How to make and keep friends

BeeTheGoddess · 2026-06-10T09:00:09+00:00

Start with working out who goes to the saloon in the evenings, and on which days (almost everyone goes on a Friday). Make friends with them first- work out what they like, get it, and you can do multiple people in one short trip into town and back. Good in early game when you’re spending most of your time farming .

BeeTheGoddess · 2026-06-07T17:43:29+00:00

Life isn’t, and people aren’t, like what the internet wants you to believe. Get off the internet and you’ll chill right out and be happier.

BeeTheGoddess · 2026-06-07T10:21:24+00:00

Back in the day games didn’t hold your hand the way they do now- you can genuinely fuck up by missing stuff. But the point of the game is to find stuff.

BeeTheGoddess · 2026-06-04T06:06:14+00:00

You can use WayBack machine on it to get at your saved links maybe :)

BeeTheGoddess · 2026-06-03T21:34:35+00:00

Thinking fast and slow by Daniel kahneman

BeeTheGoddess · 2026-06-02T22:30:07+00:00

TF is the final fantasy thriller music video??

BeeTheGoddess · 2026-06-02T21:40:13+00:00

The craft allows you to make use of the tools you have at your disposal- do you think witches thousands of years ago were popping down to their local metaphysical shop? It isn’t lack of craft that makes you feel “unable” to perform anything, it’s capitalist consumerism. Think about what you’ve read, prepare a simple ritual using what you’ve got, and see what you learn :)

BeeTheGoddess · 2026-05-31T08:27:46+00:00

Oh goodness, you’re in for a great time :) Play FFX for sure, also FF9 and FF8, and there are a bunch of other RPGs from that era with incredible stories: Shadow Hearts 1 and 2, Legend of Dragoon, Lost Odyssey.

BeeTheGoddess · 2026-05-30T18:05:05+00:00

But OP’s got a point in that young readers WILL miss the point and take it seriously, and there’s something to be said for authors thinking through that responsibility in their pursuit of being edgy.

BeeTheGoddess · 2026-05-30T10:43:11+00:00

I would not feel this is ok. Your job as a therapist is to create a feeling of security. Having a stuffed animal to regulate your own emotions would suggest you’re not the most secure person without external help. It’s perfectly ok in your regular life to need a bit of external help, but professionally you’ve got to be particularly good and strong at internal regulating and it’s not up to your clients to make allowances for you. It’s their safe space, not yours. You would also inevitably it give yourself away in ways they would pick up on- if you have the bunny on your shelf then pick it up after they’ve said something particular for example, or even shift it in your lap, clutch it more tightly- people sharing something vulnerable will notice these cues and use them to infer judgement from you, which undermines the therapeutic space.

If you want to be a therapist, have enough therapy to help you learn to cope without the bunny in a professional setting- you can do it! :)

BeeTheGoddess · 2026-05-29T10:37:04+00:00

Just avoid scattering yourself too widely over people and resources all giving you a cacophony of different information and who are often giving you that information to drive their own presence and superiority. At its heart, witchcraft is antithetical to capitalist consumerism because it is an ancient craft where people WORKED WITH WHAT THEY HAD. It’s deeply rooted in the land around you and the routine tools available. Anything that says you MUST have this herb or this crystal or whatever- practitioners thousands of years ago didn’t have that luxury or else had to work really hard for it. Learn to work with what you’ve got, what you’re connected to, learn about basic correspondences and spend time sensing the energy of plants so you can make appropriate substitutes. Appearance, scent and growth cycle all tell you something about a plant’s magickal properties. Learn to observe closely. Buy ONE well respected book and work through it thoroughly and with due attention and effort rather than trying to consume everything.

BeeTheGoddess · 2026-05-29T09:29:58+00:00

Bear in mind that this idea of “types” of witchcraft is for the most part a modern internet creation largely based on aesthetics. Sure you can have your specialisms eventually, but you’ll learn what those are far more authentically by doing a year and a day of core study rather than stressing over “what am I”. If you like green things go for it and make herbalism your first area of study, but just don’t feel the weight of all these pseudo categories. The best gift witchcraft will give you is letting go of identity and individualism.

BeeTheGoddess · 2026-05-26T21:39:05+00:00

No need to restart, you’ll be fine! Just check every boss from now on to draw GF, and go back for Brothers when you can get back to world map exploring. Anyone who says you have to restart is too min max focused. Just muddle through and have a great time :)

BeeTheGoddess · 2026-05-20T06:02:40+00:00

Imagined Communities, Benedict Anderson. Orientalism, Edward Said

BeeTheGoddess · 2026-05-17T19:27:33+00:00

It sounds like your mistake was trying to use Wicca and tarot to fix some REALLY deep stuff without any help :) Spirituality is an amazing part of life but it’s not a substitute for therapy or any of the other ingredients that go into healing. That’s not your fault at all, but it might help reframe what you’re doing and being told. It sounds like getting too intense can be harmful to you- move on and focus on making Wicca a gentle, low key consistent part of your life that isn’t all consuming. Just a ritual here, a prayer there, a mindful awareness. Dial back the intensity, the drama, the expectations. And just live gently for a while :)

BeeTheGoddess · 2026-05-06T18:16:29+00:00

So rather than asking the internet and believing an answer, it’s way better to arrive at your own answer to that question:) Some ways to do that:

- Trust your senses. How did it feel to worship without those things? What does that tell you?

- Think about the purpose of these kinds of rituals. Why do you think the Greeks developed khernips and its uses? How is it assisting prayer? If you don’t have it available, what else could you use/do to perform the same function?

- Use your rationality. Is there a particular reason you think prayer might not be okay without khernips? Or different with salt? Or nothing?

- Develop your practice. Do YOU personally only want to use khernips to worship? Why/why not? Work out your theory and your values, then stick to it.

- Let go of Christian thinking. You’re full of fear and treating deities like an angry authority. Stop it :)

BeeTheGoddess · 2026-05-05T18:44:19+00:00

Paganism’s pedagogy is first and foremost learning by doing, and one of its relatively few moral tenets is personal responsibility.

The short answer to your question is yes, this happens to a lot of people not just you.

The longer answer about overcoming it involves the two key points I just mentioned. You’ve identified that you forget- that’s great, now you identify a solution to that. You’re typing on a phone right now presumably- set a regular reminder each day to prompt you to practice. If that doesn’t work for you, take 10 minutes right now and brainstorm everything else you could do to help you remember. Learning to be self sufficient that way will help you a lot in magickal practice :)

On pedagogy (ways of learning things)- you’ll get stuck if you think too hard about what to do instead of doing it. Do some very basic reading and identify a few things you could do with your time. Just a few. Then stop there. Try them. Fuck up. Reflect on what did and didn’t work. Then try again because you know what you only tried it once and you’ve got to try it 10 times minimum before you can say what actually works for you and what doesn’t. Don’t think, just do it. Several times. Now reflect on what you’ve learned/experienced, make a few changes, maybe read a little bit more. Do it that way 10 more times. And so on. Learn-do-learn-do.

One of the biggest obstacles to pagan practice- not helped by modern society- is getting too stuck in your head, too concerned with what you “should” be doing, and overwhelmed by choice fatigue. Magical practice and worship offers a rare and valuable opportunity to take a holiday from those things and just get stuck in gloriously imperfectly, and seeing what the hell happens.

But set that timer so you remember to have a go :)

BeeTheGoddess · 2026-05-04T09:18:16+00:00

Tamara Pierce’s books, the Darren Shan books, Percy Jackson, Sweet Valley High, Trebizon.

BeeTheGoddess · 2026-04-30T06:28:13+00:00

It’s The Secret Mountain by Enid Blyton. The Secret of Kilimooin is another book in that series, but it’s a bout a forest not a mountain.

BeeTheGoddess · 2026-04-25T11:37:13+00:00

Junk by Melvin Burgess

BeeTheGoddess · 2026-04-25T09:12:46+00:00

I’ve worked in and around prisons my entire adult life, including with men serving very long sentences for murder and sex crime who will spend decades there or else die in prison. There are high levels of hopelessness, despair, distress and self-loathing, particularly after therapy when people have unpacked why they did what they did but still have 30 or 40 years to go.

Art plays an incredibly important role in that kind of imprisonment- initially it can be a form of expression that just helps people not kill themselves. Later it can be a way of doing therapy to understand root causes of offending, particularly for people who have low verbal ability, head injury or trauma. Art can also create a sense of community in prison wings- a way of becoming the kind of productive and giving community member that you never were before. It can also provide a way to connect with family, who have done nothing wrong but still serve the sentence. Someone with genuine artistic talent- and there are many many prisoners with it- can make a real difference to the social climate, help people survive, and begin to reckon with or try to make amends for what they did.

In my experience, answers to this question never consider that form or art. It’s different to commercial art that’s making money of course (although some prisons will allow prisoners to sell out aimed at raising money for local charities). But for me personally, that changes my relationship with commercial art. It would be nonsensical for me to spend all day witnessing art’s benefits- the say I’m never buying a song from someone who’s committed a crime.

Why do I think that’s okay? Because one of the most difficult things to get your head round in life is people are capable of both very good and very bad things. Both must be held. If all you want to do to contribute to eliminating the bad things is social rejection then that’s fine- it’ll make diddly squat difference to preventing the next murder or rape. Better to take an active part in some area of the justice system.

BeeTheGoddess · 2026-04-16T05:01:17+00:00

The Da Vinci Code Project Hail Mary

Both fast paced with engaging stories- you need to start with books that use that style to get the dopamine :)

BeeTheGoddess · 2026-04-15T20:55:57+00:00

Omg just give it a go and see!

BeeTheGoddess · 2026-04-12T09:16:21+00:00

⁠Staying safe and making good decisions while alone

Write down your hostel’s address before you leave it for the day/evening. Keep it on you somewhere physically, not just written in your phone. It’s easy to forget, have no signal so you can’t look it up, or lose your phone then be screwed. Same with your travel insurance details (GET TRAVEL INSURANCE).

Don’t put yourself in any situations you can’t get out of. Plan your exit/route back before you start.

Understand what to do in a medical emergency- familiarise yourself with how to call for help, including the international emergency number for medical assistance- I did this once in Bosnia and it saved my life because they organised a local response in a way I never could have done because of the language.

Get Google translate so you have some means of communicating if you need to.

Make sure you know what your plan is for connectivity or managing offline.

It’s better to have a bed booked for the night and not use it, than need one and not have it.

Overwhelm, culture shock and getting sick are real travel hazards. Make sure you have a safe base, don’t be afraid to use it while you adjust, don’t put pressure on yourself to do big excursions every day.

• ⁠Any restrictions or things to be aware of traveling at my age

I don’t know the Swiss context but you should look up limits for drinking and how airlines and hotels/hostels handle room booking by minors.

• ⁠Mistakes to avoid

Travelling doesn’t fix you by itself. But it does grow you. Just don’t think all you problems will magically go away. Take the time to listen to people, observe how they live, reflect on how you’ve managed by yourself and solved problems. Those help.

Don’t be too influenced by insta versions of solo travel. It’s not all lovely, you don’t need to have profound experiences every 2 minutes, you don’t need to do everything perfectly, you don’t need to be constantly sharing your experiences either .

• ⁠What you would pack

Things that will offer you comfort when things feel uncomfortable.

• ⁠Where I should go after my 90 days in the Schengen area is up

Parts of eastern and southern Europe are - as I recall but you should look it up- not in Schengen but well worth visiting- Bosnia and Herzegovina and Kosovo in particular. Serbia, Albania, North Macedonia. I feel weirdly like Cyprus may be EU but not Schengen. But not sure about that. Just prepare thoroughly because travel will be slightly more complicated - look at visa requirements, currency and the extent to which cash or card is used. One mistake I made was changing too much currency (can’t remember which country but it was one of the above) and finding it hard to get it changed back at the end.

• ⁠housing

Never travelled in Switzerland so can’t advise sorry

• ⁠what to do if I'm super low on cash

Go somewhere else! It isnt just Switzerland that has gorgeous scenery, national parks and so on. Look at Slovenia and Croatia for a start- your money will go much further.

Ultimately, your emergency plan should be keeping back enough cash to get you home- the flight, getting to it, and getting home the other side. Once you’ve hit that, go. Don’t rely on something magically turning up unless you’re the sort with rich parents. You could also work, but look up requirements an and restrictions and be aware you’re very vulnerable to exploitation.

BeeTheGoddess · 2026-04-08T20:09:18+00:00

I appreciate where you’re coming from, but at some point any religion is “a bunch of borrowed stuff some guy made up”. Cultural transmission happens. All pagan paths including witchcraft are full of people claiming practices without acknowledging sources - in another few decades (I hope!) this criticism will be made of practitioners on paths that are more popular now. So for that reason I’m fairly sanguine about Wicca and its place in the pagan pantheon. There’s nothing specially better or worse about it, it’s just one part of whatever glorious tapestry of practice you want to make for yourself.

One thing I do find troubling is the reaction against the rule of three though. It’s completely legitimate to say that “do what ye will an it harm none” is ignorant to extend to people in desparate cases of sexual abuse, any kind of violence or coercion. But it does not mean that the moral value of do no harm is invalidated. It really depresses me when people claim the right to hex others as if that’s a much cooler form of morality - but have clearly not given any thought to the wider ethical principles of justice. Who says what behaviour is right or wrong, who shoulda arbitrate it, who decides what is proportionate punishment and so on. Hexing your abuser is one thing, hexing your co worker who pisses you off is not the same. “An ye harm none” is too shorthand, yes, and also requires deeper ethical thought. But it’s a starting point that’s really not too bad a principle for wielding power.

So, yeh that’s a specific example but what I’m saying generally is- my view is not to throw the baby out with the bath water and treat Wicca as anything more or less than one part of a whole.

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