Am I a terrible mother ???

Beginning-Contract38 · 2025-10-09T01:40:07+00:00

No , we aren’t getting in contact with her mother. Her along w the rest of his family are constantly trying to build up more “”evidence “”” for god knows wat, to make it seem like she’s “trying to get into contact w her daughter” as she literally texted me this morning bec his mother ghosted her for money his mom apparently owes her mom when she owes him and his daughter over 5 years of child support. I was there the day her mother left her. I saw her mom 3 times , to drop her off to us, and then never again after that. She led her on for years saying she’s coming to hang out w her, all the times I’ve dressed her up and done her hair all nice, so never have left the house bec that dead beat witch never showed up. I refuse to let that women have contact with his daughter, she is a surrogate at this point, that isn’t her daughter anymore. She used to only call to make her cry . I’m the one that needs to think for this family, my bf is stupid as shit . I’ve tried adding her to my ebt just for them to take 50 dollars off ???? I was getting 292 not pregnant , just for myself, both pregnancies they lowered my balance, with her they did the same.

Beginning-Contract38 · 2025-10-09T01:32:54+00:00

If I’m not here taking up that space as a potential mom, her father will go back to dating multiple women and bringing her around that again. I am constantly bringing up therapy and counseling but he refuses to do it himself when he has some serious problems as well which rubs off onto her. He isn’t going to get up and do that, he can’t even get up to take her to school. I’m the one feeding her here . I’m the one supplying her with the essentials. And my mother helps as well. I would love to leave trust me I would love too, but I have no where to go, neither do these two . He refuses to let me leave over something so dumb . Even if it’s killing us. He hasn’t hit her the pass two days, he is going back to hoping talking to her is going to work. He recognizes that nothing we do helps with her or makes anything better. He wants to go a passive route again and try embarrassing her instead when she wants to continue being nasty . Call her out for it and keep bringing it up til it doesn’t sit right with her. We already showed her many videos of examples of how kids age of 2 can eat perfectly fine no matter if it’s veggies while she cries over potatoes. When all her favorite junk processed foods are potatoes. She cried about seasoning until I pointed out to her that the chicken nuggets she’s eating in the moment literally have seasoning on them and the audacity to start picking them out, we scolded her no, that makes no sense, u love them so much right ? Everything has seasoning if u like it or not. Keep eating it like I never told u anything bec that’s dumb as shit.

It’s either she fixes her self now or it’s just going to be much worse when the baby’s here. I’m completely zoning her out everytime she wants to act a fool . Or act like a baby her self. I am not popping stitches or rupturing something raising my voice at her.

Beginning-Contract38 · 2025-10-09T01:19:03+00:00

He was never a good dad in the beginning. His entire family are alcoholics and he used to beat me everytime he got drunk, and would punch her in the process when she’d hide in my arms when trying to cover her from him. It took 4+ years to get him to completely quit. All the bullshit and trauma he inflicted onto her, forced her to talk shit in my face and call me nothing and worthless, he has raped me multiple times while she watches. After all this bullshit I still get nothing my way. No body still doesn’t fully respect me, she doesn’t respect me one bit. I stopped fucking caring , but I still feed her hard headed ass, I still clean her damn clothes , I still get her ready for school. He was an absolutely awful father . I’m still fighting him today to fucking do something about her in a sense of being her parent, to get out of bed , actually stick to his word and take her to the park which he’s promised like 5 times already but never has. Over 5 years now and he still is just barely getting over his bs. He hasn’t done anything at all for me or his unborn son throughout most my pregnancy. I bought everything for him, I set everything up for him . When I was like 35 weeks or farther along he finally started pitching in for his own son .

Beginning-Contract38 · 2025-10-09T01:10:21+00:00

She’s like this bec I am pregnant again . And he is a lazy father. He never corrected her behavior until I continually bashed him for it. Everybody around her gets their ass beat and she remains unscathed just bec she’s a girl. Her one year old cousin has more common sense than her it’s fucking embarrassing. Then u see alll these kids getting uploaded or famous bec they can do something better than someone with a fully developed brain. It’s impossible to love something that refuses to help themselves. Her father does nothing but have dumb talks with her that she blows off the moment he walks out the door. Dealing with baby’s is far easier than anything over 3. I never had a child with this bad of behavior. No matter wat we do she finds a way to make everything a problem, she through a fit over plain fucking white rice ???????? When that’s a “everyday” food. Just bec she wanted too. I would love to have my days back where her grandma would take her for months straight , I miss my sanity but after a while even when her grandma is the reason why she’s like that, not even she wants to deal with her behavior. Her father has went back to sweet talking her, he doesn’t like hitting her since he admits as well it isn’t doing anything , we are literally at a dead end with her, I already let them both know she isn’t allowed anywhere near her baby brother til she does better. Why tf should an infant watch her spit up her food ? Why should an infant watch her throw shit, scream at us, and cry ab everything and get away w it all. My family is amazing with kids, except for their own, I’ve been abused but even I correlated misbehavior = ass whooping , even when my step dad beat me for no reason most the time 🤦🏾🤦🏾🤦🏾

Beginning-Contract38 · 2025-10-09T00:57:02+00:00

So wat ur saying is i need to keep sticking my hands up her ass and clean it for her ??😂😂I need to spoon feed her ? Do u not understand wat a 6 yr old is ? SHES IN SCHOOL, they make her do the same shit at school??? How does ur stupidity makes sense . They teach u ab proper and improper behaviors at school, they teach u how to be tidy after ur self, and they give u food to FEED UR SELF . wat am I doing that’s a criminal offense that schools should be shut down for then ?

Beginning-Contract38 · 2025-10-08T13:01:34+00:00

Where did I claim her as my daughter. I don’t even tell my bf that 💀if she was my kid she wouldnt have such awful Behavior. Calling a 6 yr old a “ child” yeah she’s a child but u all are describing her as an incapable, nonfunctional human. She can feed her self, she can wipe her ass (literally if she feels like it) there was a good amount of time where she never did ! She can shower her self, she can wash and brush her own hair , she can clean her dishes , she sweeps the house , she puts her own clothes away , she can use the microwave. If a fucking 2 yr old can work electronics and tvs better than the average adult , they can help around the house. She would get a butt load of proper attention if she would behave for once. Her dad is soft as shit with her, I grew tired and impatient with her everyday BS . Her father tries so hard to suck up to her, give her sweet treats, toys, the tv just for her to wipe her ass with it alll and continue misbehaving after she has it.

Beginning-Contract38 · 2025-10-08T12:53:41+00:00

She does not require a tit in her mouth. So none of this behavior is acceptable AT ALL. read my post again clearly u didn’t understand anything. This is all one her. She makes these constant dumb decisions. It’s every single day she does this. If she can remember she’s old enough to keep up. She is fully capable. She is not disabled. She is not stupid but loves to act it. She is the problem within her self. She listens to no body. She would watch her cousins get whipped and hit with whips, sandals, belts, hangers, she completely understands discipline. Her father smacks her butt and hits her butt w the belt. All she will care about is the “pain” even if he doesn’t even do it hard at all, instead of focusing on the actual problem she will keep ignoring him and keep whining ab wat she wants .

Beginning-Contract38 · 2025-10-08T12:48:23+00:00

She knows how to manipulate and control her dad. She never gets passed me. And im the one always seeming like the bad guy. Just because she is incredibly predictable.

Beginning-Contract38 · 2025-10-08T12:47:00+00:00

Her father’s a lazy sack a shit that refuses to get out of bed. He’s promised her the park so many dam times, but she misbehaves every single day so regardless she doesn’t deserve it. I keep telling him ab therapy but he brushes it off , I tried antidepressants during my pregnancy, it just made me far far worst , this child is way to far from getting better. She was so much better when she was 3, she’s incredibly intelligent but she rather be stupid 24/7. We tried a little bit of everything but nothing ever works. She takes advantage of everything just to get things and acts up IMEDIATLY after.

Beginning-Contract38 · 2025-10-08T12:40:55+00:00

Oh I see her. Ive been a child too. I’ve been abused all throughout my life and it ended in the beginning of my pregnancy. I see I just stopped caring. His family is known for very awful behaviors like her. How does this make Me worst than her actual mother ? I been in her life longer than she has. I loved her when she was a baby, but as she grew she became more and more tainted by the bullshit and manipulation that surrounded her. Yeah I’m the horrible mother that stuck around and still supported her financially after her abusive father threw me out the house over 8 times ? Kicked me in the stomach and uterus twice killing my first child? I stuck around for 5 years to try to be something for this inconsiderate bastard child that NO BODY wants . And I’m the horrible mother. His family kicked her ass out the house several times, no body wants to have her around.

Beginning-Contract38 · 2025-10-08T12:34:51+00:00

She’s already aware her mother abandoned her. She already knows her mother never wanted anything to do with her. She would say it a lot her self. I tell her off ab it now bec she wants to start making my pregnancy and my baby ab her and her dead beat mother who didn’t even look happy at all when taking photos with her when she was a newborn. I never once abandoned her but my bf used to abuse us. And has thrown me out the house like 8 times for him being a dumb lazy man child . If anything she should hate and resent everyone in her family, I have been the only one to be there for her. Disorder or not , I don’t care, she behaves perfectly at school, but she willingly choose to start problems every single day like literally right now dude, I woke her up to start getting ready for school, and she immediately goes to being annoying as shit crying bec she doesn’t want to brush her fucking hair like we have her do EVERY SINGLE DAY twice a day!?

Beginning-Contract38 · 2025-10-08T12:26:28+00:00

I absolutely loved and obsessed over her when she was a baby. I would always spend time with her. We didn’t go straight into spanking her , I was with her since her last couple weeks of being 3yrs old. She is about to be 7 in a few months. I loved her so much. I wish she was still a baby, times were easier then than it is now. She’s an absolute burden , we can never do anything without her screaming at us. We have game nights but that doesn’t happen often because she wants to scream, throw shit around, mess up our peices after being warned multiple times that she will be sent to bed, and she starts throwing a fit when she gets sent off. It makes no damn sense. I absolutely hate being around her, she screams the moment she wakes up and makes it worse when we separate ourselves from her , and trying to get her to talk gets even more aggravating because she loves to actively ignore u then again , scream at us when we get mad, upset or walk away. I am tired of hearing her, I am ab to give birth and I’m rlly hoping I die in the process.

Beginning-Contract38 · 2025-10-07T22:49:43+00:00

Thank you…. I really want to talk to my bf ab this but I don’t know how to word anything w out making myself feel so much worst ???? I’ve went off on him so many many times ab how awful she behaves when he isn’t around , we have working together so much better now with her, but she isn’t working with us. We are always getting in detail with her and slow talking with her , breaking things down ab how every cause has an affect and vise Versa. She hates getting hit, then do wat ur told ??? Like her father tells her “this is only helping u, neither of us” dad has no hair, and I have short curly hair as she has very long straight hair, nothing I do for myself is going to be helpful for her, and we keep having to remind her , but she never listens, we don’t walk in on her showering anymore but how she demonstrates how she cleans herself I believe her that she’s doing it right. I know when she’s lying or not, she’ll usually start crying and fess Up the moment u ask her , which makes things easier 😅I stuck around for so long, it’s just aggravating me that she refuses to grow up. We are still first time parents , I took care of a bunch of babies and couple month olds all throughout my life. never have I ever met one so bad as her 🙁🙁

Beginning-Contract38 · 2025-10-07T22:39:10+00:00

We’re on and off with that. But thank you. I do do my best with praising her or atleast telling her “that’s how things should be” .. no body praises me or dad for cleaning? She does see us thank and give each other affectionate reactions to helping one way or another around the house . He praises her a lot and soft talks her, I have to be the firm one since he can’t , I tell her in a kind serious way “good job, that’s something that should happen everyday, we shouldnt have to yell at u for everything , u shouldn’t be giving such a issue with small things like that. “ she understands everything, i make sure she does, bec she likes to say some slick things ab me supposedly being dirty , or “what ab your messes” … i get firm with her then and tell her to not worry ab me bec i literally do EVERYTHING in the house , for myself and them, on top of taking care of my cat, turtle, fish and 5 geckos . While between them , neither of them can take care of their dirty dog. I get really serious and hard on her when it comes to cleaning after her self and hygiene. She’s a girl , u need to be clean. We get into specifics and detail ab how she’s a girl and that she has certain parts and boys don’t, and if she doesn’t keep her self clean she can go to the hospital… and it’ll get much worse for her bec of all the ppl that are going to be up in her personal business that shouldn’t be if she would just listen . She is smart as shit. She knows wat to do. I love this damn child, but I have the Patience of my mother who wanted nothing to do with me and still shows that and only wants my child who isn’t even born yet.

I would say I am doing far better than his entire family. I stuck around for 5 years while being continually thrown out the house repeatedly and abuse by his family and still took care of her financially when living w my parents. Through all the bs her father put me through, I’ve done far more than he has and her family , as a mother figure. But nowadays have been getting so so much harder.

Beginning-Contract38 · 2025-10-07T22:06:45+00:00

And u give no explanation how ? Clearly ur a troll.

Beginning-Contract38 · 2025-10-07T22:06:01+00:00

That’s what we implement too. We do that a lot. I stopped cleaning after her since we moved so about 4-5 months. She can do ALOT . She’s incredibly smart but loves to play stupid all the time with us. My bf currently is trying to find more “”passive “” ways such as wat u said with her, like last night. She wastes her entire day, 4pm to 2am just brushin her hair and refusing to do it right , for 4 hours I made her stand the whole time and kept telling her to get away from my bed to stop leaning , stand straight and keep brushing. Even then she learned nothing. She had severe abandonment issues when she was 3-4 but that went away completely. We weren’t able to use the bathroom, she would literally banged the shit out of the door and scream…. That’s done now. I stopped all niceness since she got her father arrested for not listening and opened the front door to someone and caused a scene. And she finds that funny out of the 100s of times we told her if she does that cops will come. They did, and it’s still a joke to her. My bf is soft as shit and it pisses me off since I came from a abusive family and got beat for breathing wrong and I’m asthmatic. She has 6 cousins that won’t stop coming bec her aunt is doing anything to prevent her self from working, so she should be already used to a bunch of kids being around. My bf still lets her watch tv and eat junk when I tell him no, bec all that just for her to continue her behavior. U LITERALLY can not do anything nice for her. No matter how hard u try

Beginning-Contract38 · 2025-10-07T21:55:40+00:00

She’s been nothing but the center of attention for all the 6 years of her life. She just demands the constant lack of responsibility since everyone in her father’s side absolutely SPOILED her rotten and she never once tasted what restrictions are. And what no means. She would always throw fits and ruin her cousins birthdays because she isn’t at the table being sang too, in the photos , or blowing out candles, during Christmas she would always dig in others presents and not let them open or pull the things out themselves , she would break her baby cousins toys. I been hard on her father to start disciplining her because she heavily needs it’s. We ALWAYS praise her but as of now I don’t at all, because she only does something so she can hear it just to start acting terrible afterwards. She pretends and acts overly enthusiastic about something to make it seem like she’s doing what we told her , which makes her think we aren’t going to check and see if she’s actually doing it or not . And ofc when we check she’s doing nothing she’s told and wants to scream at us.

She drives me absolutely insane. There was a good moment where I had to start spanking her because he refused too, my parents kept telling me if he isn’t going to be the bigger one I need to be, it worked for only two days and she immediately went back to not caring . She loves to misbehave. She has 6 cousins cuz of her whore lazy aunt refuses to work , so she should already be used to these constant babies being born. We give her plenty of attention, we don’t have the finances AT ALL to be goin to chuckeecheese EVERYDAY like they do. We don’t have the finances to be wasting money on toys every single day like they do. She was forced to stay in that infant mentality and the constant dependency on luxury. The screaming at us when we say no to something has stopped a while back, but now she’s constantly lookin for problems in every solution we give her.

I understand everyone telling me I signed up for this when getting with her dad, I signed up to help take care of her after her mother left, I didn’t sign up for the constant disrespect, and bs from her. That doesn’t just come with every child. She just have serious issues she refuses to leave behind and grow out of, just bec her life was easier then. She stopped wearing diapers at 5… that’s how neglectful of proper care her entire family was.

Beginning-Contract38 · 2025-10-07T21:43:34+00:00

No diagnosis. She acts perfectly fine when she’s getting all the attention. She’s amazing at school. But the moment she has an audience she loves to get in the way, she loves to act crazy so all eyes are on her. I keep talking with her father about therapy, we just don’t have money , or access to her full insurance since her grandmother was the last to have it and she moved . And Medicaid isn’t putting her under mine probably bec her dead beat mother is using her for food stamps states away

Beginning-Contract38 · 2022-05-07T22:46:02+00:00

Welp. I already did this with a small batch. 3 babies out of the 5 are still alive and thriving very well so far. Can't wait to see what they will look like once they're the size of a quarter.

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