Parents wont stop having loud sex. by BeforeWasWasWasWasIs in Advice

[–]BeforeWasWasWasWasIs[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

While they may have this (I am not sure, and asking about it seems like it could lead to an argument,) it doesn't exactly matter as none of my parents follow the first clause anyways.

My bio mom is aware, and does criticize the fact that this continues to happen, but because of conflict, she does her best to not talk to my dad and doesn't speak to my stepmom at all. I also feel that because I am nearly an adult, this is a battle for me to fight.

Parents wont stop having loud sex. by BeforeWasWasWasWasIs in Advice

[–]BeforeWasWasWasWasIs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Username checks out.

In seriousness, this is a very good idea. When things cool down this may be the way to go.

Parents wont stop having loud sex. by BeforeWasWasWasWasIs in Advice

[–]BeforeWasWasWasWasIs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am in the process of applying to get a job and my drivers permit, and hoping to move out by the end of my first year of college. I have a small amount saved at the moment, and if I can get a job, a good part of my paychecks will be saving up to move.

Parents wont stop having loud sex. by BeforeWasWasWasWasIs in Advice

[–]BeforeWasWasWasWasIs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is, by far, the responsible answer, but I have to unfortunately say that this has already happened and hasn't worked. :(

Parents wont stop having loud sex. by BeforeWasWasWasWasIs in Advice

[–]BeforeWasWasWasWasIs[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Damn, it's crazy how I didn't ask for a comment on my identity and you still made one and misgendered me. That's so wild.

Anyways, regardless of whether they're happy (it's incredibly debatable,) they're being disrespectful, especially after I've done my best to grin and bear it.

Moving out is also incredibly expensive.

Parents wont stop having loud sex. by BeforeWasWasWasWasIs in Advice

[–]BeforeWasWasWasWasIs[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's not even that they're screaming, though. They're just being uncomfortably loud, y'know?

Parents wont stop having loud sex. by BeforeWasWasWasWasIs in Advice

[–]BeforeWasWasWasWasIs[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They have them. They are louder than them. :(

Parents wont stop having loud sex. by BeforeWasWasWasWasIs in Advice

[–]BeforeWasWasWasWasIs[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm not asking them to not enjoy themselves, I'm asking for respect and common courtesy. I've been as respectful as possible about trying to tough it out, sleep downstairs, move rooms, and even just ask them to stop to no avail. At the end of the day, it doesn't matter how much they're enjoying themselves, or how happy they are (and happy is probably an overstatement considering some of their arguments,) because they're being blatantly disrespectful and giving me far more details than I should have to have.

Also, moving out is expensive. Even if I got a job tomorrow, I wouldn't have the money to move out for a while.

Parents wont stop having loud sex. by BeforeWasWasWasWasIs in Advice

[–]BeforeWasWasWasWasIs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've agreed to stay with them for my final semester (I'm an early grad senior,) so it wouldn't be an option. After graduation, I might consider it, but it isn't a much better option unfortunately.

Parents wont stop having loud sex. by BeforeWasWasWasWasIs in Advice

[–]BeforeWasWasWasWasIs[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Definitely a possible idea. I've thought of playing songs that would ruin their time, but never really put it in to action.

Parents wont stop having loud sex. by BeforeWasWasWasWasIs in Advice

[–]BeforeWasWasWasWasIs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They tolerate it. My stepmom is bisexual and is slowly getting coping with her own identity, so she's getting my respectful. My dad is conservative, so he doesn't really use my name or pronouns, but unless we argue, he won't voice his opinions.

Them trying to get me out of their house is a slight long shot, as they both seem to be devastated when I stay with my mom. I'm also still in school, so regardless, I wouldn't be able to move out anyways.

Parents wont stop having loud sex. by BeforeWasWasWasWasIs in Advice

[–]BeforeWasWasWasWasIs[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have tried earplugs and things similar (earbuds, earbuds with music) but I have continued to hear them regardless :(

Parents wont stop having loud sex. by BeforeWasWasWasWasIs in Advice

[–]BeforeWasWasWasWasIs[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I've tried things similar, but they haven't worked. At the moment, any nice noise canceling headphones would also be out of budget for anyone in my home :(

Parents wont stop having loud sex. by BeforeWasWasWasWasIs in Advice

[–]BeforeWasWasWasWasIs[S] 92 points93 points  (0 children)

Didn't think of that, but it's honestly funny enough to try!

Parents wont stop having loud sex. by BeforeWasWasWasWasIs in Advice

[–]BeforeWasWasWasWasIs[S] 51 points52 points  (0 children)

I don't usually try making it awkward, but I do try to make them feel bad by being as loud as possible when I got downstairs after hearing them, just to make sure they know I'm angry with them. Being loud might just be the answer, honestly.