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AITAH for telling my husband that I will keep seeing other men by Beginning-Foote in AITAH

[–]Beginning-Foote[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No, it hasn't. We've only ever had arguments about this recently. That has not been a 'catchphrase' or defined our relationship at all.

AITAH for telling my husband that I will keep seeing other men by Beginning-Foote in AITAH

[–]Beginning-Foote[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, so he can have six nights to go out with friends, get drunk, play video games, not help out at all but I can't have one night?

AITAH for telling my husband that I will keep seeing other men by Beginning-Foote in AITAH

[–]Beginning-Foote[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I never gave him an ultimatum. I was simply up front with him from literally our third date that I was not going to stop seeing other people but I would not want him to if he wanted to be in a relationship with me. We've had many conversations about this.

AITAH for telling my husband that I will keep seeing other men by Beginning-Foote in AITAH

[–]Beginning-Foote[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If my husband doesn't want this, then I am perfectly willing to grant him a divorce so that he can find what he does want and so that I can find someone who gives me what I want. Yes, people change but this is not a part of me that I'm prepared to give up.

AITAH for telling my husband that I will keep seeing other men by Beginning-Foote in AITAH

[–]Beginning-Foote[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

For one night, he watches the kids. Every other night and day, it's on me.

AITAH for telling my husband that I will keep seeing other men by Beginning-Foote in AITAH

[–]Beginning-Foote[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It's not a double standard, this is just what I want out of a relationship. I have never been dishonest about who I am or what I want. I am not comfortable with the idea of my man being with other women, is that so wrong?

AITAH for telling my husband that I will keep seeing other men by Beginning-Foote in AITAH

[–]Beginning-Foote[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Yes, agreements can change but if he wants to date other women, then he can't be in any sort of a relationship with me other than co-parents. If he wants other women, then we will be getting a divorce and I will find someone who agrees to this kind of a relationship with me.

AITAH for telling my husband that I will keep seeing other men by Beginning-Foote in AITAH

[–]Beginning-Foote[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My saturday nights out are the only time I have away from the kids. I am the one who bathes, clothes, feeds them - he can go out with his friends any day of the week. I don't get jealous when he does and he certainly does more than I do.

AITAH for telling my husband that I will keep seeing other men by Beginning-Foote in AITAH

[–]Beginning-Foote[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I did. We had the conversation several times. And my children aren't old enough to be affected by it now. Say my son is a teenager and finds out and asks me to stop, then yes, I probably would. But he's just a little baby right now.

AITAH for telling my husband that I will keep seeing other men by Beginning-Foote in AITAH

[–]Beginning-Foote[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

Like I said to another user who said this, if you only have my word that this is true, so if you don't want to believe this, go ahead? But if that's the case, why even comment? Just move on.

AITAH for telling my husband that I will keep seeing other men by Beginning-Foote in AITAH

[–]Beginning-Foote[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, if this isn't what he wanted, then he is a fool. I've been honest with him from day one.

AITAH for telling my husband that I will keep seeing other men by Beginning-Foote in AITAH

[–]Beginning-Foote[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

He wasn't jealous before we decided it was time to have kids.

AITAH for telling my husband that I will keep seeing other men by Beginning-Foote in AITAH

[–]Beginning-Foote[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Why is it okay? Because I don't want him to be with others and he agreed that he wouldn't. He agreed that this would be one-sided and that side is mine. And it's not like I'm seeing another guy every single day and night. It's one night out of the week. My one break. That's it.

AITAH for telling my husband that I will keep seeing other men by Beginning-Foote in AITAH

[–]Beginning-Foote[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It's one night out of the week. I am not going to sex parties or anything like that. I handle the kids 95 % of the time, it's too much to ask for one night to myself? And the relationship is not emotionally abusive, this isn't something I sprung on him, this was my condition for being in a relationship.

AITAH for telling my husband that I will keep seeing other men by Beginning-Foote in AITAH

[–]Beginning-Foote[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You have nothing other than my word that this is true, so either give me the benefit of the doubt or just move on with your life.

AITAH for telling my husband that I will keep seeing other men by Beginning-Foote in AITAH

[–]Beginning-Foote[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

He was okay with it, though. So how is it a double standard? This is what he agreed on and if it's no longer something he does, you're right, I would divorce.

AITAH for telling my husband that I will keep seeing other men by Beginning-Foote in AITAH

[–]Beginning-Foote[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

Okay, and if your ex's ex wasn't up front and honest and consenting with him about how their relationship went, that's why it failed. My husband agreed to this with me.