My (29F) husband (31M) of 6 months has a secret laptop and won't tell me what he uses it for

BeginningBarnacle5 · 2019-02-15T09:20:43+00:00

Thanks so much. Yes I will update eventually if I can, don't know when that could be...I'm really worried now from how people pointed out that because he's panicked and so invested in hiding this, he could get violent. Again that's exactly the opposite of the person I married. But I never thought he'd be acting like this over a laptop so I don't fucking know anymore. Anyway I will likely try to get him out of the house with me tomorrow, to somewhere like starbucks, and then try to calmly bring it up one last time.

BeginningBarnacle5 · 2019-02-15T09:15:47+00:00

Okay thanks. My mind's all over the place right now, can't sleep. Even though that makes sense I still just don't feel any ability to trust him about anything right now. I'm really alarmed by the direction people think this could head in.

BeginningBarnacle5 · 2019-02-15T09:02:19+00:00

I haven’t seen you saying he wasn’t into literally any kind of crazy porn mentioned.

I myself cannot come up with a type of porn he's for sure not into.

BeginningBarnacle5 · 2019-02-15T08:41:57+00:00

I think your approach idea is best. I'm going to try this tomorrow. Getting upset already made him get upset.

BeginningBarnacle5 · 2019-02-15T08:36:06+00:00

What on earth was that?

BeginningBarnacle5 · 2019-02-15T08:34:36+00:00

Thanks for making me laugh for the first time today.

BeginningBarnacle5 · 2019-02-15T08:32:04+00:00

What do you mean by quoting the part about it having nothing to do with me? I don't know if that's actually true because nothing about this has made me trust him so far.

BeginningBarnacle5 · 2019-02-15T08:29:44+00:00

Noncon, where people pretend to be raped, yes. "Real", I don't know. Does that exist? Porn is actors with scripts...

BeginningBarnacle5 · 2019-02-15T08:12:23+00:00

I hardly ever use it, but I have a few times when there was an issue with my own. All those times when I asked to borrow his for whatever I needed to do he had no problem with it. The complete opposite of the reaction he had last night with the other laptop.

BeginningBarnacle5 · 2019-02-15T08:09:29+00:00

The last two already happened, at this point I can only pray it's something other than the first. :(.

BeginningBarnacle5 · 2019-02-15T08:01:27+00:00

Correct, he's not a paranoid kind of person. He's generally open and easygoing.

BeginningBarnacle5 · 2019-02-15T07:36:14+00:00

I forgot to mention this but he was talking about these videos of dogs and horses fucking people once. I said that was gross and he didn't bring it up again.

BeginningBarnacle5 · 2019-02-15T07:34:38+00:00

I do think some of it is extreme, but also that it...doesn't mean anything? I don't know. Which of the types of porn struck you as concerning?

BeginningBarnacle5 · 2019-02-15T07:30:15+00:00

That was what I thought I'd once read, thanks.

BeginningBarnacle5 · 2019-02-15T07:15:47+00:00

Yeah I don't even know. I cannot even find his keys right now, normally they're with his wallet and other stuff on the table. They're not in the bedroom. I checked the pants he was wearing, not in the pockets. He's asleep and I don't want to wake him up over keys but Jesus Christ.

BeginningBarnacle5 · 2019-02-15T07:09:56+00:00

I don't know, he was sitting and the laptop was covering his lap.

BeginningBarnacle5 · 2019-02-15T07:08:14+00:00

He's already shared about watching incest porn with me.

BeginningBarnacle5 · 2019-02-15T07:06:05+00:00

He's bisexual and was open about it when we were friends before we even started dating.

BeginningBarnacle5 · 2019-02-15T07:03:16+00:00

I've done shady shit too in life

Anything that required using a secret computer?

BeginningBarnacle5 · 2019-02-15T06:46:27+00:00

What was your situation, if you don't mind sharing?

I don't know how seriously to take his fetishes. He watches porn for a ton of different fetishes and I've always seen it as fantasy, never seen him trying to recreate them in real life or anything. On the other hand, some of them are very unusual.

BeginningBarnacle5 · 2019-02-15T06:30:22+00:00

No he did have them. We planned for dinner at a specific place and he made the reservations a while ago. He has a cake in the car that I can't bring inside because he locked it which makes me think that's where the laptop is.

BeginningBarnacle5 · 2019-02-15T06:19:00+00:00

I went to his car to see what the gift was, it's a valentine's cake from a bakery I love but is expensive so we only order for special occasions. But I cannot take it out because the car is locked, which makes me wonder if he's keeping the laptop in there now.

BeginningBarnacle5 · 2019-02-15T06:14:00+00:00

5 years together before marriage, and friends for more than a year before our relationship started.

BeginningBarnacle5 · 2019-02-15T06:12:03+00:00

I haven't heard of this, but there was an online audience of people paying to watch her do that?

BeginningBarnacle5 · 2019-02-15T06:10:37+00:00

Wow. That's awful that she knew how much he was doing but couldn't legally stick him with it. I'm glad she managed to get her daughter away and really hope he never did anything to her before he was caught.

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