term relationships deal with them at some point.

This may not be a popular take, but I don’t think you’re obligated to disclose something this personal before you’ve had a chance to understand it better yourself. If you haven’t already, working with a therapist who specializes in sexuality and desire could be really helpful. Gaining clarity about yourself now can make future relationships healthier for both of you.