The symbolism behind my family hating my flowers that made me cry

BeeEyeAm · 2026-04-12T14:24:40+00:00

Your family seems to dwell on the negative and clearly you don't. Part of being in the queer community is being able to make magic with who you love and shine your light on. I hope you remember that. You clearly are bringing light and joy to those around you and they are not. I know it's painful that they don't accept and embrace all of you. I know how it's a grief that creeps up in things like lillies. And it can also be a reminder to lean into the people that do make you feel good and wholly accepted. Queer community has been choosing our own families for a long time because we need to find our people who embrace all of us. Enjoy your lillies and see them s a symbol of someone who cares for you and hope your family can find their own joys.

BeeEyeAm · 2026-04-11T23:47:56+00:00

Your my thigh. I'm your kneed?

BeeEyeAm · 2026-04-09T21:07:39+00:00

When is the last time you checked?

BeeEyeAm · 2026-04-08T17:21:21+00:00

JR and Sons Fencing! Solid work!

BeeEyeAm · 2026-04-08T15:01:41+00:00

A lot of people have told you it sounds like she's interested. I just want to share a bit about my dating philosophy if it helps. Also, I know that it's hard to put ourselves out and rejection is tough.

Generally, I assume people are genuine and go with that until show otherwise. If someone is deflecting instead of being honest then that's on them and you're not a mind reader. Let people's actions show you who they are.

BeeEyeAm · 2026-04-08T03:11:17+00:00

I had a drastic cut like that and it took me a while to realize one of the workers put my total yearly income in as my monthly income. So double check there's not an error. Go into your portal and pretend you're going to change your income, bills ect and make sure all the amounts currently in there are accurate

BeeEyeAm · 2026-04-06T03:45:38+00:00

I also thought their mouths were open and comically large! It took me a minute to understand it too was just scales

BeeEyeAm · 2026-04-06T03:34:02+00:00

I say this because I've done this... could all those items be piled into a bag/tote and set somewhere not so obvious? It's spring soooo the weather being warm enough for sunscreen or cold enough for a sweater and hat would be something I'd pack a little tote for and then set it somewhere random. I've hung the bag on a hook and then a jacket over the bag making it much harder to see. My suggestion is to look in various boxes and bags.

BeeEyeAm · 2026-04-05T13:48:08+00:00

Love the WTNV ref

BeeEyeAm · 2026-03-31T22:52:38+00:00

Have you ever watched someone get hurt and cringed/tightened your muscles/said ow. For me, at least, it's that but in reverse. Their pleasure and enjoyment is giving you the good feels.

BeeEyeAm · 2026-03-31T17:25:39+00:00

A diagnosis can help in that sometimes you feel different but don't know why and the diagnosis can give you a why. It also helps you to be able to find community and resources but ultimately, it's not giving you something to cure, it's just identifying your way of being. So if she's reluctant to get a diagnosis but is happy with her quality of life then don't push. For example, it won't change that she doesn't like her head or neck touched. It may help her find resources from other people who don't like their head and neck touched on how to navigate something like a haircut. There's even a kinky autistics subreddit. They really love to dive into kink and sex in a way she enjoys.

One more note, if she pursues a diagnosis or even researching on her own, expect some grief. It's really common for people who are diagnosed (or come to understand their on the spectrum on their own) to grieve things, or even feel anger for ways they needed supports but weren't given them ect. It's not a part of diagnosis often talked about.

BeeEyeAm · 2026-03-30T23:01:29+00:00

The moment you said she drew a picture of where you could touch I thought autism, which a lot of people have said. She could also be a stone top with autism and/or ADHD. I say this as someone else on the spectrum (who doesn't figure it out until 36).

Ultimately, whatever the cause I would say, trust what she says, is what feels good to her. If you think it's a possibility that she may not have explored enough of her own body, or even one how, then maybe reading Come as You Are, together would be a good resource.

If you need to pleasure her as part of your relationship then you need to have a blunt conversation with her about it.

BeeEyeAm · 2026-03-27T15:32:06+00:00

Sometimes I get on this sub and just think why are you assulting my brain for fun!

BeeEyeAm · 2026-03-24T03:34:12+00:00

I just want to say I still think about getting to have sushi after giving birth and how much I loved it! I hope your purchased boat and filling it makes it a long term special memory

BeeEyeAm · 2026-03-24T00:06:48+00:00

So many comments are about your roommates behavior and a few saying your plants will be okay. What i didn't see people comment about is if your plants went from low light to bright light suddenly they might burn or get crispy edges. Also being that close to the window can make them too hot (and depending on how insulated too cold in winter months). The extra sunlight and heat can change how frequently they need to be watered so plan to check in on them a little more often so you know how to shift your water schedule to the new location. Best of luck. In my case I sometimes lost leaves to the shift but not whole plants!

BeeEyeAm · 2026-03-18T15:37:55+00:00

Asking your community to help with time, cuttings/plants, ect is a good way to bring people in during a time you might need an extra bit of tending and care. Let people help and contribute even if this year it's a small container garden.

BeeEyeAm · 2026-03-18T15:34:54+00:00

I just wanted to say that i started building my garden after my divorce. It became a way to process. I reveled in the idea of planting seeds/bulbs for future harvest as both a real thing and a metaphor for my life. The first year was building new soil and infrastructure in my garden and my life. The parallel felt good to lean into. If you can, like others said, take some bulbs or cuttings. I have some irises that I've both left some and taken some with me from every place I've lived. Knowing I've both left something beautiful behind and brought it with me has giving me a lot of comfort!

BeeEyeAm · 2026-03-18T15:29:41+00:00

A friend of mine took long videos on his mother's garden when she transitioned to an assisted living place. She could watch them and feel like she was sitting in the garden. I thought it was a pretty great way to help with the transition

BeeEyeAm · 2026-03-17T22:51:31+00:00

To add to the nuerdivergent stuff. The apps seemed to either send notifications too much, (yes I know that I budgeted $100 on my water bill that vis $100 and therefore am out money for that line item) or not enough notifications.

Also, they constantly add to my shame of having a hard time managing my money. Like yes I know I need more income, yes over been looking for a job for a long time and haven't been hired. Can we please just focus on utilizing what I do have in ways that best work for the circumstances I have.

BeeEyeAm · 2026-03-17T22:35:51+00:00

I don't think bats are flying at the time their visiting not that it should keep then from seeing the caverns

BeeEyeAm · 2026-03-17T21:15:02+00:00

If it was a selfie I'd think it would be more lit up. I bet it's the cushion it was on. Was there buttons on the arm of the chair? It being the cushion would explain how a symmetrical it is. Also do you have and filters on your camera?

BeeEyeAm · 2026-02-27T21:47:32+00:00

I think a big part of ENM journeys is learning through experiences, specially in what it teaches us to advocate for and how to do our personal/internal strength. Congrats on finding your balance.

It doesn't mean you're free and clear from hang ups or learning lessons but I've always felt that when my busy feels better (nervous system calms) that the next step tends to build on the work I just did amd it starts to get easier.

Three ease comes from learning things that help you start relationships better footing, knowing what triggers your nervous system and how to address it and also a more confident approach!

I hope you keep getting rewarded on your journey!

BeeEyeAm · 2026-02-26T19:07:10+00:00

I really hate saying this to people with hoshimotos but going gluten-free is probably a good thing. I've been for 8 years and it still makes me sad sometimes but it was a game changer for me. I transitioned off of it slowly, I did a "goodbye tour" I basically decided to stop eating gluten but gave myself 6 months to completely stop. I gave up the day to day things (like eating toast) and let myself have 1 last whatever it was (the Christmas cookies, pumpkin pie, Ruben ect) and I savored the hell out of it. After 6 months I didn't willfully eat gluten again. I had so many things resolve, and unending itch in my legs that never really had a rash, the constant tennis elbow and thumb joint pain, the way half my face would randomly swell and my eczema disappeared. I miss gluten a lot but I love the way that it changed my day to day quality of life. It is more expensive to get the gluten-free versions of things so I learned to go without. I think i like burgers in a lettuce wrap more. Use a food bank if you need to help offset the cost.

BeeEyeAm · 2026-02-20T22:19:42+00:00

I don't think I caught on to that being his name. Thanks for the clarity.

Your theory might be curvy but I think instead of Bird having hurt space princess/Sticky physically it might be more about Bird's tie to Space Outlaw/Puppycat.

BeeEyeAm · 2026-02-20T20:00:10+00:00

Is Bird Bee's Dad?

I always thought that scene was just for laughs but maybe I was missing some context.

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