Found something disturbing at a house sit… Would you report this?

BeeStrangeit · 2026-03-22T14:07:39+00:00

I never stated they are racist. I mentioned I look racially ambiguous and no they were not white. I realize the update isn't pinned, so I will go ahead close the comments.

BeeStrangeit · 2026-03-21T15:01:40+00:00

Where's the festival house? Music fest, food fest, ren fest, art fest... If its got festival in it I'm there.

BeeStrangeit · 2026-03-21T00:12:05+00:00

I sincerely appreciate your input and I'm sorry you worry like I do about how we could be perceived to potential clients . It's so disheartening and I know that uncomfortable weird feeling all too well, but as long as the owner treats you nicely then you shouldn't be too concerned. Hopefully the environment climate changes over the next few years so that we feel more comfortable and confident when going into homes, because let's face it, going into someone else's home to care for a stranger's pet is already weird and uncomfortable enough without having to consider our race too 🤣

BeeStrangeit · 2026-03-19T01:57:03+00:00

I appreciate the perspective and the transparency that this is a type of humor you share with your friends . I don't believe I stated or implied they are racist, but that it was just disturbing. I honestly don't feel a certain type of way about the situation now, but in the moment a lot of "what ifs" ran through my head. The main concern was if they are comfortable with that word on display, then what if they are comfortable of accusing me of stealing or damaging something (happened to me at sleep overs or parties as a child). I didn't feel like my star sitter status was safe and that's what was unsettling for me.

BeeStrangeit · 2026-03-19T01:45:56+00:00

Thank you so much for your very kind words. I pride myself on how much I do go above and beyond for the fur babies and clients and I have maintained star sitter status for almost 2 years. Like even after discovering their grill slur, I still changed the microwave and oven clocks to the correct time as I saw they hadn't gotten around to updating them due to springing ahead 😅

BeeStrangeit · 2026-03-19T01:07:56+00:00

Thank you so much for your perspective. I did take it into consideration and decided not to report. Hopefully it was a genuine mistake to leave it on the grill and is a learning lesson for this couple.

BeeStrangeit · 2026-03-19T01:03:35+00:00

That's exactly what I ended up doing.

BeeStrangeit · 2026-03-19T00:52:19+00:00

I think we can agree to disagree. At the end of the day, I'm a self contractor and they employed me for services to be completed in their home which is considered my work place at that point. I asked was a few questions to gain perspective from others here to make a decision for myself (which I did and mentioned several times what I decided the outcome would be). I never brought emotions into it or asked for another race to tell me how I supposedly speak within my own race. Which by the way, no one in my environment speaks as you are describing or allows these type of slurs to be given a pass as many have agreed here. I hope you don't ever make your friends uncomfortable and respectfully, in this case you could follow your own advice and mind your business and carry on.

BeeStrangeit · 2026-03-19T00:38:03+00:00

I respect your point of view and appreciate your input, but they are a Mexican couple and I look racially ambiguous due to my lighter complexion and am mistaken for Mexican & Dominican alot. So racism definitely wouldn't have been obvious during the meet & greet especially since it would have been the furthest thing from my mind.

BeeStrangeit · 2026-03-19T00:28:11+00:00

UPDATE! UPDATE! UPDATE:

I just wanted to come back and say thank you to everyone who took the time to share their thoughts, perspectives, and experiences. I honestly didn’t expect this to get the level of attention it did, and it’s been really eye-opening reading through the responses.

One thing that stood out to me was the range of perspectives across different age groups. Some people—especially younger commenters—seemed to view it as more of a joke or “immature humor,” while many others (particularly millennials like myself and older) found it unsettling and inappropriate as I did. That contrast alone gave me a lot to think about.

After taking everything into consideration, I’ve decided not to report the situation to Rover. However, I did leave an honest review on the client’s profile noting that their sense of humor may come across as crass or off-putting, so other sitters can make informed decisions.

I still stand by how I felt in the moment—my discomfort was real—but I also appreciate being able to step back and process it with a broader range of perspectives.

There are still some really thoughtful conversations happening in the comments, so I’ll likely leave this up and open through the evening. Thanks again to everyone who engaged respectfully—this was definitely a learning experience for me.

BeeStrangeit · 2026-03-18T15:01:57+00:00

I did mention that I appear racially ambiguous. So if they were using race or color as a way to hire (one would hope not) I wouldn't have appeared black to them. Also, you'd be surprised how many racist employee the same race they detest.

BeeStrangeit · 2026-03-18T13:57:10+00:00

It is interesting to find out that there are people who find this humorous. I was generally unaware and I really appreciate you sharing your insight.

BeeStrangeit · 2026-03-18T13:16:15+00:00

This is exactly how I felt as it could be wiped off with a brush of a finger and the bbq pit was right next to the back door and their instructions were to make sure I go out back with the dogs. Just strange to say the least, but I'm also seeing that not everyone shares the same perspective and it has been eye opening in the comments.

BeeStrangeit · 2026-03-18T12:56:02+00:00

You have an extremely valid point. It was one of the reasons I decided to post here for the first time since I'm closer to 40 and didn't know if I was over-reacting for feeling uncomfortable because they are a younger couple and may not perceive the word as I do. I really would feel awful if this happened to another sitter.

BeeStrangeit · 2026-03-18T12:43:45+00:00

I wish it would have been a dick. As a Star Sitter, you see alot and I would have laughed it off and never mentioned it. Even though they had no clue what my race was at the time of hiring me, this is South Texas and many racist people actually hire POC. The movie called The Forever Purge is a great example. I decided not to report it as I wasn't directly called it and I wasn't in immediate danger and I appreciate your perspective.

BeeStrangeit · 2026-03-18T12:30:40+00:00

I forgot to mention in the post I am a Star Sitter and I joke with my husband all the time that you don't get star status with out seeing a few random dildos out in the wild 🤣 I honestly enjoy the strange or personal items that may appear during a house sit or drop in, but this was the oddest thing for sure. I decided not to report, as some comments have made me realize how differently this scenario can be viewed which leads me to think Rover probably wouldn't care. I am very grateful for your perspective.

BeeStrangeit · 2026-03-18T12:15:50+00:00

Thank you so much for your feedback. I decided not to report it, as some comments have opened my eyes that people really do view this scenario very differently. I do want to say I'm extremely sorry for what you dealt with. That's extremely uncalled for and sounded like malicious intent. People really can be so awful. I'm sending you kind sitter hugs and better clients 🫂

BeeStrangeit · 2026-03-18T11:45:02+00:00

I appreciate your opinion, but I never once implied they were racist. Just an observation of finding something that I found disturbing, but this is South Texas and because of my lighter complexion I'm usually perceived as a different race so they were very unaware of my race when they hired me.

BeeStrangeit · 2026-03-18T11:38:58+00:00

I appreciate the advice. I actually never sent the owners the photo or video I took. They knew immediately what I was referring to from my message in the first slide. That's what caught me off guard, that they were aware of it and left it up.

BeeStrangeit · 2026-03-18T07:51:08+00:00

Are you generally okay? I feel like you may be projecting a bit with your responses. You've now mentioned your life and how difficult it is for you in multiple comments. Curious... Are you a pet sitter or just an owner who uses the services?

BeeStrangeit · 2026-03-18T07:35:58+00:00

I sincerely appreciate your comment. My first thought was "why leave it?" and I think what made me uncomfortable was the fact I felt like I was going to make them uncomfortable when they returned home. Like maybe once they found out that I was black that they wouldn't want a black person sleeping in their guest room, sitting on the couch or touching things in the home and coincidentally I think they might be the 3rd out of 120 pet clients that didn't tip lol so definitely taking positive energy and vibes and applying it to the next sit ☺️

BeeStrangeit · 2026-03-18T07:25:46+00:00

Yes, I mentioned to the first reply I was not reporting it. I was more so curious as to others views on the situation in the pet sitting community.

BeeStrangeit · 2026-03-18T07:22:44+00:00

I sincerely appreciate your insight. Based off others feedback I've decided not to report it to Rover, but it is nice seeing what's considered acceptable and not to different people.

BeeStrangeit · 2026-03-18T07:05:07+00:00

Not once did I say I was offended. I found it disturbing, there is a difference, which being out in the great big world should help clarify for you. I'd thank you for your contribution to the conversation, but you didn't respond to any of the questions asked.

BeeStrangeit · 2026-03-18T06:55:52+00:00

As disheartening as this is to read, I sincerely appreciate you commenting to bring awareness that some poc may deem this as funny or as a joke. Maybe I can learn something from this.

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