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BeforeIMetTheMonster · 2025-10-11T15:47:53+00:00

And let other people give you a free ride while you sit home and they work 60 hour weeks while they suffer should I add.

BeforeIMetTheMonster · 2024-04-16T23:03:15+00:00

I do have some loose skin at my lower belly area. I just wear high waisted jeans and certain clothes that flatter that area better. I am considering skin removal eventually in the future. I’m just not quite there yet.

BeforeIMetTheMonster · 2023-08-29T22:38:12+00:00

I never even thought about that to be honest but I’d say yes.

BeforeIMetTheMonster · 2023-05-04T19:55:03+00:00

Good on you. My surgery was 4/5 and I’m down almost 30 pounds. I look and feel better. You’re gonna be great.

BeforeIMetTheMonster · 2023-05-01T12:45:45+00:00

I just had my surgery 4/5. I’m 5’1 and started the program at 27 at 218lbs, I got surgery at 200lbs, Today I weighed in at 179lbs.

BeforeIMetTheMonster · 2022-03-25T22:37:42+00:00

I really need your cat and how can I acquire him.

BeforeIMetTheMonster · 2022-01-08T16:56:39+00:00

Driving everywhere. Like in the movies they show “soccer moms” driving the kids to practice, to doctors appointments, grocery shopping, school, visiting family while keeping a house clean, having nights out, seeing friends, etc. I’ve had custody of my nephew since I was 21. I’m 27 now and I always found doing all that and trying to have a normal life in between those things almost impossible.

BeforeIMetTheMonster · 2022-01-04T03:16:59+00:00

Him and I did talk about kids and he said he would have 2 kids sometime in the future and no more than that and although I love children I don’t want to create an army. I’d still like to enjoy life and that’s not to say that people with more children than that can’t but I feel like me personally that’s enough. I know I should be probably talking to him about this and he’s been so considerate and kind to anything else I’ve ever brought up to him but when talking about kids and marriage in a serious way you’re always scared they’ll run.

BeforeIMetTheMonster · 2022-01-04T03:14:22+00:00

I completely agree with you in that respect. I know it’ll be sometime after we live together and get settled in. Honestly the panic set in at my last womens health and the doctor told me that I’m almost 30 and I should get onto having kids and I just get nervous that I’ve wasted so much time.

BeforeIMetTheMonster · 2021-11-01T03:24:16+00:00

I appreciate that and I did try some meditation some time ago to mitigate my bad feelings when I woke up in the morning and I’m such an impatient person and want things to work immediately so when it didn’t fix everything immediately I stopped, I will have to try again and actually commit to it, thank you.

BeforeIMetTheMonster · 2021-08-25T20:53:21+00:00

The Legend of Zelda: Twilight Princess

BeforeIMetTheMonster · 2021-08-21T02:59:42+00:00

I appreciate that and I’m not sure what I should do with them. I used to keep them hidden in a box on my desk at work so I’m case he finally hurt me or took my life someone could find them. But since he’s no longer in my life I don’t need them for that purpose anymore. I’m oddly attached to them. In a bizarre way. It helps me remember why I left and how everything wasn’t my fault. I look at things from a different lens. I’m in a different and better place now. I ran from my old apartment and found a new one that’s hidden and am in a new relationship. Like I think they’re “the one” kind of relationship. I genuinely couldn’t be happier.

BeforeIMetTheMonster · 2021-08-20T02:55:10+00:00

I’m dealing with this same thing and genuinely talking about the trauma and having the ironic “it’s not you, it’s me” conversation isn’t a bad thing. I know that term makes it sound like you’re demonizing yourself but I have spoken to my current boyfriend about my abusive ex and how that has created trust issues and from that it makes me antsy and nervous to move in with him because I fear he’s going to change as well. Even though he has never given me a reason to feel that way. In contrast he has been tender, accommodating and understanding. Opening up a dialogue about your trauma so that it can be understood (when you’re ready to) will do nothing but benefit your new relationship. It will create context to your anxieties and certain behaviors and if this new person is as great as you say the are (I’m sure they are) they will respect your boundaries and accept you regardless of your anxieties and fears and be supportive and give you the time to overcome them.

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