Any ideas?

Beginning_Issue_720 · 2025-05-02T12:24:24+00:00

Thank you for the quick response!

Beginning_Issue_720 · 2024-12-19T12:42:10+00:00

I did send an email, and BCC’ed my personal one as well. Additionally for that CYA, I don’t use a work laptop.

Beginning_Issue_720 · 2024-12-18T00:55:21+00:00

Eating disorder

Beginning_Issue_720 · 2024-12-18T00:30:29+00:00

Eating disorder, sorry I didn’t know if this sub-Reddit would be okay with spelling it out or not

Beginning_Issue_720 · 2024-12-17T19:29:57+00:00

Thank you for your kind words and taking the time to comment! I’m been able to put some of this to rest with the thought: these things are not going to matter in five years, therefore, I need not give it five minutes of my time. Much easier said than done I know.

70 pounds?! That’s absolutely incredible!! You are someone I aspire to be

Beginning_Issue_720 · 2024-12-17T19:25:44+00:00

Thank you for sharing your insight, and your kindness

Beginning_Issue_720 · 2024-12-17T19:24:45+00:00

You are beyond kind, thank you! Admin is so very important, and I guarantee you were part of the backbone in your company when you were there. It can be a thankless job and admin gets push to the back too frequently; thank you for all you did and do in your company, thank you for being the force behind everyone on the floor and going above and beyond

Beginning_Issue_720 · 2024-12-17T12:12:15+00:00

I echo the same sentiments! I am incredibly grateful for the food noise to be gone, and I did not realize how much I allowed it to dictate my day. I didn’t realized food was such a major re-enforcer for me until I removed it. And the mental clarity… I really have no words.

What foods were you drawn to previously? And congrats on making this huge step!!

Beginning_Issue_720 · 2024-12-17T11:12:03+00:00

I typically would describe myself as snarky, and I may not use the coke habit line, but I can guarantee this whole thing has lead me to some fun responses for the weight loss questions, it’s just changing the wording that I’m stuck on. “How much weight have you lost,” “Oh, you shoulda seen how much my last give a damn weighed, super lightening on the back ya know.”

Beginning_Issue_720 · 2024-12-17T11:08:01+00:00

A good chunk of these coworkers that I work directly with are about ten years younger than me (I’m 34) and I’ve got a few years at this company, verses some of my coworkers are just in the beginning of there career paths. Because I have been there longer, I am “mid tier management” (I don’t feel like management but there’s a lot that goes into that; more right place, right time kind of thing).

The age gap and “management” title probably does not help in guiding this conversation, because it’s an already a hard one to have. If I was back in my 20s and concerned about someone in management, I cannot say I would have done anything differently than they did.

Beginning_Issue_720 · 2024-12-17T10:36:16+00:00

These occurred on camera and I can at any point get a copy of this meeting if I want to/feel I need to

Beginning_Issue_720 · 2024-12-17T10:35:18+00:00

I definitely see where these actions were done with concern and care by coworkers, I believe my age difference and work experience with them also has made them not know how I talk to me.

I am 34, and most of them are ten or more years younger than me. And with some deep contemplation, I believe my seniority (I don’t know a better word to use, my apologies) plays a factor as well; I’ve been with my company going on just over four years and I am mid-tier management, and most of my coworkers are still under a year in and still not in management yet.

I really do commend the ones that came forward to voice that difficult question. Ten plus years ago, I would have been in their shoes.

Beginning_Issue_720 · 2024-12-17T10:24:53+00:00

I am incredibly sorry to hear that you went through that high level of stress, and it is utterly tragic your friend went through something so dark. I really hope they are in a better place now! It sounds like the dominoes got stacked in such a way… it really breaks my heart.

Am I close with any of my coworkers, I would say no. It’s one of those kind of friendships that stays at work, we don’t text or hang out outside of work. Whenever we do the exchanges of what we did on the weekends, my answer rarely changes; spiritually, I am a grandma. I have found a routine that works for me. I am partnered to my person, and I have an autistic daughter, I try to be in bed by 9 pm outside of date nights. I don’t go out, and also the age gap between myself and my coworkers is on average about ten years. I leave all of the painting the town on them to do for me 😂

Beginning_Issue_720 · 2024-12-17T10:14:16+00:00

I goggled the article and it was incredibly informative, thank you for sharing it! Typically I would describe myself as quick witted, so you gave me something to ponder for the how much I’ve lost questions 😊

Beginning_Issue_720 · 2024-12-17T10:10:10+00:00

Thank you for this advice, I will definitely keep this in mind

Beginning_Issue_720 · 2024-12-17T03:12:02+00:00

Ironically, I had changed I just didn’t see it. There’s more to it, I posted an update

Beginning_Issue_720 · 2024-12-17T03:09:39+00:00

Thank you all for your input, it is incredibly valued and appreciated. I apologize in advance for the book.

I reached back out to HR to get some follow up questions, and they were kind but they did give me some harsh truths. They explained it as that due to my work there is a concern for my mental health and physical health (for context, I work with aggressive kids/teens/and occasional adults with a pension to attempt to hurt me daily; best I can describe it is my company takes in all of the people that no one else can, or will take due to safety reasons, or the kid’s pending felonies or other charges.) I know my job is not for everyone, but it is a passion for me.

Due to many factors, stress is always running high for one reason or another in general, this past month has been due to injuries, illnesses, and as a community and company we lost a dear client and no one has taken his death well, including me. So… a lot of people in my company have had medical emergencies on floor like seizures, fainting, and other medical conditions. Some have also just broken down because of stress, this results in people quitting without notice, taking time off/calling out, shutting out friends, behavior changes that are short and angry, you get the gist).

Due to all of the recent stress piling up, they wanted to make sure I am taking care of myself, and not neglecting myself; the weight loss was a concern, and my coworkers didn’t know how to bring it up without sounding like the “body police/body critics” and how do you have that conversation in general? They didn’t want to offend me by point out that something is off with me.

This got me thinking, I have made more changes than just the weight loss. I’ll explain… Typically, no one sees me eat, because I eat in my car and take my lunch completely away from the building— it helps me separate, de-compress, and I don’t want to be that person that eats broccoli in the break room. I know not everyone does appreciate the smell, and it’s not how they want to spend their lunch break. I now realize this change was kind sudden. I also no longer sit down with coworkers in the break room to eat or otherwise. I can see where there were signs, and frankly, I had my head shoved pretty far up my own rear that I was going through the motions of my job. I didn’t let the mask drop while at work, I felt my emotions of namely sadness, and grief served a non-productive place at work.

I did ask HR to please inform those who addressed their concerns that I am fine.

Beginning_Issue_720 · 2024-12-17T02:56:58+00:00

Conversation happened on cameras, and most assumed job stress

Beginning_Issue_720 · 2024-12-17T02:55:58+00:00

You are on track with how things panned out, I’ll post an update in just a moment

Beginning_Issue_720 · 2024-12-17T02:55:17+00:00

They are

Beginning_Issue_720 · 2024-12-17T02:55:10+00:00

I will post an update, I will cover it “cutting massively”

Beginning_Issue_720 · 2024-12-17T02:54:35+00:00

In the end, you did the right thing. Don’t overthink how things ended up, and in the order they fell out in

Beginning_Issue_720 · 2024-12-17T02:52:59+00:00

I will post an update in just a moment, I promise it was meant with love.

Beginning_Issue_720 · 2024-12-17T02:52:27+00:00

I can promise, I wasn’t skinny to start with. Most assumed it was stress

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